Singleness

[Atonement]

Well everyone again thank you for the support and the kind replies. I'm just taking it day by day as I usually do. I'm a truck driver (not OTR) so I'm home every night, but where I work there are no women, and the only women I do see... Well let's just say... They are not dating material (if you know what I mean).
I am involved at my Church and in small groups (read my original post), and I have been setup on date(s) but it just wasn't a match. I know that God will bring someone to me when His time is right.

I'm usually very out going, I'm confident in myself to the point where I have in the past been called a player a time or two (not really sure how that works because I have an outgoing personality); but none the less -

Let me tell you how it's been going..

I was talking to this gorgeous women this past Sunday, we talked before around the Church bookstore so I approached her again and we talked for about an hour before Church began, but it wasn't until towards the end of our conversation that she brought up the fact that she wants to get married and was really hoping that her boyfriend would purpose to her for the holidays, right after that.. Guess who showed up? Yep.. Her lucky fellow - Doh.. (palm in face)

God has a sense of humor

 

[Knotical]

Well everyone again thank you for the support and the kind replies. I'm just taking it day by day as I usually do. I'm a truck driver (not OTR) so I'm home every night, but where I work there are no women, and the only women I do see... Well let's just say... They are not dating material (if you know what I mean).
I am involved at my Church and in small groups (read my original post), and I have been setup on date(s) but it just wasn't a match. I know that God will bring someone to me when His time is right.

I'm usually very out going, I'm confident in myself to the point where I have in the past been called a player a time or two (not really sure how that works because I have an outgoing personality); but none the less -

Let me tell you how it's been going..

I was talking to this gorgeous women this past Sunday, we talked before around the Church bookstore so I approached her again and we talked for about an hour before Church began, but it wasn't until towards the end of our conversation that she brought up the fact that she wants to get married and was really hoping that her boyfriend would purpose to her for the holidays, right after that.. Guess who showed up? Yep.. Her lucky fellow - Doh.. (palm in face)

God has a sense of humor

Did you ask if she has a twin sister?

 

[stovebolts]

Well Atonement, you have to give her credit. The gal has tact :toofunny

Just wanted to add that truck driving can be a respectable trade. My Dad was a retired Teamster and I drove OTR for about 11 years. I also ran local frieght and I hauled grain for a few years which put me home every day.

Nick,
This one's for you lol

 

[Atonement]

Did you ask if she has a twin sister?

I didn't even think about that.. I was more disappointed at that moment

 

[Atonement]

Well Atonement, you have to give her credit. The gal has tact :toofunny

Just wanted to add that truck driving can be a respectable trade. My Dad was a retired Teamster and I drove OTR for about 11 years. I also ran local frieght and I hauled grain for a few years which put me home every day.

StoveBolts -

I did OTR for a few years myself. I live in Houston, TX and now I only drive to Dallas, TX Mon-Thur and Fridays I drive to San Antonio, TX. I haul air freight from one airport terminal to another (mainly oil pipe lines, and HUGE drills bits) but I also haul 53' box of whatever they can fit on a plane.. Two weeks ago I picked up not one but two Lamborghini Sesto Elemento, AWESOME!! They cost $2.2 million. This guy bought two right off the stock room floor. Both cars had less than 10 miles on the gauge. It's powered by a 570 horsepower V10 engine; accelerating from zero to sixty in less than 2.6 seconds. He bought them over seas, they are not even out for sale yet.. I wanted to know who bought these (my guess was some movie producer or something)

Both cars looked just like this

SORRY SORRY totopic

She did have tact lol.. I will have to try harder next time

 

[stovebolts]

Forget the gal, I'll take the car! :toofunny


I worked for Bayliner for awhile and hauled a 32 foot Yacht from Arlington Wa. to knowhere wyoming... Guy lived in Denver but was able to get a better deal in Wyoming even after having to pay for transport back to Denver. Hey, I didn't even know they had a big enough pond around Denver for a 32 foot Yacht! Anyway, I had to pick up a cashiers check for like $150,000. At the time it boggled my mind!

When I worked for Martin Transport my main route was Portland Or to Chicago to Dallas to Racine Wi to Los Angeles or San Francisco. If I went to SF, I'd head back to L.A., then back to Portland and do the loop all over again. Of course it varied on occasion, but it was pretty steady.

Funnest job I ever had was driving an old KW cab over with a 335 Cummins punched out and a 13 speed with 520 rear end. I got paid by the pound and although I was only legal for 101,000 (I had a 40 and a 20) I was always running around 106-8. During harvest time I'd run 118 -121. Used to make about $1,500 bring home a week doing harvest... but man you worked for it!

During off time I'd haul flatbed with the old KW and one time running lumber out of Potlatch (Lewiston Id) to Chicago, I took 2 lane across what is known as Lolo pass which is steeper than a 6% grade. Now, they loaded you on a scale right to 80,000. Anyway, a guy ahead of me stopped in the middle of the hill because there were moose standing in the middle of the road and he couldn't get going again and the State Patrol didn't know what to do.... So.... I asked if I could get him started. Nobody thought I could do it.

I pulled up in front of him and hooked up a chain, put my ole gal in Low and got us moving. That's 160,000 pounds from a dead stop on a hill. Man, I loved that truck! The 520 gears made up for the wee little 335... but I'd eat 400's and kitty cats on the hills lol

P.S. I've still got an HR 2510 and an Icon base station with a PDL 2 and a 2 kw foot warmer

 

[Aardverk]

............ Both cars looked just like this ............

I'm not really into sports cars any more but - WOW!

 

[Fembot]

Those are lovely cars. But for much less money, there's the Tesla Model S. 100% emission free, electric and goes from 0 to 60 in 5.6 seconds. The best part is that you won't have to pay for gas and there's no need to abuse the earths natural resources.


http://www.teslamotors.com/models/gallery#12

 

[elijah23]

This is what Paul had to say on the topic of whether or not a person should marry:

[36] If any one thinks that he is not behaving properly toward his betrothed, if his passions are strong, and it has to be, let him do as he wishes: let them marry -- it is no sin.
[37] But whoever is firmly established in his heart, being under no necessity but having his desire under control, and has determined this in his heart, to keep her as his betrothed, he will do well.
[38] So that he who marries his betrothed does well; and he who refrains from marriage will do better. 1 Cor 7:36-38 RSV

 

[elijah23]

In other words, if you are under control of your desire, it is better to remain single than it is to get married, I think.

 

[Claudya]

In other words, if you are under control of your desire, it is better to remain single than it is to get married, I think.

I guess he's right. So many problems we DON'T have while we are singles.

 

[Fembot]

I guess he's right. So many problems we DON'T have while we are singles.

I beg to differ. Being married, for most people, brings stability. We are told to be fruitful and multiply which should only be done after marrying. Married people have a partner to help with life's challenges and a family to take care of them in old age etc. God created a "help mate" not a "hurt mate."

 

[stovebolts]

I beg to differ. Being married, for most people, brings stability. We are told to be fruitful and multiply which should only be done after marrying. Married people have a partner to help with life's challenges and a family to take care of them in old age etc. God created a "help mate" not a "hurt mate."

 

[elijah23]

I guess he's right. So many problems we DON'T have while we are singles.

I used to want to get married, but now I don't.

 

[elijah23]

I beg to differ. Being married, for most people, brings stability. We are told to be fruitful and multiply which should only be done after marrying. Married people have a partner to help with life's challenges and a family to take care of them in old age etc. God created a "help mate" not a "hurt mate."

There is nothing wrong with marriage, but I think that Paul was right when he said:

[36] If any one thinks that he is not behaving properly toward his betrothed, if his passions are strong, and it has to be, let him do as he wishes: let them marry -- it is no sin.
[37] But whoever is firmly established in his heart, being under no necessity but having his desire under control, and has determined this in his heart, to keep her as his betrothed, he will do well.
[38] So that he who marries his betrothed does well; and he who refrains from marriage will do better. 1 Cor 7:36:38 RSV

I have never married and I’d rather not get married. Being single is a beautiful experience.

 

[elijah23]

There's nothing wrong with marriage. Paul simply said that if you are in control of your passion, you "will do better" to remain unmarried. I am single. It's a beautiful experience. I am sure you are happy being married.

 

[Claudya]

I beg to differ. Being married, for most people, brings stability. We are told to be fruitful and multiply which should only be done after marrying. Married people have a partner to help with life's challenges and a family to take care of them in old age etc. God created a "help mate" not a "hurt mate."

You know, that green smilie at the end of my posting was intended to say that I wasn't entirely serious....

However, I really think that singleness, be it by choice or by fate, is a dignified way of life no less than being married.
Jesus put His mission statement like that:

I came so that they could have life—indeed, so that they could live life to the fullest. John 10:10

We can have life to the fullest. Regardless of whether we are married or single. Jesus never said living life to the fullest (or salvation or eternal life or anything else He is offering us) is only for married people.
So I refuse to feel incomplete or to spent my time in a waiting position.
Wait for something that may or may not happen -vs - live life to the fullest, here and now at the point where I am .... hmmmm difficult decision .
In my opinion that's what ministry for singles should be all about - how we can have the awesome fulfilled life God wants for us even while we do not (yet) have a partner - instead of the all the matchmaking or the How-do-I-find-the-right-christian-guy/girl stuff that single ministry way too often is about.