Today Nov 15 2023 around 12:19 PM my mother keeps calling me back and texting me. “Is she sleeping, just let me know” my mother says, but I keep avoiding answer her question while remaining truthful, redirecting the conversation to whether she received my text message that says “Oh, ok I see” and leaving the call going, as I am as I type this, without saying anything. Because if I did want to answer her, I would have to tell her that my sister went outside to go meet up with a friend.
Since my mother wants to ban my sister from all sleepovers, I know that by telling her this information it would only make her unnecessarily angry. Oh there, she hung up now, that’s a relief.
When I was younger, I felt the need to answer people’s questions, even when I didn’t feel comfortable sharing that information. Because my mother would get upset at me with regards to questions. But now I’ve learned how pointless that is, because whether or not I answer my mother’s questions, she will still emotionally abuse me. I thought that by sucking up to her, by obeying her, that she would somehow stop that, but no. Do not be fooled into thinking that by forming an alliance with those who are abusers that you will be spared from their abuse, you’re only delaying their inevitable wrath. My mentality has completely changed. Since I’m going to be abused either way, I might as well do it for a good cause.
```Exodus 20:16 NRSVue You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor. ```
Unfortunately, I did commit the sin of bearing false witness Exodus 20:19 many times when I was younger, like lying about going somewhere else when I was really working at a call center to try and save money to escape from my mother. That was useless though, because not only did my mother end up following me to my call center workplace anyways, but I also regret trying to run away because it would mean leaving my sister behind.
God is superior to me. So, He must also be better than me. Though I tried to run away, will God ever try to run away from saving all of us? Lamentations 3:31. Though I lied many times in the past, will not God remain truthful to His promise to reconcile all of creation to Himself? Acts 3:21. All people must have faith in God, who is Jesus Christ, only, in order to be permanently saved.
So now my mentality is to just be quiet, or to say filler statements, maybe stuff around the lines of “Oh so that’s your question”, “I am listening”, “Huh”, “Hmmm…”, “Ohhh”. Better to say nothing at all than to tell a lie. Like the legal principle of the “Right to Remain Silent”, I have to remind myself that conversations like this with my mother are not mutual exchanges of dialogue, but rather, interrogations. Because my mother wanted to follow my sister yesterday, without her permission, so the less information she has on my sister’s whereabouts today, the safer my sister is.
Therefore, I have DMed my sister on Instagram about this event. She’s been 18 years old for over a month now and I hope my mother knows that there would be legal consequences to physically following a person in real life in order to harass them.
Since my mother wants to ban my sister from all sleepovers, I know that by telling her this information it would only make her unnecessarily angry. Oh there, she hung up now, that’s a relief.
When I was younger, I felt the need to answer people’s questions, even when I didn’t feel comfortable sharing that information. Because my mother would get upset at me with regards to questions. But now I’ve learned how pointless that is, because whether or not I answer my mother’s questions, she will still emotionally abuse me. I thought that by sucking up to her, by obeying her, that she would somehow stop that, but no. Do not be fooled into thinking that by forming an alliance with those who are abusers that you will be spared from their abuse, you’re only delaying their inevitable wrath. My mentality has completely changed. Since I’m going to be abused either way, I might as well do it for a good cause.
```Exodus 20:16 NRSVue You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor. ```
Unfortunately, I did commit the sin of bearing false witness Exodus 20:19 many times when I was younger, like lying about going somewhere else when I was really working at a call center to try and save money to escape from my mother. That was useless though, because not only did my mother end up following me to my call center workplace anyways, but I also regret trying to run away because it would mean leaving my sister behind.
God is superior to me. So, He must also be better than me. Though I tried to run away, will God ever try to run away from saving all of us? Lamentations 3:31. Though I lied many times in the past, will not God remain truthful to His promise to reconcile all of creation to Himself? Acts 3:21. All people must have faith in God, who is Jesus Christ, only, in order to be permanently saved.
So now my mentality is to just be quiet, or to say filler statements, maybe stuff around the lines of “Oh so that’s your question”, “I am listening”, “Huh”, “Hmmm…”, “Ohhh”. Better to say nothing at all than to tell a lie. Like the legal principle of the “Right to Remain Silent”, I have to remind myself that conversations like this with my mother are not mutual exchanges of dialogue, but rather, interrogations. Because my mother wanted to follow my sister yesterday, without her permission, so the less information she has on my sister’s whereabouts today, the safer my sister is.
Therefore, I have DMed my sister on Instagram about this event. She’s been 18 years old for over a month now and I hope my mother knows that there would be legal consequences to physically following a person in real life in order to harass them.
