what was very important in my decision was to ask... how did things go on in biblical times? and how are they today?
nowadays from they meet to they marry it may take as long as 5 years- and sometimes even longer
now, biblical times. about 1-2 weeks
It took a long time back in NT times as well. So your 1-2 week time frame is a total fabrication. Since we have very little documentation before the 1st century bc, I will stick with first century Judea. Things varied a lot from this in the pagan cultures like Rome or Greece.
The normal age of marriages to be arranged was about 7 to 8. Sometime around when the guy would reach age 12 or 13, the 2 families would sit down and negotiate a marriage contract called a
Ketuba. It would cover all kinds of situations and what each was supposed to do in each circumstance. It even included the frequency of sex the girl could expect. ** When the ketuba was finished, the couple was legally married and it took an official divorce decree to dissolve the agreement.
"not wanting to make her a public example, was minded to put her away secretly." There are thousands of copies from the first centuries still in existence.
Once it was signed, the boy would start to build a home; usually as a new wing off of his father's house.
"in my house are many dwelling places ..." When construction was finished, which typically took about a year, the boy's father would be the building inspector and with his approval would send the boy to get his bride. No one, not even the boy, knew when Dad was going to do that.
“But of that day and hour no one knows, not even the angels of heaven, nor the Son, but the Father alone." He would then go, on horseback (pref white) to get his bride and take her to their new home and consummate the marriage.
As you can see, our Lord often would refer to this custom as He taught about the Kingdom and His return. His phrases would have been immediately recognized in that culture. Today, not so much. But the entire time line from arrangement to consummation was 5-6 years. Much of that was pre-puberty so the sex drive was not the issue it is today.
** Sex was/is considered a wife's RIGHT and a husband's obligation. There are many court records of wives bringing suit against their husbands for not providing enough sex for them.