TrustinNGod
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- Dec 2, 2025
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Hello family,
I am in desperate need for the body of Christ to come together and pray for my marriage. My wife and I have been separated for a month and a half and I have no contact with her whatsoever. She left one night after an arguement, packed a few things “for the night” as she told me and never came back.
This is the fourth or fifth time she leaves this year. The first was back in January. She’s felt mistreated, emotionally and verbally abused, and she left. she’s felt as though she lost herself in this marriage and my harshness, expectations , and pressure on things were too much, and not ok. In January when she came back she told me all the things I haven’t done right, how I’ve mistreated her and I felt convicted. I prayed, fasted and God showed me that my behavior and reactions to things were not godly and not biblical. I took steps to change, to allow God to transform my heart. I’ve realized where a lot of my behavior come from (not an excuse but I grew up in a dysfunctional family and I’ve learned such unbiblical patterns and behaviors in communication). I’ve sought therapy, Mens group, etc. things were better than they were not. As we’ve been trying to heal from hurt, as I’ve been changing/healing myself we still found ourselves in arguments and fights that were not godly. But we both verbalized to how God was working and changing out hearts as change takes time. Truth is we both grew up in dysfunction, dads not present, moms who were emotionally and verbally abusive to us. The point is this last time she left she took a lot of things with her . Difference is she only took a couple of things this time (the first time she cleared out almost all her closet and even changed her mailing address). She’s left her computers, her mail keeps coming, all her clothes except a few items are still here. She’s deleted all her social media, no way to reach her. Blocked me on everything. She once told me she felt overwhelmed the first time she left because of everyone who was contacting her after I reached out to them. She said that was manipulative (I did it to have people praying for us, to seek counsel from those people I knew love us). So this time around I’m giving her all the space I can. But it’s hard, I’m desperate, I miss my wife. I wish she were here to continue on the road we were on to healing. I guess I’m asking for prayers. For continued changes of heart, that God may continue to help me be humble, loving, change my unbiblical perspectives I grew up with, to love my wife as Christ loved the church. That restoration and repair can happen in my marriage. We’re both broken and we both need Christ. I believe miracles can happen. I believe God can change and transform hearts. Can you all pray alongside with me. That my wife may be open to reconciliation?
Thank you
I am in desperate need for the body of Christ to come together and pray for my marriage. My wife and I have been separated for a month and a half and I have no contact with her whatsoever. She left one night after an arguement, packed a few things “for the night” as she told me and never came back.
This is the fourth or fifth time she leaves this year. The first was back in January. She’s felt mistreated, emotionally and verbally abused, and she left. she’s felt as though she lost herself in this marriage and my harshness, expectations , and pressure on things were too much, and not ok. In January when she came back she told me all the things I haven’t done right, how I’ve mistreated her and I felt convicted. I prayed, fasted and God showed me that my behavior and reactions to things were not godly and not biblical. I took steps to change, to allow God to transform my heart. I’ve realized where a lot of my behavior come from (not an excuse but I grew up in a dysfunctional family and I’ve learned such unbiblical patterns and behaviors in communication). I’ve sought therapy, Mens group, etc. things were better than they were not. As we’ve been trying to heal from hurt, as I’ve been changing/healing myself we still found ourselves in arguments and fights that were not godly. But we both verbalized to how God was working and changing out hearts as change takes time. Truth is we both grew up in dysfunction, dads not present, moms who were emotionally and verbally abusive to us. The point is this last time she left she took a lot of things with her . Difference is she only took a couple of things this time (the first time she cleared out almost all her closet and even changed her mailing address). She’s left her computers, her mail keeps coming, all her clothes except a few items are still here. She’s deleted all her social media, no way to reach her. Blocked me on everything. She once told me she felt overwhelmed the first time she left because of everyone who was contacting her after I reached out to them. She said that was manipulative (I did it to have people praying for us, to seek counsel from those people I knew love us). So this time around I’m giving her all the space I can. But it’s hard, I’m desperate, I miss my wife. I wish she were here to continue on the road we were on to healing. I guess I’m asking for prayers. For continued changes of heart, that God may continue to help me be humble, loving, change my unbiblical perspectives I grew up with, to love my wife as Christ loved the church. That restoration and repair can happen in my marriage. We’re both broken and we both need Christ. I believe miracles can happen. I believe God can change and transform hearts. Can you all pray alongside with me. That my wife may be open to reconciliation?
Thank you
