First, stop taking things personally. Didn't Jesus say they we are persecuted because of Him? Let Him handle the arrows and daggers. Put on the full armor of God, in both circumstances. Remember what that passage says about what you put on your back? Nothing, because He has it. When you stop taking things so personally you will not be so easily offended. Sure, you can defend your faith, but do not do so in a way that will be counterproductive to God's message.
Second, employ the fruits of the Spirit in all of your interactions. Sounds more simple than it is, but that is truly what you need to do.
Lastly, keep praying for guidance. God won't put you in a situation He has not prepared you for, or back you up in.