Public Humiliation

[HeIsRisen2018]

Do you find it to be a fair punishment? I actually do as I think it's a lot better than winding up behind bars and if children experience this then chances are that they probably won't do it again and they should be embarrassed about it as well.

 

[Luminous_Rose]

I don't think public shaming your child on a street corner with a sign is exactly great. It mentions a psychologist that is opposed to this, but there are other psychologists that use forms of shaming (like putting an overweight girl into a small one piece or bikini to go to the public swimming pool to encourage her to lose weight). I'm not a fan of the tactic, but "a good talk", might not be the remedy, either.

An example I can get on board with would be: A student acts up and keeps giving their teacher trouble, and the parent says if they keep acting up they will come to school with them if they keep it up - teenagers are more than likely to be humiliated of mommy dearest coming to high school to hold their hand and join in on their conversations with their friends. Nothing wrong with that and they were given the heads up.


I would think for teenagers that suspending privileges would be sufficient. I didn't like having having outings with friends canceled, the computer taken away, or video games being suspended - it was a good motivator to behave myself. If everything is taken away and the teenager has nothing left to lose and is still pressing the issue then there needs to be a step up - maybe have them volunteer in a soup kitchen or to use time to help others in some way (kind of like a community service if you will). There are programs to allow teenagers to view juvenile detention centers and prisons to see what kind of place they could wind up in if they misbehave themselves. I remember in school touring a juvenile detention center and an adult prison, they aren't exactly fun field trips, but they do get a point across.

 

[Tertul]

Humiliation is practical and essentially free and can be tacked on to any punishment.

 

[JohnDB]

Humiliation isn't a good idea...it's actually a form of abuse.
It's one of those things that never goes away.

It's a label that people remember for a very long time. Tonya Harding, Monika Lewinsky, and Steven Hatfill all have a label attached to their names...one of those in the above list is absolutely innocent...but people don't think so.
They are forever remembered as being guilty of something. Do they deserve this life long punishment?
What if something you did was broadcast on every news outlet? Where could you go to get away from something that doesn't really define who you are? What if it did but you have since changed? Too bad you have already been type cast as being a person associated with this task.

It's public humiliation...it isn't ok. It lasts a lifetime. Forgive and forget is the Christian thing to do.

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

Humiliation isn't a good idea...it's actually a form of abuse.
It's one of those things that never goes away.

It's a label that people remember for a very long time. Tonya Harding, Monika Lewinsky, and Steven Hatfill all have a label attached to their names...one of those in the above list is absolutely innocent...but people don't think so.
They are forever remembered as being guilty of something. Do they deserve this life long punishment?
What if something you did was broadcast on every news outlet? Where could you go to get away from something that doesn't really define who you are? What if it did but you have since changed? Too bad you have already been type cast as being a person associated with this task.

It's public humiliation...it isn't ok. It lasts a lifetime. Forgive and forget is the Christian thing to do.

Punishing your child doesn't mean that you don't forgive them or love them any less though and I already know that you know this.


I just think that a little embarrassment doesn't hurt anybody. It gets them thinking that lying or stealing or whatever should be something to be embarrassed about and it's better than jail when it comes to doing something that's against the law. That's all I'm saying.

 

[JohnDB]

Punishing your child doesn't mean that you don't forgive them or love them any less though and I already know that you know this.


I just think that a little embarrassment doesn't hurt anybody. It gets them thinking that lying or stealing or whatever should be something to be embarrassed about and it's better than jail when it comes to doing something that's against the law. That's all I'm saying.

The Nathaniel Hawthorne book "The Scarlett Letter" was all about public humiliation and guilt.
And being set free from such.

Even though pet shaming is popular and cute...it's not acceptable when it comes to people. I know that police and media love their "perp walk" with handcuffs and/or mugshots.
It doesn't make it OK.

If I was 8 years old and had wet the bed in my sleep...I would have died of embarrassment if I was publicly humiliated over the news.
At that age it might have followed me to the teenage years. The humiliation can devastate a person's self esteem. Not good!

It's not embarrassment to have parents that love you... even if the child thinks so. That's because they are children and don't really understand things yet.
Huge difference between truly humiliating and imagined embarrassing moments.

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

If I was 8 years old and had wet the bed in my sleep...I would have died of embarrassment if I was publicly humiliated over the news.

That's not the kind of public humiliation that this is referring to.

 

[Prycejosh1987]

Do you find it to be a fair punishment? I actually do as I think it's a lot better than winding up behind bars and if children experience this then chances are that they probably won't do it again and they should be embarrassed about it as well.

Emotional abuse is much worse than physical, they both harm the body but emotional abuse goes deeper, the physical affects the body, but the emotional goes into the soul.