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So I was just wondering that although I know that it is a horrible idea to try and meet somebody over the internet if it's done in the privacy of your own home, I was just wondering whether or not meeting somebody out in public when you're on vacation or something is an entirely different matter. Since there's cosplayer that I watch on YouTube and I really want to meet her at a convention or out at some public gathering. So I was just wondering what you guys thought.
 
It can be done, but you have to follow precautions. Meeting in public is safer than meeting in private, and other things such as make sure your family and/or friends know where you are and expect you back. Keep a cell phone on you in case of emergency.
 
I have met many people face to face that I originally met online. Made many friends that way. Spent vacations with them, and even married to one now.

But prudence is a keyword here.

I met them publicly after speaking with them on the phone for weeks.
(Before Skype)

And it works.

But most people are hiding something. Not many people are what they appear to be.
Some are ten to fifteen years older than their picture. Some have gained a mysterious 50 pounds that they "never noticed"...one lady even grew a hump in her back from osteoporosis...and failed to mention.
Many are desperately poor. Others not so much. Some have career skills and experience... others barely have some college or barely got through high school.
Some are homeless and others are guests of the state. (My wife wants a house and we can afford it but I want to put it off as long as I can)
They are all people...they have feelings and emotions and are loveable; but that doesn't mean that they should be joined to you on a permanent basis.
We all are unique. Meet ups are great. You would be fun to meet. Your energy level would be over the top. You on caffeine? WOW. I envision it would be awesomely fast paced.

Starbucks and other coffee houses are where traditional first meetings happen. Usually in a mall with lots of people. Church meetings (social events) have been used as well. I've invited people to picnics and bar b-que before in public parks with my Sunday School class. It ain't bad at all.

But always prudence first. It takes a lot of time to get to know someone. Ask yourself Do they really do as they say? Do they really have the same values as me? Obviously the attention is flattering but are the two of you going to be able to get along?

Glasses in the cabinet after coming out of the dishwasher should be upside down...but loe and behold my sweet little new wife put them upside right... how on Earth could she do this to me? I was truly frustrated.
And where it seems like a nothing issue... how it gets resolved is a really big deal. Can I live with someone who puts glasses in the cabinet upside right and probably won't change?

There is something worse than being miserable and alone. It's being miserable and having someone there to torment you constantly.

But I did make a lot of friends... from Washington/Oregon to Washington DC and even Australia and Singapore. Never met the ones out of country... except for Canada. But I've heard of success and horrible, miserable failures when dealing with those from out of country too.

Biggest thing is to not go beyond your comfort zone. Pay attention to the little clues as well as the big red flags.
 
I have met many people face to face that I originally met online. Made many friends that way. Spent vacations with them, and even married to one now.

But prudence is a keyword here.

I met them publicly after speaking with them on the phone for weeks.
(Before Skype)

And it works.

But most people are hiding something. Not many people are what they appear to be.
Some are ten to fifteen years older than their picture. Some have gained a mysterious 50 pounds that they "never noticed"...one lady even grew a hump in her back from osteoporosis...and failed to mention.
Many are desperately poor. Others not so much. Some have career skills and experience... others barely have some college or barely got through high school.
Some are homeless and others are guests of the state. (My wife wants a house and we can afford it but I want to put it off as long as I can)
They are all people...they have feelings and emotions and are loveable; but that doesn't mean that they should be joined to you on a permanent basis.
We all are unique. Meet ups are great. You would be fun to meet. Your energy level would be over the top. You on caffeine? WOW. I envision it would be awesomely fast paced.

Starbucks and other coffee houses are where traditional first meetings happen. Usually in a mall with lots of people. Church meetings (social events) have been used as well. I've invited people to picnics and bar b-que before in public parks with my Sunday School class. It ain't bad at all.

But always prudence first. It takes a lot of time to get to know someone. Ask yourself Do they really do as they say? Do they really have the same values as me? Obviously the attention is flattering but are the two of you going to be able to get along?

Glasses in the cabinet after coming out of the dishwasher should be upside down...but loe and behold my sweet little new wife put them upside right... how on Earth could she do this to me? I was truly frustrated.
And where it seems like a nothing issue... how it gets resolved is a really big deal. Can I live with someone who puts glasses in the cabinet upside right and probably won't change?

There is something worse than being miserable and alone. It's being miserable and having someone there to torment you constantly.

But I did make a lot of friends... from Washington/Oregon to Washington DC and even Australia and Singapore. Never met the ones out of country... except for Canada. But I've heard of success and horrible, miserable failures when dealing with those from out of country too.

Biggest thing is to not go beyond your comfort zone. Pay attention to the little clues as well as the big red flags.





That's a really interesting story but I'm sorry it really made me want to laugh when you started talking about the dishes. :lol Although I really shouldn't be talking because I'm very picky when it comes to what I eat off of, extremely squeamish when it comes to my eyes (even more so than needles) and I can't stand hair being around the rim of the bathtub so I have to wipe it up before and after every shower. :erm



Anyways, sorry for the delayed response but I was sick all last night and all morning and I'm finally starting to feel better now so I can show you how right you are about how hyper I can be. Here's a little demonstration of what happens when I'm high on sugar...…




 
That's a really interesting story but I'm sorry it really made me want to laugh when you started talking about the dishes. :lol Although I really shouldn't be talking because I'm very picky when it comes to what I eat off of, extremely squeamish when it comes to my eyes (even more so than needles) and I can't stand hair being around the rim of the bathtub so I have to wipe it up before and after every shower. :erm



Anyways, sorry for the delayed response but I was sick all last night and all morning and I'm finally starting to feel better now so I can show you how right you are about how hyper I can be. Here's a little demonstration of what happens when I'm high on sugar...…




I know that it's a humorous story...but it's also true.
It's the navigation of solutions for two people who have grown up differently trying to get along with each other that really matters.
Does one person always have to have things their way? Someone always has to win?
Can the other person say, "I'm sorry" and actually mean it? Can you? Even if you don't feel it?

Tough questions. Tougher than you think.
 
I know that it's a humorous story...but it's also true.
It's the navigation of solutions for two people who have grown up differently trying to get along with each other that really matters.
Does one person always have to have things their way? Someone always has to win?
Can the other person say, "I'm sorry" and actually mean it? Can you? Even if you don't feel it?

Tough questions. Tougher than you think.



True, point taken. :goodpost
 
Meeting someone at a con should be fine I think, assuming that's all you really plan on*. Though, keep in mind that meeting someone in person can give you a very different impression of them and can sort of break the magic that their online persona creates.

*Meeting online friends can be different, and might need more precautions since you want to have a friendship with the person. My best (online) friend and I have wanted to meet for years. We've done lots of audio calls and video calls, and sent each other packages, so we both trust each other and can be reasonably certain meeting in person would be safe.
 
Meeting someone at a con should be fine I think, assuming that's all you really plan on*. Though, keep in mind that meeting someone in person can give you a very different impression of them and can sort of break the magic that their online persona creates.

*Meeting online friends can be different, and might need more precautions since you want to have a friendship with the person. My best (online) friend and I have wanted to meet for years. We've done lots of audio calls and video calls, and sent each other packages, so we both trust each other and can be reasonably certain meeting in person would be safe.





Good point but I have seen this person on YouTube and watched many of her videos many times before. In fact her name is Iridescent Vampire and I follow her there. She's a pretty good Sakura cosplayer and I have pretty good idea of what she's like already. Btw, you don't happen to know any good Naruto cosplayers particularly in the state of Kansas do you? Cause she's currently looking for a Sasuke and a Naruto and we would really like somebody to play the part of one of my oc's that we're currently roleplaying with since the idea has been really tossed around.
 
Hey guys, some very sad and bad news. Unfortunately my mother has put her foot down and this person and I cannot meet until I'm out on my own. :sad
 
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