Losing my love to her faith?

[cometomorrow]

I am currently in a relationship with a girl that I have come to love and cherish. We have been dating for about 4 months. We really enjoy our time together, but lately she has been talking about how she feels she has drifted from her path and that our sexual relations are blocking her from getting closer to God and discovering her calling.

I told her that I would be willing to practice abstinence, and that I encourage her to follow her path. At the same time, I have found myself looking to my faith, and want very much to strengthen it. I want to know what God's will is for me. If it is in his plan for us to be together, then it shall be so.

Her father is terminal with cancer and he recently told her that he no longer wants to continue his treatments. This has shaken her world. Now she must prepare for his departure, which could be in as little as one or two months. She told me recently that she doesn't think she can see me any longer, that she needs this time to be with her father and to continue her path of growth in her faith. I told her I understand and that I am here to encourage her and support her in anyway I can. But I miss her terribly. I try not to pester her with phone calls and emails (she lives about an hour away).

I know she must take this time for her faith and for her father. I worry that I will lose her in her grief and mourning that is sure to come with her father's passing, and that I will be forgotten in her search for her faith. Because I can not decide for her, I can only pray that this is part of God's plan for her and for me. I have a hard time finding acceptance and putting trust in my faith. But I will try. For selfish reasons, I want her in my life, but she is not sure any longer what she wants, she says. She does call every few days to get in touch, and it lights up my day to her from her. I love her so much and don't want to loose her.

How can I help her and myself at the same time?

in love and prayers,
cometomorrow

 

[KnarfKS]

For one thing she is being responsible and doing the right thing. She is choosing God over you. That shouldn't sound demeaning or I hope it doesn't. If she chooses God then she has her priorities in the right order and you have to respect her for it. If she didn't I would question priorities. Your probably a great guy, but each person's relationship to God is the most important relationship we have.

Let things be. She may be the one God wants for you or she may not be, it takes time. She seems to be going through quite a bit of termoil right now so what she probably really needs is a friend more than anything. I have had a similar situation occur to me, things didn't work out, but we are still friends.

I think that there is a point in most relationships that 2 people have to be away from one another to really see if they want to be with each other. It may work out, or you may realize that after a while you sort of...not miss them as much, if that makes sense. Its hard to explain. :-?

If things work out awesome, if not, God has a better plan for both of you. :D Probably not what you wanted to hear. :wink:

 

[Blazin Bones]

Tough spot. These are my thoughts, and they are tough to stick by.

It may be that God will is for you two not to be together. It's very tough to find someone you care for so much, but God says He's got someone else.

Tell her How you feel, and let her know that if these feeling are to be for just a friend, then keep the friendship. Be there for her, and show her how you feel and let her decide what to do next.

Most of all, pray, as we will for you and her.