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Marrying a fellow Christian is only a step

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Marrying a fellow Christian is only a step.

I have heard some christians argue one of the ways to have a successful marrital life is: a christian should marry only a fellow christian. This sounds good...and the verse that comes to mind is: be not unequally yoked with unbelievers. Good.

And how about christians who married fellow christians (dedicated christians) yet thier marriage is a load of disorder?:biggrinunno :confused :shrug. Are there other factors to consider?

Dad and mom are living happily today. They married when they were still unbelievers. However they are christians today. How were they able to take the right step???

1. A christian can't marry an unbeliever
2. An unbeliever must marry an unbeliever!

How true???


Thanks
 
To further clarify the OP, I mean, agreeing to marry only a fellow christian is one of the ways to succeed or have a happy and Godly family
 
I don't think being equally yoked is a step. I think it is foundational. The foundation is on Jesus Christ.

2 Corinthians 6

<sup class="versenum">14 </sup>Do not be yoked together<sup class="crossreference" value='(X)'></sup> with unbelievers.<sup class="crossreference" value='(Y)'></sup> For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?<sup class="crossreference" value='(Z)'></sup> <sup class="versenum">15 </sup>What harmony is there between Christ and Belial<sup class="footnote" value='[b]'></sup>?<sup class="crossreference" value='(AA)'></sup> Or what does a believer<sup class="crossreference" value='(AB)'></sup> have in common with an unbeliever?<sup class="crossreference" value='(AC)'></sup> <sup class="versenum">16 </sup>What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols?<sup class="crossreference" value='(AD)'></sup> For we are the temple<sup class="crossreference" value='(AE)'></sup> of the living God.<sup class="crossreference" value='(AF)'></sup> As God has said:

“I will live with them
and walk among them,
and I will be their God,
and they will be my people.”<sup class="footnote" value='[c]'></sup><sup class="crossreference" value='(AG)'></sup>


<sup class="versenum">17 </sup>Therefore,
“Come out from them<sup class="crossreference" value='(AH)'></sup>
and be separate,
says the Lord.
Touch no unclean thing,
and I will receive you.”<sup class="footnote" value='[d]'></sup><sup class="crossreference" value='(AI)'></sup>


<sup class="versenum">18 </sup>And,
“I will be a Father to you,
and you will be my sons and daughters,<sup class="crossreference" value='(AJ)'></sup>
says the Lord Almighty.”<sup class="footnote" value='[e]'></sup><sup class="crossreference" value='(AK)'></sup>
 
Marrying a fellow Christian is only a step.

I have heard some christians argue one of the ways to have a successful marrital life is: a christian should marry only a fellow christian. This sounds good...and the verse that comes to mind is: be not unequally yoked with unbelievers. Good.

And how about christians who married fellow christians (dedicated christians) yet thier marriage is a load of disorder?:biggrinunno :confused :shrug. Are there other factors to consider?

Dad and mom are living happily today. They married when they were still unbelievers. However they are christians today. How were they able to take the right step???

1. A christian can't marry an unbeliever
2. An unbeliever must marry an unbeliever!

How true???


Thanks

I once posted an article on this site about divorce and the church. From the statistics it showed that the church was just like those outside the church with divorce rates around half. However, if you break the statistics down further and show how often the church attenders go, those that go weekly had their divorce rates chopped by more than half. Interestingly, those that went about every month or every other week but not every week were comparible to those who did not attend church at all.

For me this is an indication of commitment. Those who are committed to Christ will be committed to their marriage by in large.
 
I once posted an article on this site about divorce and the church. From the statistics it showed that the church was just like those outside the church with divorce rates around half. However, if you break the statistics down further and show how often the church attenders go, those that go weekly had their divorce rates chopped by more than half. Interestingly, those that went about every month or every other week but not every week were comparible to those who did not attend church at all.

For me this is an indication of commitment. Those who are committed to Christ will be committed to their marriage by in large.

I remember reading a study that showed that couples who had private devotions together or just prayed together almost never divorced. Keeping Christ in the center of marriage is definately key.
 
God wants Christians to marry Christians. However an unbeliever is saved by Jesus through their believing spouse. God's plan is not to put couples through life together and let the saved spouse lose the other spouse. You shouldn't give up on converting them but God is a kind God.
 
Putting aside what you or what your God claims you have to do; as I have no authority whatsoever on the matter, in any relationship with opposing or one-sided theologies, there will always arise conflict, more often than not out of a position of love, not disagreement. As a believing Christian, one is certain that any and all people of different faiths are wrong, and are subject to the justice that God has promised. If two people, of two different faiths, are in a relationship together, each of those people is 100% certain that the other is wrong, and if they cannot convince them otherwise, then their God will punish that person they love so much. Relationships can have disagreements, but as far as faith is concerned there is no disagreement, there is only 1 right answer.
 
Putting aside what you or what your God claims you have to do; as I have no authority whatsoever on the matter, in any relationship with opposing or one-sided theologies, there will always arise conflict, more often than not out of a position of love, not disagreement. As a believing Christian, one is certain that any and all people of different faiths are wrong, and are subject to the justice that God has promised. If two people, of two different faiths, are in a relationship together, each of those people is 100% certain that the other is wrong, and if they cannot convince them otherwise, then their God will punish that person they love so much. Relationships can have disagreements, but as far as faith is concerned there is no disagreement, there is only 1 right answer.

It sounds like you are convinced the God of the Bible is a harsh and unmerciful God. Do you think that God would say a person is justified by their believing spouse so he could punish that person? That's crazy. God wants everyone to choose life. Is it a big deal that they choose not to love and accept Jesus... of course. That person is going to be in heaven with Jesus during his reign on earth and then be a a new heaven and be with God forever. You are focused on the punishment? I pray you will know God's love.
 
It sounds like you are convinced the God of the Bible is a harsh and unmerciful God. Do you think that God would say a person is justified by their believing spouse so he could punish that person? That's crazy. God wants everyone to choose life. Is it a big deal that they choose not to love and accept Jesus... of course. That person is going to be in heaven with Jesus during his reign on earth and then be a a new heaven and be with God forever. You are focused on the punishment? I pray you will know God's love.

I apologise, but you misunderstood my statement (due to my own terrible wording, I'm sure). I make no assumption on what God is like, I don't believe one exists, and therefore make no association with God with being merciful or unmerciful. My point was that regardless of what biblical text says on the matter, it makes sense that couples who come together in mutual faith suffer less than couples from different faiths.

I have no doubt that the God you believe in and worship is a merciful one who judges all fairly, but this doesn't change the fact that those who do not believe in Him will be sent to Hell, and I'm sure you are completely certain that this is the case. If you were in a relationship with a Muslim woman, you would know that this woman you loved was going to end up in hell unless she accepted Jesus Christ (a point I'm sure you agree with), this Muslim woman would know that you were going to end up in Jahannam unless you took up the Teaching of Islam. I make no assertion of the nature of God, but merely point out that even from an atheistic or agnostic standpoint, it makes sense for Christians to pair with Christians, Muslims to pair with Muslims, etc.
 
I apologize if I came across as sounding offended. I was just concerned for you...You seem very smart but you have missed what I said two times...I said that if one christian marries another faith even the unbeliever gets life and not hell. They are justified by their spouse...I think you should question what it is spiritually that kept you from seeing what I plainly said...Praying for you.
 
I apologize if I came across as sounding offended. I was just concerned for you...You seem very smart but you have missed what I said two times...I said that if one christian marries another faith even the unbeliever gets life and not hell. They are justified by their spouse...I think you should question what it is spiritually that kept you from seeing what I plainly said...Praying for you.


Thank you for your concern!

To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? 1 Corinthians 7: 12-16


At least this is corroborated with scripture (sort of)!

But this says nothing of couples from different faiths coming together, it speaks about a couple in which one participant has converted after they have come together. Does this extend to those couples as well? If this is the case, I would argue that a believing Christians should exclusively seek a relationship with a non-believer in an attempt to save them.
 
Do you think a Greatly merciful God would completely spell out the depth of His mercy if He wanted us all to live godly lives?
 
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Do you think a Greatly merciful God would completely spell out the depth of His mercy if he wanted us all to live Godly lives?

I would think a greatly merciful God would be just that, and we would all be saved. But, as previously stated, I make no assumptions on the nature of God. If such a being existed, how could any man say with any conviction that he truly understands his nature?
 
Why do you think not everyone is going to be saved? Do you know Jesus is coming to reign on Earth for a thousand years? As for knowing God we have the Bible...and Christians have God living inside them.
 
Why do you think not everyone is going to be saved? Do you know Jesus is coming to reign on Earth for a thousand years? As for knowing God we have the Bible...and Christians have God living inside them.

This time you have missed what I have said. "I make no assumptions on the nature of God". You have the bible, which you believe not because of proofs, but because of faith, and to be honest that's great. I imagine because of it, you're a very happy, and very satisfied human being, and I see nothing wrong with that :) , but the bible was written by man, not by God, and it's only claim to be the word of God is within its own writings, written by men.
 
I think you are a very compassionate person. You are here on a Christian site not to bring down the faith by your feelings but to be in fellowship. It sounds like some of your ideas about our God cause your soul to wince...I am actually happy in a great suffering I am going through to be of service to God and eventually be with the love of my life...You seem to see the need for faith to be Christian. Search your soul and ask if these ideas that a loving God would eternally kill his creation and that a spouse that doesn't believe will lose their mate are causing you to not accept Jesus. You should take a look at my avatar that is God.
 
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I think you are a very compassionate person. You are here on a Christian site not to bring down the faith by your feelings but to be in fellowship. It sounds like some of your ideas about our God cause your soul to wince...I am actually happy in a great suffering I am going through to be of service to God and eventually be with the love of my life...You seem to see the need for faith to be Christian. Search your soul and ask if these ideas that a loving God would eternally kill his creation and that a spouse that doesn't believe will lose their mate are causing you to not accept Jesus. You should take a look at my avatar that is God.

My ideas about God are not why I don't believe in Him. I don't believe in Him because there is no proof of his existence, and as far as I can tell the world seems to work just fine without him, without proof, surely all one could have would be faith? Or perhaps God has proven himself to you in a way that wouldn't qualify as proof to myself, or in a way He hasn't tried with me, either way, the way I see the world doesn't require a God; it's all chemistry and mechanics. I would love for the God you speak of to be real, he sounds perfect; perfect in a way that stretches and distorts the world to proportions that to me, sound like they've been attributed to Him by a man trying to make a God fill all the gaps he does not understand. However, I concede that perhaps I am wrong, and you are right, I could never truly rule that out as a possibility (due to the nature of your God being anything), however I don't get to choose what I believe. I don't believe what I want to believe. I believe what happens to make sense to me, as I'm sure is the same for you :)
 
I was like you once not with science but with testing other spiritual ideas. To me the world obviously had a spiritual component but I would not look to the Bible to understand. To you the world has to make sense through science. I realized I always believed but I just didn't want to deal with it because I was ashamed of things I did. Jesus changed my life and gave me hope that God was that good. Better than I have even talked about with you. I want to be with Jesus and I want to be with Him in heaven when I die.
 
Two become one as no one walks behind the other in a marriage, but they walk as one. If you keep Jesus in the center of all areas of your marriage in and outside the home then you will have a marriaged blessed of God.
 
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