I went out with a guy from my church several times and then it got to a point where we weren't really sure where we were going, and finally talked about it and decided we should be just friends for now even though we definitely have feeling toward each other. And he said something about maybe some day down the road if God leads us to something more, then we would go from there. We text and talk and stuff and he continues to want to hang out with me (and I want to hang out with him too).
I guess I'm not really sure if this is the right thing to do or not because I'm afraid maybe if we hang out alone too much I will end up getting hurt at some point if he starts dating another girl. I pray to God everyday to keep my feelings out of this and to only look at him as a friend and to help us a build a friendship, if it's His will. I just don't really know if it's best to stay at just friends? Is it realistically possible for a friendship to ever become anything more? Or is it better to just break things off completely for now? And is it normal for a guy to really only want to be friends or do you think he's just a player or what? Any input would be appreciated. I've never been in this situation before and I'm 20 and never had a boyfriend and he's 21 and never had a girlfriend.
I know that realistically right now though neither of us are in the position to really have a relationship at the moment. I am have one year left of college before I graduate and am in a really rigorous program and would be so mad at myself if I let anything get in the way of me finishing. He is done with college and working multiple jobs, none of which have anything to do with what he went to college for and none that are really enough to make a permanent living off of and he isn't sure of what God's plans are for him.
I guess I'm not really sure if this is the right thing to do or not because I'm afraid maybe if we hang out alone too much I will end up getting hurt at some point if he starts dating another girl. I pray to God everyday to keep my feelings out of this and to only look at him as a friend and to help us a build a friendship, if it's His will. I just don't really know if it's best to stay at just friends? Is it realistically possible for a friendship to ever become anything more? Or is it better to just break things off completely for now? And is it normal for a guy to really only want to be friends or do you think he's just a player or what? Any input would be appreciated. I've never been in this situation before and I'm 20 and never had a boyfriend and he's 21 and never had a girlfriend.
I know that realistically right now though neither of us are in the position to really have a relationship at the moment. I am have one year left of college before I graduate and am in a really rigorous program and would be so mad at myself if I let anything get in the way of me finishing. He is done with college and working multiple jobs, none of which have anything to do with what he went to college for and none that are really enough to make a permanent living off of and he isn't sure of what God's plans are for him.