[__ Praise __] The Journey Continues

[Papa Zoom]

Just a post to update on my progress. God is faithful and the grief journey continues. But God puts into our lives people that are helpers in the difficult times. While it's still difficult and I still fight off the depression, I have hope for the future. Because God is there by my side and I know better days are ahead of me. Thanks for your continued prayers and support.

 

[Tessa]

Great to see you Papa Zoom. Lovely post.
Always in my prayers.

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

Great to see you Papa Zoom. Lovely post.
Always in my prayers.

You took the words right out of my mouth.

 

[Edward]

That's good to hear, Brother. I still pray for you also.

 

[sunflower]

Just a post to update on my progress. God is faithful and the grief journey continues. But God puts into our lives people that are helpers in the difficult times. While it's still difficult and I still fight off the depression, I have hope for the future. Because God is there by my side and I know better days are ahead of me. Thanks for your continued prayers and support.

Oh, my, so glad I saw this. I can relate. Lost my husband (married 50+ years) a year ago this month. It does get better and God does have our backs. Still hard. Praying for you as you face the many challenges and changes that come on a daily basis. God be with and bless you and yours.

sunflower

 

[Papa Zoom]

So the latest is I've joined a grief group associated with https://www.griefshare.org/ You have workbooks, watch a video, discuss and share. Plus you make connections with others that have lost their spouses or other significant people in their lives.
I also started personal counseling. A good idea. He's a Christian and he's great. Today's session was an eye opener. I've a lot of work to do just to get normal again. You think you're sane when you're not. Most of what you do is grief driven. Relationships are out of the question and big changes are too. So now I just deal. I'll keep you posted. Last week was a setback. Lot's of emotional breakdowns. This week lots of anxiety and hot flashes. But I still sleep well so there's that. I wake up sometimes at 430 though. Today I slept til 6.

God bless!

 

[dirtfarmer]

So the latest is I've joined a grief group associated with https://www.griefshare.org/ You have workbooks, watch a video, discuss and share. Plus you make connections with others that have lost their spouses or other significant people in their lives.
I also started personal counseling. A good idea. He's a Christian and he's great. Today's session was an eye opener. I've a lot of work to do just to get normal again. You think you're sane when you're not. Most of what you do is grief driven. Relationships are out of the question and big changes are too. So now I just deal. I'll keep you posted. Last week was a setback. Lot's of emotional breakdowns. This week lots of anxiety and hot flashes. But I still sleep well so there's that. I wake up sometimes at 430 though. Today I slept til 6.

God bless!

hello Papa Zoom, dirtfarmer here

Here is something to think about. You really didn't say good bye but "see you later". She is asleep in Jesus and one day you will see her again when we are "caught up" to be with Jesus.
May the Lord bless and give you peace.
dirtfarmer

 

[Truthfrees]

So the latest is I've joined a grief group associated with https://www.griefshare.org/ You have workbooks, watch a video, discuss and share. Plus you make connections with others that have lost their spouses or other significant people in their lives.
I also started personal counseling. A good idea. He's a Christian and he's great. Today's session was an eye opener. I've a lot of work to do just to get normal again. You think you're sane when you're not. Most of what you do is grief driven. Relationships are out of the question and big changes are too. So now I just deal. I'll keep you posted. Last week was a setback. Lot's of emotional breakdowns. This week lots of anxiety and hot flashes. But I still sleep well so there's that. I wake up sometimes at 430 though. Today I slept til 6.

God bless!

thanks for the update - and for the good info on grief you are sharing

so glad to hear you have quality supports and resources

it is a slow and deep process

praying for you and for your loved ones to receive all the help and healing needed

 

[Christ_empowered]

thanks for posting on all this. i like your writing, btw. i think the internet can be an excellent tool for people "going thru it," so to speak. i overwhelmed this place with my -stuff-, and now...

i can actually contribute to other peoples' lives, by the grace of God.


I cannot claim to "feel your pain," and I wouldn't say that, anyway, because I'm not a pseudo-empath, but...

Jesus knows. Verna...when Ronnie died, it wasn't sudden or unexpected, but it was partly due to some hardcore bad medical "care," so...there's still some anger there...anyway...

Jesus has seen her thru it, big time. Even when her (adult) kids turned on her, even when her (also, adult) grand-kids used her and flim flammed her out of some much needed $$$....

Jesus was there. I think Jesus put her in my life so we could be a comfort to each other...and He's doing similar things in your life, it seems.

I only had 1 real "boyfriend" in my gay daze. He died, about 1 year ago. I just now found out, thru The Google. He'd moved to the EU w/ a new bf, but the obituary was from his old stomping grounds here in The South. :-( he may have been...40, 41 when he died. I'm guessing either drugs or HIV/AIDS...maybe suicide. nothing good, anyway. With his death, it was kinda like...the former existence is gone, gone, gone....and since there is no real love in sodomy, anyway....what was the point, again? -sad times-

my dad's long term friend died, of suicide. she was about 10 years older than dad. her husband is a good bit younger. she had all kindsa health probs, he was reasonably vibrant...maybe that was part of it? good woman. i was a brat to her in my teens...and that was the last time we had a real conversation.

ok. thanks for staying with CFnet. seriously. life happens, friction happens...people go somewhere else on The Internet or just...go away, at any rate.

im glad technology can help connect us all with what we need, not just...factoids and amazon prime.

May God comfort and bless you.

 

[Tessa]

Papa you are bound to get bad days, and it is still very raw. You and Nancy shared a lifetime of Love. No-one can take that away from you.
My husband died 16 (nearly 17) years ago. I have never wanted to be involved with anyone else in all that time. I still love him.
But time helps you to cope and friendship is very precious.
We are both very blessed that we have experienced the love we have had. Some people never find it.
Be kind and patient to yourself. Will never stop praying for you, and one day you will be re-united with your lovely Nancy. Here is the patience of the saints.
Love you brother.

 

[sunflower]

Just a post to update on my progress. God is faithful and the grief journey continues. But God puts into our lives people that are helpers in the difficult times. While it's still difficult and I still fight off the depression, I have hope for the future. Because God is there by my side and I know better days are ahead of me. Thanks for your continued prayers and support.

Does this ever sound familiar. I went through Grief-Share first months of this year as lost my husband in September of last year. It does depend somewhat on the group you are in but the format of the program is great. (Used to be a teacher so appreciate that) Mainly it helped me understand that some things we go through in the process ,although so different than we are used to and often sudden and unexpected (especially the emotions, outbreaks, depression, anger, denial, and on and on and on) are really normal. So good to have the Lord with us in this (He understands) and touch us with His healing and restoration through it all. It's not easy to go through especially when you start the more challenging chapters; but there is light beyond the tunnel and in the meanntime He is there with us in the tunnel. My hope began to return when I was there. I couldn't continue because the only one in my area was held in a church, not mine, and had to miss services on Sunday mornings as that is when they met. Hopefully another group will form in our area soon as they do from time to time and it won't be on Sunday mornings. I got a lot out of my seven weeks there and hope to return to finish or maybe even start anew with a group in a better place at a better time to meet. Our group was mainly people who went to that church so they attended an early service. Some people go through them more than once. Just had lunch with one of the former leaders of such a group yesterday who is hoping to start one soon and encouraged me to come. It takes a lot to get one going..training, church backing, funds, etc.

The grieving process can be hard and painful; but you will see changes. I especially feel so much better this second year in that I have had to adjust to much especially the change in my identity as part of a married couple for over many years (only married once) and now a single person and a widow...and so much else. Yes, they advised us not to date when going through the first 13 weeks anyway. People can be drawn together easily during this vulnerable time. Learned that in a hurry; but good to take it slowly and not try to develop dating relationships with those in the group. For some though that seems to happen in time after finishing the program; and I think that is fine too. I did finish the workbook and it is the same as the program you are in. Tis so good and good to read how others feel and cope. Bless you. You are in my prayers. Hey, I also live in WA...the Evergreen State. Grew up here. Moved to Alaska 34 years but back now several.

My real name is Jo. Blessings. Keep us posted.

 

[Pegasus]

So the latest is I've joined a grief group associated with https://www.griefshare.org/ You have workbooks, watch a video, discuss and share. Plus you make connections with others that have lost their spouses or other significant people in their lives.
I also started personal counseling. A good idea. He's a Christian and he's great. Today's session was an eye opener. I've a lot of work to do just to get normal again. You think you're sane when you're not. Most of what you do is grief driven. Relationships are out of the question and big changes are too. So now I just deal. I'll keep you posted. Last week was a setback. Lot's of emotional breakdowns. This week lots of anxiety and hot flashes. But I still sleep well so there's that. I wake up sometimes at 430 though. Today I slept til 6.

God bless!

Thank you for the update Bro. Miss ya.

 

[reba]

Just a simple reminder to keep Dan in your prayers. There are things that must be done that bring memories in the forefront.

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

Just a simple reminder to keep Dan in your prayers. There are things that must be done that bring memories in the forefront.

Done. And you are in my prayers as well. (yes I really do care about you)