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Becoming Christian​

"Do not conform yourselves to the standards of this world, but let God transform you inwardly by a complete change of your mind. Then you will be able to know the will of God." Romans 12:2

If you listen closely when you unlock a safe, there comes a moment when you hear a click and the tumblers finally fall into place. You can’t really see what’s happening, but your fingers move and it all comes together. The beginning of change is like this. You do something different and finally something clicks. It is all very mysterious. You don’t really understand it, but when it happens you know; you immediately open the safe and take out your valuables. In this case, the valuables locked up in the safe are all the wonderful things you will become when you change. And the key to all this is taking action. You don’t just sit there and stare at the safe. You do something.

Taking action is where I got stuck when it came to my own recovery. I knew I was a love addict and alcoholic, but I didn’t know what to do about it. I cried, I prayed, I went to therapy and support groups but nothing happened. Then one day I had an epiphany. I needed to change. Here is how I did it and how you can do it.

We need to acknowledge that we need to change how we think, behave and what we value. I had to stop thinking like a cynic. I had to stop drinking, and I had to stop chasing after unavailable men. I had to start valuing healthy relationships instead of romantic love as if it were the only thing worth living for.

Things to do . . .

We can make a list of all the changes we have to make. Then we can break down the list into small bits and pieces so we can do one thing at a time without being overwhelmed.

We can set goals—realistic ones. I imagined what it would be like to think differently and behave differently and I described this in my journal.

Try setting a date to begin checking off each item on the list. Then on that date get started. I tackled the easy things first before I went after the hard things. Giving up drinking was easier for me that giving up romantic love, so I got sober.

Each day we are successful with a change we should reward ourselves.

If we fail we can remind ourselves that it was progress not perfection.

We should never give up even if we sometimes have to go back to square one.

We can start hanging out with other self-motivated people so they could encourage us.

We should encourage ourselves.

Look for healthy role models and do what they do. One of my role-models was my daughter Kathy. She had such wonderful people skills and I just watched her and did what she did. I noticed she listened more than I did and drew out the people she was talking to. Later I learned that this was emotional intelligence, not to mention God's will.

Become optimistic about everything. I learned to find the good in the bad and never let anything get me down for very long. This drew people to me and brought new friendships into my life. Before this I had no friends.

As I took each one of these steps my confidence and self-esteem grew, and this inspired me to make more changes. Inner changes and outer changes. They worked together to make me happy and content.

Today I continue to make changes and try to inspire others to do the same. And it was all so simple. I had to take my newfound willingness, that sprang out of my misery, to change and become the best person I could be. I had to surrender to God and let the Holy Spirit guide me. I am not there yet, but I am on my way.

 
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Know exactly what u mean with what u have written. And glad that u want to encourage others as well by sharing where u have been where u r going and that u r now appreciating the progress. For us its about process. For me it was about, God using what I had been through, that I thought I had wasted majority of my life in my 40s but He showed me that nothing is wasted with Him. So He has used me in ways, that has been a help and support to others, I have seen a lot of deliverance over the years. But now I need to be on the receiving end as well. It can take a toll on ur body.

Learning how to receive, learning how to rest, learning how to recover from what I have lived. Learning that we also don't have to do everything, and be everything to everyone. Acceptance has been key along with boomerang. Which means sometimes we need to have what has been given come back for us as well. Hugs to u.
 

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Once again, Susannah knocks us over with her inspirational testimony.
I'm still part cynic you know. Just hope God is not fed up.
Realistic optimists are what is needed in our world. My anxiety and pesimism have always been an obstacle.
But guess what? i see more realistic optimism in this forum every day. There are some salt of the Earth Christians on here. I am privileged to be here.
 

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Since I am getting positive feedback I have decided to write my memoirs about Spirit. Pray for me. When my last book came out they asked me to publish my recovery story but I was not ready.
 

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It will be controversial. Here is the preface . . .

Spirit
The Story of a Wounded Healer
Susan Peabody
My memoirs . . .

Preface: Work in progress . . .

I started praying when I was ten years old. I never knew who I was praying to because I was not sure God even existed. In 1995, I stopped a prayer in mid sentence and said out loud, "Who are you? Who am I talking to? A voice in my head said, "My name is Spirit and I am a woman." This pleased me a great deal. Not because I think the Holy Spirit is a woman, she is spirit, but because when I was a child my mother was the only one who ever tried to comfort me. She did not know what to say but she tried. This book is about what Spirit has done for me since the day I was born---September 15, 1948

 

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I wish . . . LOL This is all up to God. Spirit writes my books and articles most of the time and God publishes them. This is the story of how my first book got published.

My Heavenly Agent
 

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If you listen closely when you unlock a safe, there comes a moment when you hear a click and the tumblers finally fall into place. You can’t really see what’s happening, but your fingers move and it all comes together. The beginning of change is like this. You do something different and finally something clicks. It is all very mysterious. You don’t really understand it, but when it happens you know, you immediately open the safe and take out your valuables. In this case, the valuables locked up in the safe are all the wonderful things you will become when you change. And the key to all this is taking action. You don’t just sit there and stare at the safe. You do something.

Taking action is where I got stuck when it came to my own recovery. I knew I was a love addict and alcoholic but I didn’t know what to do about it. I cried, I prayed, I went to therapy and support groups but nothing happened. Then one day I had an epiphany. I needed to change. Here is how I did it and how you can do it to.

We need to acknowledge that we need to change how we think, behave and what we value. I had to stop thinking like a cynic. I had to stop drinking, and I had to stop chasing after unavailable men. I had to start valuing healthy relationships instead of romantic love as if it were the only think living for.

Things to do . . .

We can make a list of all the changes we have to make. Then we can break down list into small bits and pieces so we can do one thing at a time without being overwhelmed.

We can set goals—realistic ones. I imagined what it would be like to think differently and behave differently and I described this in my journal.

Try setting a date to begin checking off each item on the list. Then on that date get started. I tackled the easy things first before I went after the hard things. Giving up drinking was easier for me that giving up romantic love, so I got sober.

Each day we are successful with a change we should reward ourselves.

If we fail we can remind ourselves that it was progress not perfection.

We should never gave up even if we sometimes have to back to square one.

We can start hanging out with other self-motivated people so they could encourage us.

We should encourage ourselves.

Look for healthy role models and do what they do. One of my role-models was my daughter Kathy. She had such wonderful people skills and I just watched her and did what she did. I noticed she listened more than I did and drew out the people she was talking about. Later I learned that this was emotional intelligence.

Became optimistic about everything. I always found the good in the bad and never let anything get me down for very long. This drew people to me and brought new friendships into my life. Before this I had no friends.

As I took each one of these steps my confidence and self-esteem grew and this inspired me to make more changes. Inner changes and outer changes. They worked together to make me happy and content.

Today I continue to make changes and try to inspire others to do the same. And it was all so simple. I had to take my newfound willingness, that sprang out of my misery, to change and become the best person I could be. I am not there yet, but I am on my way.

There is no Scripture which states becoming a New Person in Christ occurs by undertaking planned and purposeful steps which give "progress."

All that is said regarding a sentient daily life in God is to "In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths." Pity sentimemts and popular notions to the contrary. Pity those who try to explain things not in Scripture.
 

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Greetings. Thank you for sharing your perspective. I don't need your pity because I have God. But I could use your prayers as I'm a work in progress. I have a long way to go. With the guidance of the Holy Spirit I'm getting closer every day to being perfected by God. Take care.

As for scripture, will this do . . .

"Do not conform yourselves to the standards of this world, but let God transform you inwardly by a complete change of your mind. Then you will be able to know the will of God." Romans 12:2 TEV
 
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Greetings. Thank you for sharing your perspective. I don't need your pity because I have God. But I could use your prayers as I'm a work in progress. I have a long way to go. With the guidance of the Holy Spirit I'm getting closer every day to being perfected by God. Take care.

As for scripture, will this do . . .

"Do not conform yourselves to the standards of this world, but let God transform you inwardly by a complete change of your mind. Then you will be able to know the will of God." Romans 12:2 TEV
Hi Susannah.
My sponsor told me that the steps were originally 6 steps and written on the catacomb walls as a format for exorcism. Did someone introduce the steps to you?
 

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AA was founded by two Christian men: Bill Wilson and Dr. Bob. Bill Wilson was visited by the Holy Spirit and directed to work with Dr. Bob to found Alcoholics Anonymous. It was originally a Christian organization. Now it is open to all alcoholics. Bill Wilson wrote the 12 steps. He expanded the 6 steps of the Oxford Group where he first started his ministry. I do not know where the Oxford group got their steps. Bill said the steps were given to him by God. Originally, you were now allowed to attend a meeting until after you had gotten on your knees and surrendered to God. [Third Step]

I have been sober and in Alcoholics Anonymous for 37 years. I have worked the 12 steps several times and now sponsor others. The media has made the steps too complicated with all these workbooks so I am in the process of introducing people to the "short version" of the steps.

Tell me more about yourself.
 

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AA was founded by two Christian men: Bill Wilson and Dr. Bob. Bill Wilson was visited by the Holy Spirit and directed to work with Dr. Bob to found Alcoholics Anonymous. It was originally a Christian organization. Now it is open to all alcoholics. Bill Wilson wrote the 12 steps. He expanded the 6 steps of the Oxford Group where he first started his ministry. I do not know where the Oxford group got their steps. Bill said the steps were given to him by God. Originally, you were now allowed to attend a meeting until after you had gotten on your knees and surrendered to God. [Third Step]

I have been sober and in Alcoholics Anonymous for 37 years. I have worked the 12 steps several times and now sponsor others. The media has made the steps too complicated with all these workbooks so I am in the process of introducing people to the "short version" of the steps.

Tell me more about yourself.
My name is Jay and I'm an addict!

This covers anything that could possibly make me feel good, I call myself a garbage can. But my drug of choice, cocaine! .
Short version, I hit bottom in the 80's April 1987 in Long Beach CA. I was1 day sober when I decided to ask for help in one of the first CA meetings. Out if the other 10 people there, one approached me after the meeting and asked me if I wanted to get real! I said , "what does that mean?" The 300 lb Sicilian, wearing dark sunglasses at night got right up to my face and said sternly, " do you want to live you #*#*?"

I was kind of shocked, but I answered yes. He said well let's go work the steps! So we went to a Denny's restaurant and spent 5 hours working steps 1 through 9.

Turns out he was from AA trying to help the CA program get off the ground. He had 10 years, with a sponsor who had 20 years, who had a sponsor who ha 35 years. That last sponsor was one of the first 100 of AA. He stepped me the way they did it in the beginning.

I've been recovered from a hopeless state of mind and body for 33 years. But recover daily from my real problem, being selfish pig! Lol.

I can post a thread on how I was stepped if that's permitted?
 

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It is wonderful to meet and talk with another addict. My husband used to be a cocaine addict. He was a professional drummer and the whole band was hooked. I am a recovering alcoholic, love addict, codependent, and food addict. I got sober in 1982.

I attended AA for 25 years and then left to work with love addicts. I founded the program Love Addicts Anonymous.

Now that I am a Christian, I want to go to Celebrate Recovery. Do you still attend meetings. I work the steps every day. They are a great model for me to change and stay sober. My goal is to be the person I can be to better serve God.
 

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It is wonderful to meet and talk with another addict. My husband used to be a cocaine addict. He was a professional drummer and the whole band was hooked. I am a recovering alcoholic, love addict, codependent, and food addict. I got sober in 1982.

I attended AA for 25 years and then left to work with love addicts. I founded the program Love Addicts Anonymous.

Now that I am a Christian, I want to go to Celebrate Recovery. Do you still attend meetings. I work the steps every day. They are a great model for me to change and stay sober. My goal is to be the person I can be to better serve God.
Yes, I attend meetings every day but most of the time it's just God and I. I've been doing exactly what I was suggested to do multiple times a day for 33 years. I've carried the message (12th step) as it was taught to me with hundreds of addicts and alcoholics.

At a few months sober, God put a gifted Bible teacher in my path. I've learned from his teaching for 33 years. I hope we can share some of the special things God has shown me.
 

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It is great to meet you. I am also doing recovery mostly with the Holy Spirit as my guide. Can you help out with this forum? We need ideas.

I feel Christian addicts have special needs. Although it started out ass a Christian organization (The Oxford Group), by the time I got to AA we were not allowed to talk about Christ even if he was my Higher Power. This was mostly in the SF Bay Area. In the mid-west it was different.

In my opinion, Christians have more shame than other addicts. At the same time we are more able to forgive ourselves because of Jesus. Christians addicts also want to be perfect in recovery and this is just not going to happen. There is also a tendency for Christian addicts to do too much service in early recovery, neglect themselves. There is a season for all things..

Most of my work is with codependent and love addicts so I can us some help with the substance abusers. Pray about it. 🌷 :oops2
 

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It is great to meet you. I am also doing recovery mostly with the Holy Spirit as my guide. Can you help out with this forum? We need ideas.

I feel Christian addicts have special needs. Although it started out ass a Christian organization (The Oxford Group), by the time I got to AA we were not allowed to talk about Christ even if he was my Higher Power. This was mostly in the SF Bay Area. In the mid-west it was different.

In my opinion, Christians have more shame than other addicts. At the same time we are more able to forgive ourselves because of Jesus. Christians addicts also want to be perfect in recovery and this is just not going to happen. There is also a tendency for Christian addicts to do too much service in early recovery, neglect themselves. There is a season for all things..

Most of my work is with codependent and love addicts so I can us some help with the substance abusers. Pray about it. 🌷 :oops2
What is a love addict? I've never heard that before.

Do you have a gifted Bible teacher? Or do you learn on your own?
 

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Tell me a bit about celebrate recovery. I've heard of it, but have never been. Where are the meetings?
 

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