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FB thing make me feel insecure

God's_gift

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So here's the latest struggle of my heart. I'm in a 3 month, long distance relationship with my boyfriend this week. But i feel unpeaceful lately or shall i say battling over this unknown before insecurities..hays :shrug i think my boyfriend is " too friendly in Facebook" with girls ( his ex) and some ladies whos identity i know nothing about...should i be threatened about it? I don't wanna use the word " flirting" but i think he failed to guard my emotions right there especially that we're in a long distance relationship...:cryingshould i confront him about what i feel right now but i don't want to appear insecure , "men hate insecure women"..and i'm like no way gonna stalk him forever in social networks that's not so me :sad...or shall i suffer with this by myself...or you think is it time for me to move on? :crying:crying:crying
 

Grazer

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I have a lot of female friends, one is my ex and another I had very strong feelings for. We went for dinner with my fiance and at the end my fiance was worried I might still have sufficient feelings that if she wanted a relationship, I would leave her. I was able to put her mind at rest.

I guess what I'm saying is talk to your BF about it or trust that he's just being friendly towards them. I have a friend where we convinced an entire convention we were attending that we were dating despite the fact half of them knew she was gay (quite a fun night that)

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Bfnaught

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Sometimes I feel like any issue that can be solved by logging off the Internet really isn't a problem. But I think that is the crotchety old man I me coming out (sometimes I feel like the worlds oldest 33 year old). But I understand that social media plays a huge part of people's lives. Regardless of how he will react to it, you need to talk to him about it. Even if the "flirting" is completely harmless, he needs to know how it makes you feel. The worst thing you can do for a relationship is push aside your feelings. They need to be addressed, sooner rather than later.
 

Igloo

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Like the others have said, I would talk to him about it in private. I would also make sure you have mentioned something to the effect of "Hey hun. Just wanted to wish you a great day." on his facebook page for all to see, just in case his ex and other women aren't aware that he is in a relationship (like if his facebook status/profile doesn't say that he is in a relationship). If you truly cares about you, he will probably at least try to give you a well thought out answer and talk to you about it, and he might possibly change how is acting around the other girls.

Of course, if he is just playing around with you and other women (your feelings), he might just go into hiding. But frankly, there are guys who try to hide cheating really well regardless of whether they are married or not. Only time and prayer and etc can truly tell.

Wish you well in your walking out your relationship and in your discernment concerning this situation.
 

Nick

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It might depend on what you mean by "long distance". Is he also in the Philippines (or similar)? If so, if a meetup is possible it might be a good idea to discuss this in person with him. Otherwise, the phone sounds like a good plan.

The ex thing must be difficult. If you lay out your concerns to him he would hopefully be understanding. Maybe he's not aware how he's coming across?

EDIT: just realised your most recent post on this was 2 days ago :oops. If you've talked to him already, I hope it went well.
 

God's_gift

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He's no longer here in the country. He left last month he's in middle east now ( can't mention the name of the country ) working there as an engineer in an oil company. I will be in middle east too hopefully next year but in a different country will be working in one of the business establishment there. It will take 2 years before we can see each other again in person. Hays...

Yeah we've talked last day, and now we're still on the process of working out his pride and me, my insecurities. I just pray that the distance and time will make us grow emotionally, and spiritually. I don't even know where this insecurities are coming from. I guess maybe because i've known him really well coz we're classmate in highschool plus i feel like i'm competing with him in terms of achievements especially in career. The FB thing, all those flirting on the comments and some post of his ...are his immaturity i hope and pray he will grow and learn. He actually asked for an apology. The good thing he's a christian. I have faith that he is the person God wants me to be with and doing a ministry in the future.

 
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