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Sex is an obligation(?)

Jethro Bodine

Jethro Bodine

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Do you agree with this statement?:

"In a marriage your spouse owes you sex. What you can't do is demand it from them."

True? Not so true? Needs a little adjustment or explanation?

Release the lions! :lol
 
Jethro Bodine said:
Release the lions! :lol
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1 Corinthians 7....(NKJV)
3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
6 But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment.


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Jethro Bodine said:
Do you agree with this statement?:

"In a marriage your spouse owes you sex. What you can't do is demand it from them."

True? Not so true? Needs a little adjustment or explanation?

Release the lions! :lol
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Gary said what I was going to say.

But should one demand it? That needs more clarification I think.
 
Gary said:
1 Corinthians 7....(NKJV)
3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
6 But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment.


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I agree, but having a right to sex does not mean one should DEMAND it. There are far too many other factors in marriage, not the least of which is respect for your spouse.
 
Deborah13 said:
But should one demand it? That needs more clarification I think.
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Verse 5 from that passage I posted says we aren't suppose to "deprive" one another of sex. I take that to mean if your spouse wants sex, give it to'em.

5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time


Just my take on it.
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Jethro Bodine said:
Do you agree with this statement?:

"In a marriage your spouse owes you sex. What you can't do is demand it from them."

True? Not so true? Needs a little adjustment or explanation?

Release the lions! :lol
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Yes it is an obligation. I know that this is hard to hear for many but it is true. If one has no interest in that obligation one can always not get married and simply be a single, not married Christian.
 
Is it wrong to politely remind your spouse of their obligation to be sexual in the marriage, or should you just hope they figure it out some day? What do you do when that friendly reminding gets heard as a demand for sex?
 
Jethro Bodine My ex did tell me during our first year of marriage to let him "make the move" because I was always doing it and it made him feel pressured and less manly.So I did back off .I can understand knowing now how different we were/are how it seemed demanding to him.Man it always seemed like forever waiting for him lol.
 
Jethro Bodine said:
Is it wrong to politely remind your spouse of their obligation to be sexual in the marriage, or should you just hope they figure it out some day? What do you do when that friendly reminding gets heard as a demand for sex?
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I think that it is fair for the partner who is deprived of intimacy tp be able to say so, to confide and express the situation to their closest partner, their spouse. How each couple communicates, deals with it, I won't judge. To the partner who is denying the obligation it will seem harsh to be confronted with this, superficial, irrelevant. It's not that this intimacy itself is favored over abstinence. It's that marriage involves certain obligations, and Corinthians does state them clearly. For the partner who is unhappy with this, prayer among the two is needed. If the partner is a woman, women should recall God's demand that they be obedient. Men on the other hand can always work on their courting skills. Women are not blind to romantic gestures and true love. As a couple a man and woman can pray and help each other about this. Is it true that refusing in this area violates the marriage covenant, gives grounds for divorce? I don't know but am interested in hearing about it. Maybe better than reminding the spouse, show love and care for the spouse, express it as a biblical problem, discuss it and pray over it. It's not a demand to be made on the spouse in a human way. It's part of marriage, it's expected and unless we want to change the bible, those who don't want to engage that way can always simply not marry and be content being celibate.
 
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Deborah13 said:
Pray, have a serious discussion, seek counseling.
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I agree. When physical affection gets put on the back burner, it's time for a sit-down.
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Gary said:
I agree. When physical affection gets put on the back burner, it's time for a sit-down.
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counseling is not anything I personally would do. Counseling is based on human views, psychology, secular resolution. I'd pray, read the scripture together, discuss it with humility as christians. The disobedient partner should submit to the Lord in this. There is no other answer.
 
Gary said:
1 Corinthians 7....(NKJV)
3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
6 But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment.


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That is what I thought of as soon as I saw the topic title.
 
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