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Is my Salvation gone? Sexual sin battle

Theprodigaldaughter

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Back in 2013 I was freed from sexual sins such as fornication and masturb*tion. But now that I’m looking back, I believe it was out of fear for my health. Initially, I felt a genuine change but after 2 years I would mess around with guys. It wasn’t u Until this year I broke my 5 year no sex commitment. I’ve slept with two men this year. I’ve been a Christian most of my life but sadly haven’t lived to how I should. I am so upset with my sin and I’m sick of being this way. I am ready to change and live for God first. Is it too late for me? I’ve asked for forgiveness again and again but don’t feel forgiven. Please help! I feel hopeless and so upset by the life I’ve lived. It breaks my heart. Will God ever forgive me? I’m afraid that I lost
 

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read 1 john 1:9 it is never to late never never
John 6:36-38 King James Version (KJV)
36 But I said unto you, That ye also have seen me, and believe not.

37 All that the Father giveth me shall come to me; and him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out.

38 For I came down from heaven, not to do mine own will, but the will of him that sent me.
1 John 2:1 King James Version (KJV)
2 My little children, these things write I unto you, that ye sin not. And if any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous:


the key words is go and sin no more-------
 

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Back in 2013 I was freed from sexual sins such as fornication and masturb*tion. But now that I’m looking back, I believe it was out of fear for my health. Initially, I felt a genuine change but after 2 years I would mess around with guys. It wasn’t u Until this year I broke my 5 year no sex commitment. I’ve slept with two men this year. I’ve been a Christian most of my life but sadly haven’t lived to how I should. I am so upset with my sin and I’m sick of being this way. I am ready to change and live for God first. Is it too late for me? I’ve asked for forgiveness again and again but don’t feel forgiven. Please help! I feel hopeless and so upset by the life I’ve lived. It breaks my heart. Will God ever forgive me? I’m afraid that I lost
salvation is a free gift from God to all of us who except it - none of us can earn salvation through our own good behavior - and neither can any of us lose salvation through bad behavior

there is a reason why some of us get trapped into sin and seemingly can't get out

God will help you get free from sin - just a He provided for you salvation

all good things come THROUGH God

1. when you sin run TO God not away from Him - you will not be able to get free from sin on your own - your spirit is willing but your flesh is weak - Jesus will help you in times of temptation and also during and after sin - Jesus came for the sick and the sinner - that's us - He started a good work in us and HE will finish it

2. DON'T be afraid of sin - fear makes you weak and vulnerable - HATE sin

3. DON'T hate yourself - God loves you ALL the time - HATE sin

4. draw near to God all the time - when you are doing good - when you are struggling - God loves you because HE is amazingly good - HIS love for us is unconditional - we need his love

5. forgive yourself because God forgives you - when you are devastated by sin use the pain and desperation to connect with God - confess your sins and receive God's forgiveness so that you can then lean on God and ask God how to get permanently free from this specific sin

6, God is probably the only One Who understands you fully and knows why you do the things you do - God is your counsellor and He will work with you to help you get healed of whatever causes you to sin so that you can be forever free - it's a process so keep leaning on God and asking Him to help you get free - Jesus said to forgive our brother if he sins against us 70x7 times a day - that's 490 times a day - i doubt you have ever sinned that many times a day - so know that God forgives you and will help you get free if you run TO Him every time you are tempted or fall into sin

7. don't give up - keep fighting BUT do it with God's help now - don't try to fight sin on your own - none of us are good enough to do that - hate sin - LOVE God - and keep fighting sin with God's help - God is with you - we are with you - we are praying for you - God will help you - cling to God - resist sin - and watch how God will help you because He loves you and knows why you are struggling with sin
 

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Sister, the only way it would have been too late is if Jesus wouldn't have died for you. I am so scared of sinning to the point I have seemed to come paranoid about it, but I have suddenly realized that isn't the way that God wants me to live my life. John 3:17.
 

Theprodigaldaughter

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salvation is a free gift from God to all of us who except it - none of us can earn salvation through our own good behavior - and neither can any of us lose salvation through bad behavior

there is a reason why some of us get trapped into sin and seemingly can't get out

God will help you get free from sin - just a He provided for you salvation

all good things come THROUGH God

1. when you sin run TO God not away from Him - you will not be able to get free from sin on your own - your spirit is willing but your flesh is weak - Jesus will help you in times of temptation and also during and after sin - Jesus came for the sick and the sinner - that's us - He started a good work in us and HE will finish it

2. DON'T be afraid of sin - fear makes you weak and vulnerable - HATE sin

3. DON'T hate yourself - God loves you ALL the time - HATE sin

4. draw near to God all the time - when you are doing good - when you are struggling - God loves you because HE is amazingly good - HIS love for us is unconditional - we need his love

5. forgive yourself because God forgives you - when you are devastated by sin use the pain and desperation to connect with God - confess your sins and receive God's forgiveness so that you can then lean on God and ask God how to get permanently free from this specific sin

6, God is probably the only One Who understands you fully and knows why you do the things you do - God is your counsellor and He will work with you to help you get healed of whatever causes you to sin so that you can be forever free - it's a process so keep leaning on God and asking Him to help you get free - Jesus said to forgive our brother if he sins against us 70x7 times a day - that's 490 times a day - i doubt you have ever sinned that many times a day - so know that God forgives you and will help you get free if you run TO Him every time you are tempted or fall into sin

7. don't give up - keep fighting BUT do it with God's help now - don't try to fight sin on your own - none of us are good enough to do that - hate sin - LOVE God - and keep fighting sin with God's help - God is with you - we are with you - we are praying for you - God will help you - cling to God - resist sin - and watch how God will help you because He loves you and knows why you are struggling with sin
excellent summary and I love the way you stated it. Thank you!


ROMANS 5:20
KJ21 Moreover the law entered, that the offense might abound. But where sin abounded, grace did much more abound,
Sister, the only way it would have been too late is if Jesus wouldn't have died for you. I am so scared of sinning to the point I have seemed to come paranoid about it, but I have suddenly realized that isn't the way that God wants me to live my life. John 3:17.

Thank you everyone for your encouragement and for the scriptures!
 

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excellent summary and I love the way you stated it. Thank you!

Thank you everyone for your encouragement and for the scriptures!
there are so many of us here that have been through all kinds of stuff - we have testimonies of how we clung to God and watched how He pulled us through - so there will always be someone here who understands what you are dealing with -

never worry about anyone who misunderstands or misjudges you - just keep hanging onto God and He will provide people who will stand with you through the things you struggle with - we are here for you dear one - let us know what you need and we will pray and try to help with God's help

God is so amazing - He keeps setting things up so we can grow and heal and get free

never worry about a setback - know that any set back can be nullified with God's help if you do not fear - just love God knowing His love for you never weakens - He created you and He loves you - He has plans for you - every mess is a stepping stone to seeing God's powerful love work things out in a good way for you - just keep loving God as He pulls you through to victory

it doesn't matter how many times we fall - just as long as we keep getting back up and leaning on God and asking Him to teach us what we need to know and heal us of the things that have hurt/wounded/confused us - it's a process and because God is doing the work in us we are guaranteed to win - the victory is ours - the battle is the Lord's

love God - receive His love - forgiveness - wisdom - healing - comfort - cleansing - guidance - peace - provision - instruction - He started the good work in you - He will finish it - thank God we don't have to fix ourselves or finish God's work - we just rest in His love and walk with Him through all the good and the bad so He can make all things good -

worship thank and praise God anyway you can - it will make you strong in God -

read scripture WITH God - ask Him what He means while you read scripture - let Him speak peace and truth to you - if what you read makes you afraid you have misunderstood scripture - if what you read in the bible makes you love God and desire Him more you have understood scripture correctly - read slowly and prayerfully - use scripture as an excuse to ask God questions and learn from Him what he wants to say to you - it will make you stable

have fun with God - He delights in you - enjoy the learning process - don't be afraid anymore - you are in school - it's like learning to ride a bike - you may fall down a lot but eventually God will teach you how to not fall down anymore - be patient with yourself - God will take all the time with you that you need to get free and strong in Him -

God always wanted you close to Him - problems are an excuse to get His help - victories are an excuse to rejoice and celebrate with Him - helping others is an excuse to get His wisdom and compassion for others - everything is about God - He is our Source of everything - we are very special to Him

God bless you dear one - praying for you
 

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it doesn't matter how many times we fall - just as long as we keep getting back up and leaning on God and asking Him to teach us what we need to know and heal us of the things that have hurt/wounded/confused us - it's a process and because God is doing the work in us we are guaranteed to win - the victory is ours - the battle is the Lord's
amen :agreed
 

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Back in 2013 I was freed from sexual sins such as fornication and masturb*tion. But now that I’m looking back, I believe it was out of fear for my health. Initially, I felt a genuine change but after 2 years I would mess around with guys. It wasn’t u Until this year I broke my 5 year no sex commitment. I’ve slept with two men this year. I’ve been a Christian most of my life but sadly haven’t lived to how I should. I am so upset with my sin and I’m sick of being this way. I am ready to change and live for God first. Is it too late for me? I’ve asked for forgiveness again and again but don’t feel forgiven. Please help! I feel hopeless and so upset by the life I’ve lived. It breaks my heart. Will God ever forgive me? I’m afraid that I lost
you dont feel forgiveness you accept it by faith
James 1

21 Therefore lay aside all filthiness and [d]overflow of wickedness, and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls.
the word cleans us up its like fuller soap. find some one you can have confidence in a mature christian woman . talk them often what your feeling. take it as counsel . that is what you need
 

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there are so many of us here that have been through all kinds of stuff - we have testimonies of how we clung to God and watched how He pulled us through - so there will always be someone here who understands what you are dealing with -

never worry about anyone who misunderstands or misjudges you - just keep hanging onto God and He will provide people who will stand with you through the things you struggle with - we are here for you dear one - let us know what you need and we will pray and try to help with God's help

God is so amazing - He keeps setting things up so we can grow and heal and get free

never worry about a setback - know that any set back can be nullified with God's help if you do not fear - just love God knowing His love for you never weakens - He created you and He loves you - He has plans for you - every mess is a stepping stone to seeing God's powerful love work things out in a good way for you - just keep loving God as He pulls you through to victory

it doesn't matter how many times we fall - just as long as we keep getting back up and leaning on God and asking Him to teach us what we need to know and heal us of the things that have hurt/wounded/confused us - it's a process and because God is doing the work in us we are guaranteed to win - the victory is ours - the battle is the Lord's

love God - receive His love - forgiveness - wisdom - healing - comfort - cleansing - guidance - peace - provision - instruction - He started the good work in you - He will finish it - thank God we don't have to fix ourselves or finish God's work - we just rest in His love and walk with Him through all the good and the bad so He can make all things good -

worship thank and praise God anyway you can - it will make you strong in God -

read scripture WITH God - ask Him what He means while you read scripture - let Him speak peace and truth to you - if what you read makes you afraid you have misunderstood scripture - if what you read in the bible makes you love God and desire Him more you have understood scripture correctly - read slowly and prayerfully - use scripture as an excuse to ask God questions and learn from Him what he wants to say to you - it will make you stable

have fun with God - He delights in you - enjoy the learning process - don't be afraid anymore - you are in school - it's like learning to ride a bike - you may fall down a lot but eventually God will teach you how to not fall down anymore - be patient with yourself - God will take all the time with you that you need to get free and strong in Him -

God always wanted you close to Him - problems are an excuse to get His help - victories are an excuse to rejoice and celebrate with Him - helping others is an excuse to get His wisdom and compassion for others - everything is about God - He is our Source of everything - we are very special to Him

God bless you dear one - praying for you
it’s nice having a group of people who understand the struggle. I appreciate you guys directing me instead of judging me. It’s truly amazing. I’ve never felt like the Christian communities that I’ve been involved with have stood by me but nor have I trusted them entirely. I appreciate the prayers. Asking for deliverance from this stronghold of sin that I’ve fallen back into. And that I grow closer to God.

Setbacks can be difficult. I think I set myself up for failure but I continually fail every time. So I’m already expecting or assuming the next fall. Sometimes it has made it hard to get back up because I’m fearful of the next time I fall.

I love the way you laid out everything and explained it so well. It all makes sense. I do need to make sure that when I read my Bible that pray before and that I’m not rushing. I need to take everything in. And yes, I need to see God as someone to have fun with instead of fear. I mean, it’s good to have a fear of God in the appropriate manner.

Thank you again for your reply and for all the time involved with it. I know it was a lengthy post but I truly appreciate it. I have gone back and re-read it several times. I will definitely heed your advice as well as the others that were given. Thank you for friend. God bless you always!


you dont feel forgiveness you accept it by faith
James 1

21 Therefore lay aside all filthiness and [d]overflow of wickedness, and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls.
the word cleans us up its like fuller soap. find some one you can have confidence in a mature christian woman . talk them often what your feeling. take it as counsel . that is what you need
that’s a good way to look at. Thank you ezra!
 

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it’s nice having a group of people who understand the struggle. I appreciate you guys directing me instead of judging me. It’s truly amazing. I’ve never felt like the Christian communities that I’ve been involved with have stood by me but nor have I trusted them entirely. I appreciate the prayers. Asking for deliverance from this stronghold of sin that I’ve fallen back into. And that I grow closer to God.
the nice thing about internet communities is that you are anonymous - that gives you the chance to change - you can also find a wider variety and greater number of people on the internet which helps you find at least one person who understands you - this particular site has been purposely moving in a wonderful direction as God has been inspiring StoveBolts - as per the new tos

in the name of Jesus praying for you as per your request - getting free from a sin stronghold and also growing closer to God

this specific stronghold probably is connected to the trauma you experienced as a child - you will most likely find that as you are healed from that trauma you will also get free from the stronghold - praying in Jesus' name for you to be healed and comforted from all that happened to you
Setbacks can be difficult. I think I set myself up for failure but I continually fail every time. So I’m already expecting or assuming the next fall. Sometimes it has made it hard to get back up because I’m fearful of the next time I fall.
with God's help try being an observer - the next time you fail/fall/go backwards/etc try pretending it happened to someone you love instead of you - ask God to help you pay attention to what happened just before the setback - ask God what happened to cause this - ask God what to do about this to either prevent a setback or to shorten the recovery time -

remember God loves you and has plans for you to heal and get strong - don't take it personal - we all fall - and there is always a reason/trigger if we can stay objective enough and prayerful enough to start to see a pattern - become a researcher

you have been failing for a long time and getting more traumatized by the successive failures so realize that taking a step back and trying to objectively observe the dynamics may take a little time/ a few failures - but when you start to see a pattern to what triggers the setback you will be able to better see God's solution on getting free

don't be afraid of the failure - try to look at the failure in a fully honest objective way - as though it is happening to someone else - that will give you the new chance to resist it in the future - use the pain/disappointment of the failure to be more aggressive in finding out HOW it gets triggered into happening
I love the way you laid out everything and explained it so well. It all makes sense. I do need to make sure that when I read my Bible that pray before and that I’m not rushing. I need to take everything in. And yes, I need to see God as someone to have fun with instead of fear. I mean, it’s good to have a fear of God in the appropriate manner.

Thank you again for your reply and for all the time involved with it. I know it was a lengthy post but I truly appreciate it. I have gone back and re-read it several times. I will definitely heed your advice as well as the others that were given. Thank you for friend. God bless you always!
we have been told that the only thing God cares about is us not sinning - the truth is God wants to heal us spirit soul body financially socially etc - it is the power of God's love that heals us - and then the by-product is that we get close to God and strong in Him - that is the ONLY way to be truly free from sin - as we fill up with God's love and healing sin loses all power over us -

so the real way out of sin is to resist it the best we can WHILE we receive God's healing/forgiveness/strength/love/wisdom - God's healing/forgiveness/love is actually what sets us free

all this goes easier when we do everything WITH God rather than for God - Jesus said apart from ME you can do nothing - Jesus also said I do nothing except what the Father shows ME - I say nothing but what the Father tells ME

paul said i do all things through Christ who strengthens me - reckon/think of yourself dead to sin - Christ in me is my only hope of glory/perfection - everything i do i do with God's energy that so powerfully works within me and energies me - i do not sin - it is sin that lives in me - i no longer live Christ lives in me -

basically all these scriptures are saying do not take it personally - think differently - think of how Christ and the Holy Spirit live in us - with God living in us we can choose to live by God's power inside us or our own power - we have 2 power sources available to us - our own power has severe limits - God living in us has unlimited power - many people fail because they don't realize that the Holy Spirit living inside us will empower us if we LEAN on HIM and let His power work through us and get things done - this is a learning process - take all the time you need to pray and learn how to let God's power do what you have been trying to do in your own power

praying for you to have a breakthrough in all the areas you need healing strength wisdom new life in Christ
 

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