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Hospes

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Hi Shushi.

After meeting a man online, is the intent to eventually meet them in person and further get to know them? (I'm 59 yrs old and contentedly married. so I don't have much understanding of what is the objective or how a person expects to pursue it through online dating.) Am I right in thinking that the final goal may be broadening the opportunity for finding a husband?
 

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I would really like understand whether is it OK for Christians to date online.
Yes it is permissible for Christians, but there are basic safety rules.
I would recommend setting up an email account just for online dating. So weirdos cannot easily bother you.
Using it to form online penpals is fine, so long as you remember they are just pen pals.
There is No romantic interest.

If you are looking for romance, one simple question how will you meet.
If they have no transport, or are in another country, even the other side of the country loose interest in romance and relegate them to the status of a pen pal.

On line dating can get you an introduction, but the dating part happens as you meet regularly face to face.

Last comment requests for cash delete that person's account at once. There are plenty of scammers making a good living out of the romantic gullibles.
 

Susannah

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Meeting someone online can work and it can be a disaster. Some people just like to meet as many people as possible and get high off the attention. Others are seriously looking for a partner. If this is the case then be honest in your profile about what you are looking for. Do not just try to impress someone. That is a waste of time. If you your long-range plans include marriage then look for compatibility as well as physical attraction and be honest about your goals. Here is the article I wrote about Christians and dating.
 

Link1983

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I would really like understand whether is it OK for Christians to date online.
Off course it is. Technology is a blessing for the believers.
Absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Ask God for guidance and let Him lead you to the right place.
Maybe use Christian dating site. I personally wouldn't recommend apps like tinder.
But that's my opinion.
Listen to your spirit and to what feels right.
And if it feels wrong, then drop it and find something better.
Nothing is unclean for those who are clean. Paul said..
Shalom and good luck!
 

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As I've said there is nothing wrong with online dating.

But one must be alert for scams and fraud and they are very very good at exploiting anyone who falls for there story.

Basic warning, if not in your country and not in membership of a church drop them.

Any story involving your giving money unless through an organisation you can check out drop them.

View internet dating as being a 14 year old being asked out for a date by an adult and take the appropriate safety precautions.
Do they really exist, does that church know who they are and can confirm they are using the named internet dating site, that they are in work, even working at the firm or business they claim to be at?

Recently the BBC run a news item about online relationships, where a woman was purchased to part with all her savings.
What one should understand is these fraudsters will pass the mark on to others to continue trying to coax more cash out of the milk cow.

One's on line check should always be through a third party, Neve trust online accounts given to one by the online date.
 

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The one thing in life I learn is good things take time. About two months ago I met someone I was talking to online dating and I stayed in contact and just today I invited her fishing this weekend and she might come out if she gets time. I take things so slow I would rather get to know someone over time as a friend and if that's all it is all good we can be friends forever otherwise maybe can grow more.

I am still friends with a few women I met over 20 years ago online dating and nothing happened we just friends and still in contact, sometime I go visit and stay the night, just as friends nothing happens just go visit they cook me dinner and we have a laugh and it's all good. They know they can trust me because I'm not a sleeze who wants in and out or in or out.

It's amazing how all these women I know talk to me about all there dates and dudes coming and going and Im there like exactly, who's the real dude who is there for you and has always been there and never left, your talking to him. Well I don't exactly say that.
 
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kiwidan

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I have been thinking the older I get and the more grey hairs I get and the more I wait patiently, I am like a really good cheese. Lol. Maybe one day I will get married and have a wife, who knows. Either way Im ok with it.
 
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angelfishie

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I have been thinking the older I get and the more grey hairs I get and the more I wait patiently, I am like a really good cheese. Lol. Maybe one day I will get married and have a wife, who knows. Either way Im ok with it.
Or a fine wine perhaps...
Sometimes I feel like I've been on the shelf waiting... Someone married me but then forgot I was even there and just left me to gather dust :lol... thank the Lord I'm free of that dingy cellar now.
Ah well one day I'll meet the connoisseur that will appreciate this blend :biggrin
 
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