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Should the Bible give clearer instructions on how to find a spouse?

Boaz

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The boy, of course!

The girl might be gullible and might make a mistake,,,,
but why should the boy take advantage of her?

When I was growing up...the girl was always blamed for anything that happened. I agree that she is the one to suffer the consequences and thus should be smart with her life....but men have to take part in the responsibility too.
I kind of got that vibe still going on from the original post (the one we are talking about.) And why is the girl considered gullible when the guy is really good with his lies? Girls as they are growing up should be taught to be strong, independent and set goals. Some how. And if all of society would stop setting the highest aim as "not being lone." It would help. Sorry. Off topic.
 

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I kind of got that vibe still going on from the original post (the one we are talking about.) And why is the girl considered gullible when the guy is really good with his lies? Girls as they are growing up should be taught to be strong, independent and set goals. Some how. And if all of society would stop setting the highest aim as "not being lone." It would help. Sorry. Off topic.
Agreed.
No,,,this fits into the thread.
The question is why the bible doesn't give more specific instructions on how to find a spouse.

It was unheard of when I was 18 that two persons would live together sans marriage. Today it not only is accepted, some of my friends tell their kids it should be done !

It has been studied and found that couples that live together before marriage are more likely to get divorced. Can't remember the statistics, but it's probably online.

Why do you think this is so?
I think there are specific reasons.
 

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Agreed.
No,,,this fits into the thread.
The question is why the bible doesn't give more specific instructions on how to find a spouse.

It was unheard of when I was 18 that two persons would live together sans marriage. Today it not only is accepted, some of my friends tell their kids it should be done !

It has been studied and found that couples that live together before marriage are more likely to get divorced. Can't remember the statistics, but it's probably online.

Why do you think this is so?
I think there are specific reasons.
Probably mainly a lot of damage is done during the live in situation that comes back to bite them. We know from the Bible that it is contrary to God's design for the family and since He is perfect there is bound to be damage. The couple's who decide to have trial live togethers are doing it for all the wrong reasons with no knowledge appreciation or respect for the institute marriage..
I am looking forward to your thoughts.
 

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Probably mainly a lot of damage is done during the live in situation that comes back to bite them. We know from the Bible that it is contrary to God's design for the family and since He is perfect there is bound to be damage. The couple's who decide to have trial live togethers are doing it for all the wrong reasons with no knowledge appreciation or respect for the institute marriage..
I am looking forward to your thoughts.
Agreed.
But there's so much more....

What about the idea that by the time they get married all the excitement is gone out of the relationship...thus not making marriage something to look forward to for all the right reasons. Sharing everything, for one: Problems, shopping, making big decisions, creating a home, doctor's visits, etc. Not to mention sleeping together in the same bed every night! Cuddle, cuddle.

How about the idea that, as you touched on, persons that are willing to live together have a lower standard for both morality and marriage. Marriage apparently means very little to them if they can "play house" before getting married.

And the last reason I can think of is that a trial period doesn't WORK. Are they able to do a trial run on EVERYTHING that can happen in life? No. I don't think so. Who knows what life will bring...happiness, pain.

It seems there's some misunderstanding as to what forever means...It means going through life together, no matter what.
This is a commitment more than anything else.

When it's understood as a commitment, more effort will be made to keep the marriage happy for both parties, knowing that "forever" is a long time.

This cannot happen in a trial situation.

There must be other reasons, I like your explanation of how it's of God. Maybe society doesn't know God anymore....
 

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In my opinion sometimes it is the case.
Hey Who Me...
This happens in London too?
UFFA.
Whatsa matta with guys?

I think this happens in Italy too.
It might be a world-wide phenomena!
 

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Hey Who Me...
This happens in London too?
UFFA.
Whatsa matta with guys?

I think this happens in Italy too.
It might be a world-wide phenomena!
Guys are sex lead, offer them sex they will take it.
Girls while they enjoy sex are more child/baby lead and have been lied to by society/media, to think if they offer sex a guy will marry them, at some point.

The truth is guys are more likely to marry them if sex is denied.
 

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Guys are sex lead, offer them sex they will take it.
Girls while they enjoy sex are more child/baby lead and have been lied to by society/media, to think if they offer sex a guy will marry them, at some point.

The truth is guys are more likely to marry them if sex is denied.
I was kidding around on the other post, of course.
But, seriously, I couldn't agree with you more!
A survey was done and it was found that couples that "try" living together before marriage are more likely to get divorced.

And, yes, I believe women have been lied to on many fronts.
One would be that working is more satisfying than raising a family.
So now they have to work AND raise a family since men are not set up for this ... although there is always the exception and some can raise a family better than the wife.

The devil is a liar, and his lies are ruining our society.
 

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