[__ Science __ ] Why Do We Fall In Love?

[HeIsRisen2018]

That is besides the fact that God planned for it to happen from the very beginning that is. Is there an actual scientific reason for this?

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

Besides hormones that is.

 

[Edward]

Besides God and the spiritual aspect, and hormones and their scientific aspect, for what reason scientifically do people fall in love? Well I'm not a scientist, nor have I ever played one on tv, but I have always liked people and girls in particular so I have been paying attention and know somewhat of what you speak.

That said, The potential exists for any man to fall in love with any woman. Any woman could potentially fall in love with any man given the right set of circumstances. The snowflake of what gets this avalanche of love rolling is within the person and heart. How much do you think about this person.

When you meet someone that is appealing to you you get drawn to think about them. The more you think about this person, the more you see within them. The more you see will lead to the more that you like about them. This leads to even more thought.

(ok, this man secret will cost you 2 dollars to Happy dude at my PO Box): It is said that when first beginning to date a girl and getting to know them...to not say too much. Be kind of mysterious. Because the girls strong imagination will fill in the holes about you and she will build you up in her mind better than I ever could!

So your answer is how much thinking you do about them is what happens to make you fall in love.

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

Besides God and the spiritual aspect, and hormones and their scientific aspect, for what reason scientifically do people fall in love? Well I'm not a scientist, nor have I ever played one on tv, but I have always liked people and girls in particular so I have been paying attention and know somewhat of what you speak.

That said, The potential exists for any man to fall in love with any woman. Any woman could potentially fall in love with any man given the right set of circumstances. The snowflake of what gets this avalanche of love rolling is within the person and heart. How much do you think about this person.

When you meet someone that is appealing to you you get drawn to think about them. The more you think about this person, the more you see within them. The more you see will lead to the more that you like about them. This leads to even more thought.

(ok, this man secret will cost you 2 dollars to Happy dude at my PO Box): It is said that when first beginning to date a girl and getting to know them...to not say too much. Be kind of mysterious. Because the girls strong imagination will fill in the holes about you and she will build you up in her mind better than I ever could!

So your answer is how much thinking you do about them is what happens to make you fall in love.

Sounds like a good enough of a response to me. Here's your reward that you asked for.

 

[Not_Now.Soon]

Studying hormones has a lot of scientific study into it actually. Neural transmitters in the brain also. Either way I've heard that love (and falling in love) is a chemical soup (hormones and neural transmitters) our body produces that creates a foundation for people to create a lasting relationship on. Basically a kind of "blind love" that you see people ignore or not notice annoying habits and imperfections of the other person because they are "in love."

What I've heard is this falling in love thing is short lived, and if they made a lasting relationship while in the "in love" phase, then it'll turn into real lasting love that can notice the imperfections of another person and love them anyways. (Because they have that relationship they developed as the foundation).

That said, regardless of scientific mumbojumbo, Edward said the why and how better then science, because how you get those hormones draws on paying attention to the other person and thinking about them.

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

Studying hormones has a lot of scientific study into it actually. Neural transmitters in the brain also. Either way I've heard that love (and falling in love) is a chemical soup (hormones and neural transmitters) our body produces that creates a foundation for people to create a lasting relationship on. Basically a kind of "blind love" that you see people ignore or not notice annoying habits and imperfections of the other person because they are "in love."

What I've heard is this falling in love thing is short lived, and if they made a lasting relationship while in the "in love" phase, then it'll turn into real lasting love that can notice the imperfections of another person and love them anyways. (Because they have that relationship they developed as the foundation).

That said, regardless of scientific mumbojumbo, Edward said the why and how better then science, because how you get those hormones draws on paying attention to the other person and thinking about them.

Well I don't know about that, Joey (my fiancee) and I have been madly in love since high school and that has been for the past decade.

 

[Edward]

Studying hormones has a lot of scientific study into it actually. Neural transmitters in the brain also. Either way I've heard that love (and falling in love) is a chemical soup (hormones and neural transmitters) our body produces that creates a foundation for people to create a lasting relationship on. Basically a kind of "blind love" that you see people ignore or not notice annoying habits and imperfections of the other person because they are "in love."

What I've heard is this falling in love thing is short lived, and if they made a lasting relationship while in the "in love" phase, then it'll turn into real lasting love that can notice the imperfections of another person and love them anyways. (Because they have that relationship they developed as the foundation).

That said, regardless of scientific mumbojumbo, Edward said the why and how better then science, because how you get those hormones draws on paying attention to the other person and thinking about them.

It seems to me that we might be talking about both, the spiritual aspect and the scientific (carnal flesh) also. Now the spiritual side is love because we were created in God's image and likeness as spirit beings and God is a Spirit, and God is love. However, within God's master plan for earth and mankind He wanted to give us free will to choose. So any woman would have to be ab;e to love any man. So the flesh was designed to respond instantly to ones personal preferences. 'I like her', and the flesh mind begins to think about her. I liked my wife instantly when I saw her for the first time. Before even being introduced to her. Once introduced, I liked her even more and had more to think about her.

This is all scripture. We will be judged on our very thoughts and we should cast down the bad thoughts...and think only about what is pure, honest, of virtue and goodness and so forth. The reason is that, when we dwell on something then it goes Whoosh! down into our heart and becomes a part of who we are.

It very well may be that, the only real thing that we do have here on earth is our thoughts. I suspect that our thoughts are the only true substance that we have here...

So when we do not look upon the woman in lust, and only think and meditate on the Kingdom of God, and His will and law...then we become like Him and take on His image once again...

Does that make sense? I think it does.

 

[Edward]

When me and my Wife were in the early years, we was so close to each other that, we were actually pretty much telepathic with each other. I wasn't walking with the Lord then, but I noticed it and it blew my mind! It was because I had pure intentions towards her and wanted to show her my love and have honor within our relationship.
...and it was that, the pure motives and good heart intentions is what made our love go deep enough that we became so close that we could talk without words.

And I even did everything wrong! God was not in it or consulted. I was at the age that, hey, let's consummate this thing! But then when she got pregnant it made me think. Wow, it must be my time. Ok then, if she is to have my child, then I need to get her into a house of her own...and if baby and house...then she deserves my name also. So it wasn't too long before we got married.

But my dad had taught me, walk with some honor...you do not have to be a punk...don't be that guy! and treat the girls nice! Do NOT slap them around. Then you get labeled and labels stick for a long time. And somehow that all stuck in me.

So I hovered over her when she was pregnant and took real good care of her. And I was not out partying with my buddy's when she was having the baby's. I saw both of my sons born. But I digress. I thought a lot about her, and what we dwell on we will connect with...and they call it Love.

 

[Edward]

I am remembering something that I read years ago. Supposedly they did some sort of study and would put two strangers (A male & a female) together in some sort of studio apt thing to see how they reacted over a period of time to each other. I forget how long it was to be, but they did it.

So this girl apparently did not like the man that was put in with her. She ignored him when he tried to start a conversation and was not polite to him at all. IIRC, he was being very very polite and nice to her, he liked her but she would not give him an opening. This went on for like...2 weeks? I think, and then the people in control put a 2nd female into their room with them...and things began to change a lot after a day or two.

The first girl treated the guy like he was annoying to her, and perhaps he was. But when girl #2 was there also, the man began showing girl #2 his attention instead of girl #1 who was a brick wall to him. And so, you would think that girl #1 was getting what she wanted which was to be left alone by the man.

But now, he was showing girl #2 his attention, and this somehow did not sit right with girl #1. I presume that she was becoming somewhat jealous and so before long, girl #1 was vying for the man's attention. Now is that weird, or what?

You see? these things are not really all that cut and dried. Many variables can affect any given situation.

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

Whoa there Edward, that was way too much writing for me. Do you think that you could sum it up a bit?

 

[Edward]

Ok, so when it was just the one girl and man, she was getting his attention. But she did not want it. But after they introduced the 2nd girl into the mix, he gave the 2nd girl his attention, thereby she lost what she now considers to be hers so the 2nd girl had what was hers and she began missing it and wanted it back.

Was is jealousy? Control? She began wanting what he had (him and his attention) and desiring it. Make sense now?

 

[HeIsRisen2018]

Ok, so when it was just the one girl and man, she was getting his attention. But she did not want it. But after they introduced the 2nd girl into the mix, he gave the 2nd girl his attention, thereby she lost what she now considers to be hers so the 2nd girl had what was hers and she began missing it and wanted it back.

Was is jealousy? Control? She began wanting what he had (him and his attention) and desiring it. Make sense now?

Yeah, sort of.

 

[Barbarian]

Mrs. B and I will be married 50 years in November. If opposites attract, we are the textbook example. But the first time we danced and I had her in my arms, I knew this was the woman I wanted to be with me for life. She tells me that was her response, too.

Something intangible, but it happens. We're lucky in that our religious and ethical ideas are very similar, because almost nothing else is, beyond a romantic attraction that has not dimmed. I still write her poems; she still leaves little notes on my desk for me to find.

There's definitely something hormonal, but this year someone mentioned that both of us were the "go-to" person, for difficult questions on the job. That's about all there is.

 

[Christ_empowered]

i vaguely remember reading that...looking at -big groups- of people...its social factors...how close one lives to the other person, social class, religious beliefs, age, etc. that determine 1st who gets married and 2nd which marriages are more likely to last vs ending in divorce.

i dunno. my bias is slanted towards social things, because...well...my perspective is kind of stuck in the 60s, lol. im not big on biological explanations for what looks like social issues, nor am I a fan of many psychological explanations, either....

and there you go.

 

[JohnDB]

First off...
A person has to be emotionally able to love.
Meaning that they aren't in a "all about me" phase of their day to day life. They must be able to actually like "everyone" and be social.
Then the usual factors can come into play...
Mentally healthy (not nurturing a broken heart, standing on your own two feet socially and financially) and you are known as a "giving person".
Secondly
You have some form of community involvement. This means involved in a group of some sort. (Christians usually do church for this) involved with various clubs, politics, or other... meaning you are an active part of a group of friends involved in a communal effort of some sort that benefits the community you live in.
Then...
You have to exhibit some form of attractive quality.

Women are (generally speaking) attracted to strength in men. This can be anything from physical to character to intellectual strength or some blend thereof.

Men are (generally speaking) attracted to women with some kind of nurturing ability. This can be resolved for men with "ego stroking" (the woman makes you feel good about yourself) or some other kind of nurturing like housekeeping, organizational skills, caregiving, financial benefits, community acceptance, progeny care, or whatever that allows the guy to advance his personal agenda. Guys of "Noble character" tend to wish to provide for her and protect the woman from whatever and or return the nurturing in typical "guy" fashion.

Men and women of ignoble character tend to use relationships to advance themselves or simply use the other for whatever comforts he/she can gain. Which can be physical affection, material goods, or even just an audience.


And like Paul says... Woman must respectfully give the leadership role to her husband and husband's must sacrificially love their wives.

Which does translate to mean that men must be of good character that is worthwhile and deserving of a lasting legacy that Christian women would love to promote.
And Christian guys should ensure that the women they invite into a family are worthy of the precious legacy they wish to create.

Love and physical appearance have nothing to do with each other. But we do see billions of dollars spent on physical appearance. Obviously people have no clue what to spend time and money on.