There I was, tasked with the responsibility of teaching submission to my two sons. I wanted to find some way to communicate the lesson. Kids like games, right?
I told them both that I'd like to play a game with them. Told them to imagine that they could control me because I said they could. Of course, I explained that I would not hurt myself, would not be willing to even appear as if I would hurt myself, would not hurt others, would not be willing to give an appearance of being willing to hurt others, and that I would not break things. These restrictions were called "Sparrow's Family Laws" and served to communicate limits and boundaries.
So, the kids thought about what they would want me to do and I tried to prepare for whatever inconceivable thing they would come up with and ready myself to obey children.
Lucky for me it was an easy task they chose, "Dad, sit on your hands."
"Dad, stand up on one foot."
And so it went. The kids enjoyed the power they were given and I told them that part of what I was doing was making myself ready to do what they said I should do, getting myself into a place where what I wanted did not matter as much as what I was told (by them) to do.
Even kids can understand authority and submission, but what was I thinking? It was a risky move, to be sure, but they did understand and were willing to go along with me as the tables turned and I asked them in turn to sit on their hands and to stand on one foot. Have I learned the lesson that I've tried to teach? Well, part of that is the foolishness of preaching above one's own ability. I still struggle with this. Don't we all?
I told them both that I'd like to play a game with them. Told them to imagine that they could control me because I said they could. Of course, I explained that I would not hurt myself, would not be willing to even appear as if I would hurt myself, would not hurt others, would not be willing to give an appearance of being willing to hurt others, and that I would not break things. These restrictions were called "Sparrow's Family Laws" and served to communicate limits and boundaries.
So, the kids thought about what they would want me to do and I tried to prepare for whatever inconceivable thing they would come up with and ready myself to obey children.
Lucky for me it was an easy task they chose, "Dad, sit on your hands."
I sat.
I stood.
And so it went. The kids enjoyed the power they were given and I told them that part of what I was doing was making myself ready to do what they said I should do, getting myself into a place where what I wanted did not matter as much as what I was told (by them) to do.
Even kids can understand authority and submission, but what was I thinking? It was a risky move, to be sure, but they did understand and were willing to go along with me as the tables turned and I asked them in turn to sit on their hands and to stand on one foot. Have I learned the lesson that I've tried to teach? Well, part of that is the foolishness of preaching above one's own ability. I still struggle with this. Don't we all?