[__ Prayer __] Today marks the third month since my wife passed away.

[Papa Zoom]

Does it get any easier? Not really. It's just hard in a different way. It truly is a one day at a time thing. Emotions are funny things. I can be happy one moment and sad the next. I just have to trust God and lean into Him but it's also nice to have family and friends to lean on as well.

I try to keep busy but eventually I have to come home and deal with the quiet and lonesomeness. It's more the being alone than being lonesome. There is a difference.

I finally was able to go back to church last week. I had to stay away as it was too stressful. It's still stressful but not as much. And I sit in a different place. That seems to help.

I may get back here on a regular basis yet but at the moment I'm not up for much. Still don't watch TV since my wife passed. Just don't care. I mostly listen to music and read.

God bless ~ Papa ~

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

Does it get any easier? Not really. It's just hard in a different way. It truly is a one day at a time thing. Emotions are funny things. I can be happy one moment and sad the next. I just have to trust God and lean into Him but it's also nice to have family and friends to lean on as well.

I try to keep busy but eventually I have to come home and deal with the quiet and lonesomeness. It's more the being alone than being lonesome. There is a difference.

I finally was able to go back to church last week. I had to stay away as it was too stressful. It's still stressful but not as much. And I sit in a different place. That seems to help.

I may get back here on a regular basis yet but at the moment I'm not up for much. Still don't watch TV since my wife passed. Just don't care. I mostly listen to music and read.

God bless ~ Papa ~

I know it's hard Papa,.. but just remember when you go to church that your wife (Nancy I think) is in the best seat of the house. Big HUGS!!

 

[stovebolts]

Does it get any easier? Not really. It's just hard in a different way. It truly is a one day at a time thing. Emotions are funny things. I can be happy one moment and sad the next. I just have to trust God and lean into Him but it's also nice to have family and friends to lean on as well.

I try to keep busy but eventually I have to come home and deal with the quiet and lonesomeness. It's more the being alone than being lonesome. There is a difference.

I finally was able to go back to church last week. I had to stay away as it was too stressful. It's still stressful but not as much. And I sit in a different place. That seems to help.

I may get back here on a regular basis yet but at the moment I'm not up for much. Still don't watch TV since my wife passed. Just don't care. I mostly listen to music and read.

God bless ~ Papa ~

I understand Papa. There will be a day when you enjoy the feel of the sun warming your face again, but for now the season just feels gloomy.

It's funny in an odd sort of way because my wife is away till Tuesday, but about 25 or 30 minutes ago I looked at the picture of my Mom and told her I missed her, then I looked at the picture of my daughter when she was 8 or 9 and and gave her a smile and said, "see ya later". We never said good bye, but instead, we always said, "see ya later". Its never truly goodbye Papa.... and it's ok to feel sad, but tonight actually felt good and it brought joy to my heart.

I know you already know this, but this heavy weight will lighten. Ecc 3

 

[Michael74]

Research indicates that for most people it takes about a year. After that, its still sad, but bearable. It can vary somewhat, but tends to get gradually better over time. Hold on PaPa.

 

[Michael74]

Research indicates that for most people it takes about a year. After that, its still sad, but bearable. The mourning period can vary somewhat, but tends to get gradually better over time. Hold on Papa. Jesus is coming soon.

For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of an archangel, and with the trumpet of God. And the dead in Christ will rise first. Then we who are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And thus we shall always be with the Lord. Therefore comfort one another with these words. 1 Thessalonians 4:16-18 NKJV

 

[Pegasus]

Does it get any easier? Not really. It's just hard in a different way. It truly is a one day at a time thing. Emotions are funny things. I can be happy one moment and sad the next. I just have to trust God and lean into Him but it's also nice to have family and friends to lean on as well.

I try to keep busy but eventually I have to come home and deal with the quiet and lonesomeness. It's more the being alone than being lonesome. There is a difference.

I finally was able to go back to church last week. I had to stay away as it was too stressful. It's still stressful but not as much. And I sit in a different place. That seems to help.

I may get back here on a regular basis yet but at the moment I'm not up for much. Still don't watch TV since my wife passed. Just don't care. I mostly listen to music and read.

God bless ~ Papa ~

Love ya Bro.

 

[JohnDB]

We are still there for you when you need us.

 

[Tessa]

Papa Zoom just do things in your own way, in your own time, you will get there. You are well loved here, as all the above posts show.

 

[for_his_glory]

Time heals all wounds Papa as well you know and your heart is still freshly wounded from the loss of your wife. It's all a process and a hard one. One day you will wake up and be refreshed in your heart as you put the pieces of your broken heart back together again and praise the Lord for the time here on earth you had with her and to know in God's timing the two of you will be together again in paradise. She left you a blessed legacy in the family the two of you built together. The loneliness will always be there to a certain extent, but the more you fill it with the things you enjoy doing it will make it easier to deal with the quietness.

Never forget you also have a family in here that loves you and misses you, but you take your time to grieve and you will be back when you're ready.

 

[Razeontherock]

For you Papa

 

[Papa Zoom]

Thanks everyone. I have good days but mostly good periods. In a day I can be up and fine only to crash and burn later. Yesterday I went on a field trip with the 4th grade classes. We went to visit the Kennedy Creek salmon runs here locally. Lots of fun with the kids. I got home about 3, got into my pajamas, and cried myself to sleep. Then got up in time to eat supper and go to grief group. Today I'm in a fog. It's so strange that I'm up one minute and then boom, it hits me.

But I'm doing the right things. I'm staying busy, I'm in the word, I pray daily, I'm in both counseling and a grief group and have just finished a terrific book on grief (about to start another). I really miss my wife. And I hate being alone. So it's a tough road. I know I'll get there though. It will just take time. Pray for me and my family as we enter the holidays. God bless everyone!

 

[stovebolts]

I can identify with what your feeling, as do many others Papa. What you're feeling is normal, and your doing everything right. Just continue to find the good everywhere you can and continue to rejoice, for this is the day the Lord hath made.
Each day is a new day, a fresh start. Some days will be up and down or even days like today where everything gets foggy. Hold in there buddy, tomorrow is coming and God is with you.

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

Thanks everyone. I have good days but mostly good periods. In a day I can be up and fine only to crash and burn later. Yesterday I went on a field trip with the 4th grade classes. We went to visit the Kennedy Creek salmon runs here locally. Lots of fun with the kids. I got home about 3, got into my pajamas, and cried myself to sleep. Then got up in time to eat supper and go to grief group. Today I'm in a fog. It's so strange that I'm up one minute and then boom, it hits me.

But I'm doing the right things. I'm staying busy, I'm in the word, I pray daily, I'm in both counseling and a grief group and have just finished a terrific book on grief (about to start another). I really miss my wife. And I hate being alone. So it's a tough road. I know I'll get there though. It will just take time. Pray for me and my family as we enter the holidays. God bless everyone!

You know that I love you and that you're always in my thoughts and prayers. Lol, at first I thought this said that you went on a field trip in your pajamas. And I'm thinking, I remember having pajama day at school. Just goes to show that I need to have my eyes re examined.

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

You know, I'm not ready to go full on Christmas music yet but this isn't too Christmassy and you reminded me of this song Papa. A Christmas Carol is one of my favorite Christmas stories btw. Besides the one that tells us why we celebrate in the first place of course.

 

[sunflower]

Hello Papa Zoom, lost my husband 9/11/17. In some ways it gets a bit easier although sometimes emotional high and other times low. Now facing major health challenges myself and hoping for the best I count a lot on the prayers and support of others. Sure helps to have a community which recognizes the plight of the widow or widower. So many churches are concerned about their increasing numbers and also much emphasis on youth but not on seniors and those who are grieving major losses. James 1:27 regarding orphans and widows speaks to me. Healing is gradual but life will never be as it was. God is our strength, our refuge, our hiding place, and sometimes our advocate in different situations. I ask Him for wisdom a lot. Please keep us updated. Blessings..

sunflower aka Jo

 

[Truthfrees]

Thanks everyone. I have good days but mostly good periods. In a day I can be up and fine only to crash and burn later. Yesterday I went on a field trip with the 4th grade classes. We went to visit the Kennedy Creek salmon runs here locally. Lots of fun with the kids. I got home about 3, got into my pajamas, and cried myself to sleep. Then got up in time to eat supper and go to grief group. Today I'm in a fog. It's so strange that I'm up one minute and then boom, it hits me.

But I'm doing the right things. I'm staying busy, I'm in the word, I pray daily, I'm in both counseling and a grief group and have just finished a terrific book on grief (about to start another). I really miss my wife. And I hate being alone. So it's a tough road. I know I'll get there though. It will just take time. Pray for me and my family as we enter the holidays. God bless everyone!

praying for you and your family