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HeIsRisen2018

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Come gimme a hug!



Don't worry, I will eventually remember? I promised you that someday whether in this life or the next that I would give you a hug, and I never break a promise. :) So with that a bunch of Christan love, support, and virtual hugs headed your way. Incoming! :hug
 

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Hmmmm. JohnDB is looking shocked.

Hey,,,Christians like gifts too!

I hug persons after too.
Birds of a feather,
flock together.


Hey, I bet Jesus Himself liked getting presents every once in awhile. :biggrin2


Oh I get it...
You just want me to bring flowers for the day we meet.

No,.. I just don't want to get into trouble for breaking the TOS,.. but,.. if you promise that this will stay our secret,.. I really have to fart right now. :lol
 

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Hey, I bet Jesus Himself liked getting presents every once in awhile. :biggrin2
Jesus got some really nice gifts.
I do believe that His family lived in Egypt using the money from the nice gifts He got when He was born.

This occurred to me a few years ago...
I don't state it as fact.
 

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Jesus got some really nice gifts.
I do believe that His family lived in Egypt using the money from the nice gifts He got when He was born.

This occurred to me a few years ago...
I don't state it as fact.



Yeah I remember reading that. Getting presents isn't what Christmas is about but it's still nice. However, I personally prefer giving over receiving. :)
 

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Yeah I remember reading that. Getting presents isn't what Christmas is about but it's still nice. However, I personally prefer giving over receiving. :)
You want to know the truth?
It's nice to give gifts to the immediate family, but it causes stress for me.
Same ole' gifts, I never know what to buy unless it's my daughter or someone really close that you can know what they want/need.

I like Thanksgiving a lot due to the non-stress.
Nice turkey dinner;
no gifts to think about.

I understand why we give gifts at Christmas time,,,
but I wish we didn't have this tradition.


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The problem in showing emotion with hugs, often does not express the true nature of the relationship or how the person actually is.

I was in a lift in an office building with a young woman. The building was tall 35 floors.
Part way up the lift stopped. A woman got in. She knew the other lady, and started to talk. They embraced, talked about catching up, how it was great to see each other.

This lady then left. The young woman turned to me and told me this company was terrible, two faced, hypocritical and should be avoided at all costs.

So many realise what is shown as a display of affection can also be a front which is not true. In my own family, none of the members knew how to show affection or receive it and often got confused, and would simply withdraw and not trust or dare to show true affection.

Equally showing true appreciation of others, in the desert of conflict and defence, so some is literally overwhelming. But it is this we are to show, our hearts shinning as a light of hope and acceptance in the world of hurt and sin, where so much is just show and so little is true and reliable. God bless you
 

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The problem in showing emotion with hugs, often does not express the true nature of the relationship or how the person actually is.

I was in a lift in an office building with a young woman. The building was tall 35 floors.
Part way up the lift stopped. A woman got in. She knew the other lady, and started to talk. They embraced, talked about catching up, how it was great to see each other.

This lady then left. The young woman turned to me and told me this company was terrible, two faced, hypocritical and should be avoided at all costs.

So many realise what is shown as a display of affection can also be a front which is not true. In my own family, none of the members knew how to show affection or receive it and often got confused, and would simply withdraw and not trust or dare to show true affection.

Equally showing true appreciation of others, in the desert of conflict and defence, so some is literally overwhelming. But it is this we are to show, our hearts shinning as a light of hope and acceptance in the world of hurt and sin, where so much is just show and so little is true and reliable. God bless you
I've been around families that pull at any thread to poke fun...it's disconcerting but they do love each other.
Families can be difficult.
Especially when there is difficulty in expressing true feelings. Appreciation and respect go unsaid most of the time leaving hurt and distance where there shouldn't be any.
My family is no different. But I choose to be different than they are. (As several others have uniquely chosen) I'm my own person and I can be who I wish. I don't have to use family as targets of opportunities for some kind of gain. I don't have to be greedy or opportunistic with them. I can love them in spite of their flaws without becoming their prey. And I realize that some people can't do that...too many hurts can make it difficult to impossible. But that doesn't mean that you have to be fake with them either. If I give a hug it means that I love you. No more, no less.

Work environment?
Offices full of women?
I've seen alligator pits that were friendlier. Both are full of smiles... Guys tend to be more straightforward. Offices seem to breed psychosis in them. For the lights are causing madness by slowly poisoning them over time. (Not really, but whatever) I like construction environments better. The guys there are usually very limited emotionally...they either love you or hate you. No surprise whatsoever. Even the ones that think they are super smart and get one over you are still rather transparent. But I don't hug many guys from work...nor the women. (The women are scary and I don't want a disease or a knife in my back)
Friends and family get the hugs...work environments are work environments. Work is a four letter word and a location....not many friends there. But there are a few.
 

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I've been around families that pull at any thread to poke fun...it's disconcerting but they do love each other.
Families can be difficult.
Especially when there is difficulty in expressing true feelings. Appreciation and respect go unsaid most of the time leaving hurt and distance where there shouldn't be any.
My family is no different. But I choose to be different than they are. (As several others have uniquely chosen) I'm my own person and I can be who I wish. I don't have to use family as targets of opportunities for some kind of gain. I don't have to be greedy or opportunistic with them. I can love them in spite of their flaws without becoming their prey. And I realize that some people can't do that...too many hurts can make it difficult to impossible. But that doesn't mean that you have to be fake with them either. If I give a hug it means that I love you. No more, no less.

Work environment?
Offices full of women?
I've seen alligator pits that were friendlier. Both are full of smiles... Guys tend to be more straightforward. Offices seem to breed psychosis in them. For the lights are causing madness by slowly poisoning them over time. (Not really, but whatever) I like construction environments better. The guys there are usually very limited emotionally...they either love you or hate you. No surprise whatsoever. Even the ones that think they are super smart and get one over you are still rather transparent. But I don't hug many guys from work...nor the women. (The women are scary and I don't want a disease or a knife in my back)
Friends and family get the hugs...work environments are work environments. Work is a four letter word and a location....not many friends there. But there are a few.
Ah office politics,the clucking hens ,back stabbers. We humans are a,broken lot .
 

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As a man when you genuinely like a woman you naturally want to care and protect them, but they dont like you and always go for the other guy who doesn't genuinely care for them and only likes there body image and talks about them and other girls behind there back, and you cannot say anything. It's heart breaking.

I cannot defend her on this one, it's something she must learn herself.
 

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As a man when you like a woman you naturally want to care and protect them, but they always go for the guy who doesn't genuinely care and only likes there body image and talks about them and other girls behind there back, and you cannot say anything. It's heart breaking.
Well yeah...
But that behavior out of her only proves that she is not mature or aware enough to handle being in a committed relationship.
 

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Well yeah...
But that behavior out of her only proves that she is not mature or aware enough to handle being in a committed relationship.
Women get sucked in by players. The fake who makes them laugh, pretends to care for them, and goes with the flow having a good time but talks behind there back. Woman like that. They don't want a serious guy who looks out for them and is protective.
 
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Women get sucked in by players. The fake who makes them laugh, pretends to care for them, and goes with the flow having a good time. Woman like that. They don't want a serious guy who looks out for them and is protective.
Experience is a difficult and hard teacher.
And a fool will learn from no other instructor.
 

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