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Bullies?

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Dealing with a bully can be stressful and make life very difficult - or, it can be a LOT of fun. And some advice to bullies: Sometimes, you encounter someone who makes you think you can get away with ANYTHING with them; it seems that they allow you to push them around with no consequences. Then, one day, it happens - you have foolishly gone way too far, and found that a case was being built against you - and now, it is too late to try to undo what you have done. The control you THOUGHT you had all along has slipped from your fingers.
 
Mess with the bull, you might get the horns.

Mess with a pizzaguy in a dunce cap, and you might get bitten, if that pizzaguy is a wolf in sheep's clothing. :)
 
I was bullied in school wayyyyyyyyyyyyy back in the day. One guy was picking on me while we were riding the school bus. I grabbed him and flipped him over the bus seat and from that day won some respect. Always hold your ground as a bully is nothing more than a person with personal issues.
 
That really is the best way to deal with them. But I had no mercy for this one, so I led him on to the point he got very arrogant - then blew the whistle when he went too far.
They have not fired him yet, which surprises me.
 
Oh, and I am willing to forgive (in time, not now) but will never leave the opening again - I'm no longer interested in the energy it takes to play with him.
 
it's hard to control our actions at times when we are pushed to the limit of not taking it any longer, but we also need to be quick to ask God to forgive our action and be quick also to forgive those who come against us.

Mark 11:24 Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.
Mark 11:25 And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.
Mark 11:26 But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.
 
I will forgive when I have seen the offender come to the point where he has ceased his offenses.
 
I'm dealing with a bully right now. Former psychiatrist, actually. Did heavy, involuntary ECT on me @ age 20 when I should have had my stomach pumped. Over-billed my parents and my insurance company (for-profit, private mental hospital...happens a lot). Sent a collection agency after me when I got out of the hospital. Spread my confidential information. Publicly humiliated me.

And...

...I have to forgive. When I didn't, I was angry. Now, I've chosen to forgive, even though he will probably never be called to task for what he did to me, nor will he ever ask my forgiveness, even though he ruined my reputation in my small, southern town for "getting uppity" and "stepping out of line" (believe me: being a recovering, former mental patient IS NOT FUN, especially when you're labeled a "trouble maker.").

Bullies are a part of life. I think The Bible wisely advises forgiving the offender(s) and letting God handle the rest.
 
I'm 6' 6", 235lb. I was much bigger when I was younger. What's "bullying?"
 
Willie T said:
I'm 6' 6", 235lb. I was much bigger when I was younger. What's "bullying?"
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I got bullied in the third grade by Keith St******* until one day he got in my face and I left hooked him right past his face (didn't have the heart to nail him so I pulled back at the last moment). He never bullied me again and groveled at my feet from that day forth. (I was going to use his full name but I see in Google that he's the only one with that name, lol!)

By the time I got to ninth grade I was almost 6'2", 180 pounds, 44-46" chest (can't remember exactly), 28" waist, 16 3/4" biceps, and was beating my EverLast canvas bag off of it's chains in the basement. I got bused into the city to go to school in the tenth grade and used to give the intercity fellows something to think about when we boxed in gym class. Never had a problem with bullies in all of High School. Yes, I'm bragging, lol. :lol

Now? Let's not go there.... Thankfully the days of having to prove oneself tough among peers has passed.
 
A lot of the crowd I ran with were bad a___s, and we all pretty much "respected" each other only because any altercations would likely be real close contests. I put the word, "respected", in quotations because we really DIDN'T respect one another. The one guy I truly respected was a little runt who stood up to me. I have no doubt he likely thought he was going to at least end up in the hospital, if not in the morgue. But that little guy showed more guts than any of us big guys, and he honestly earned my respect with that stand.
 
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