Should a wife control or manage her husband's bank account?

[Classik]

Should a wife control or manage her husband's bank account?

Some believe wives can be trusted with such...some others however are of the opinion that such is a crazy idea that: women would squander this on unnecessary luxury.

I see our men can manage the home less than our women can do.

'While Adam went to work Eve stayed home to put things in order'. Classikisim speculationairesm :wink

 

[Gary]

Should a wife control or manage her husband's bank account?

Some believe wives can be trusted with such...some others however are of the opinion that such is a crazy idea that: women would squander this on unnecessary luxury.

I see our men can manage the home less than our women can do.

'While Adam went to work Eve stayed home to put things in order'. Classikisim speculationairesm :wink

That would depend on her ability to work with numbers. I see no reason to deny her the task simply because she's a woman. And unless each has their own separate account, that one account should their account, not just his.
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[Kathi]

Should a wife control or manage her husband's bank account?

Some believe wives can be trusted with such...some others however are of the opinion that such is a crazy idea that: women would squander this on unnecessary luxury.

I see our men can manage the home less than our women can do.

'While Adam went to work Eve stayed home to put things in order'. Classikisim speculationairesm :wink

When a couple are married they should have joint bank accounts.What is his is hers and visa versa.Why hide anything?Why try to control anything in a marriage?Share and share alike or I would question the marriage.

 

[Christ_empowered]

some couples do better with the woman doing the number crunching. I know this one couple, dude's a business owner and she's a trained cpa. They work together beautifully.

Sometimes joint checking accounts are the way to go. My parents have both...1 joint, then they have their own separate accounts for...well, I dunno what for, lol. They mostly share their resources, but I guess they each have his and hers smaller accounts for fun stuff (my best guess).

 

[Just a servant]

Should a wife control or manage her husband's bank account?

Some believe wives can be trusted with such...some others however are of the opinion that such is a crazy idea that: women would squander this on unnecessary luxury.

I see our men can manage the home less than our women can do.

'While Adam went to work Eve stayed home to put things in order'. Classikisim speculationairesm :wink

Depends on the wife.

 

[Kathi]

some couples do better with the woman doing the number crunching. I know this one couple, dude's a business owner and she's a trained cpa. They work together beautifully.

Sometimes joint checking accounts are the way to go. My parents have both...1 joint, then they have their own separate accounts for...well, I dunno what for, lol. They mostly share their resources, but I guess they each have his and hers smaller accounts for fun stuff (my best guess).

Whoever is best at numbers and has the best head for keeping the budget but they should always be one financially.Having the money in one pot.

 

[Edward]

Sure. Depends on the Wife. If she is well suited to it, then she should. Division of labor.
My wife was very frugal (at first, lol) and very good at managing money. I am ok at it, but she was better, and wanted to do it so it made perfect sense to let her do it.

We had a joint account, and she also had her own private account, which was ok with me. it was better for her to have a private account for herself so it didn't interfere with the paperwork flow of our joint business account together.

I paid all the bills (the business) and told her that if she chose to work outside the home that she could keep that money for herself, which I thought was fair because the bills were my responsibility. I even gave her money on top of that when I had it, and when I was thin, she would help out in an instant. it worked good for us.

 

[Just a servant]

Edward u might wanna head back over to the examination thread

 

[Edward]

Edward u might wanna head back over to the examination thread

Gotcha. :wink

 

[th1b.taylor]

There are so many correct answers for this one that any answer is the correct answer. In the case of my mother, the answer was no. In the case of my wife the answer is yes fro several reasons that I'll not be willing to discuss.

Every marriage is as different as people are. some women are dingbats or the joked about blond, and almost all are somewhere in between just as some men are the perfect provider and some are not worth the price of the powder it would take to drive a .22 cal. bullet into their head and most men are somewhere between. My Deeter has always managed our funds and I have always had access to both the checking and the savings accounts and we both carry bank cards. I have never removed money without first insuring the amount fit into the month's budget and she has been wonderful.

Today I still carry a bank card but she has complete control because I gave her my signed POA and my Living Will where, by the Law in Texas she can keep my wish and after 72 hours she is instructed to turn the machines off and to let me expire. I would be incensed in Heaven if the doctors kept me on those stupid machines until she was broke. Today, with my POA she can present it and, legally, sign for me on anything. I trust her that much and that is how all of us should feel about the person we married.

 

[reba]

th1b.taylor Eph_5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

 

[Willie T]

Should a wife control or manage her husband's bank account?

Some believe wives can be trusted with such...some others however are of the opinion that such is a crazy idea that: women would squander this on unnecessary luxury.

I see our men can manage the home less than our women can do.

'While Adam went to work Eve stayed home to put things in order'. Classikisim speculationairesm :wink

Wow ! Have you REALLY read your choice of words here?
"Some believe wives can be trusted with" (Awk !!!.... Flag, flag, flag, RED FLAG !)
"OUR women" ???????
"squander on unnecessary luxury"

Because I have spent so many years listening to men who have issues with women, talk about women, it has become second-nature to hear attitudes. There are a few more "tells" in this post that would take too long to explain. But, suffice it to say, you might want to sit down and have some long, open discussions with the women in your life.

Just something to consider.

I haven't checked, but I will bet you dollars to donuts that if you haven't written it here, then you have said words similar to this in conversation somewhere... "Should wives (or, "women") be allowed to........."

 

[Deborah13]

When a couple are married they should have joint bank accounts.What is his is hers and visa versa.Why hide anything?Why try to control anything in a marriage?Share and share alike or I would question the marriage.

Why would you assume that because a couple have separate checking accounts that one is trying to hide something from the other?
Thinking about budgeting it is actually beneficial to have three checking accounts. One holds the monies for monthly payments. Then each partner has an account that they have a budget for. In each account is the monies to cover whatever they are responsible for buying, say groceries, fuel for their vehicle, etc. as well as spending for extras (say a new skirt ).This method can stop a lot of arguments over where is the money going, or one partner spending too much and then the monies from the monthly payments is not there.
This method in no way means that the other person, if need be, could not have access to those funds or not know what is in all the accounts.
Ultimately it is what works best for the individual couple.

 

[Claudya]

Like everyone said... if you have a joined bank account you should both manage it, or agree on putting one of you in charge of it. It's up to you who should do it. Either the one who is better at it, or the one who's not as good at it as the other so he/she has a learning opportunity. Gender isn't so important. And if both have their own bank accounts each of them is in charge of their own (otherwise what good would there be in having your own?)

Having seperate bank acounts instead of, or in addition to, a joint one, can be an individual choice and it may have benefits for a marriage. Both retain some personal freedom to spend money on their own projects and hobbies or simply on their fun without straining the family budget.

 

[Claudya]

Wow ! Have you REALLY read your choice of words here?
"Some believe wives can be trusted with" (Awk !!!.... Flag, flag, flag, RED FLAG !)
"OUR women" ???????
"squander on unnecessary luxury"

Because I have spent so many years listening to men who have issues with women, talk about women, it has become second-nature to hear attitudes. There are a few more "tells" in this post that would take too long to explain. But, suffice it to say, you might want to sit down and have some long, open discussions with the women in your life.

Just something to consider.

I haven't checked, but I will bet you dollars to donuts that if you haven't written it here, then you have said words similar to this in conversation somewhere... "Should wives (or, "women") be allowed to........."

Yeah he (I think it's a he) keeps posting that kind of threads. Either he's from a somewhat backward culture, or he's doing this for his personal entertainment. He's probably too young to have actual women issues.

 

[reba]

We have 2 joint accounts. A lessen learned when he was working out of town 2 check books one account is really dumb .
Because of different locations the accounts ended up in different banks...
I pay the bills it just works out for us ... He is the spender ... We call the accounts mine and yours...they are joint...

each marriage is unique what is the good balance for one may not be for the other...
I pick out paint colors he has chosen the furniture .
I do small electric and plumbing repairs , now that he is retired he does most his own laundry... marriage is a balance between the 2 people involved ...

He worked full time i was blessed to be able to take care of our kids full time... in those days he was pretty much waited on... later when i worked outside the home stuff got divided up by abilities not by gender....

Yet i absolutely believe in being the submissive wife...

 

[Obadiah]

Yeah he (I think it's a he) keeps posting that kind of threads. Either he's from a somewhat backward culture, or he's doing this for his personal entertainment. He's probably too young to have actual women issues.

If I remember right in another post he said he was German, Claudya. I think we'll let you be in charge of him from here on out. You don't mind, do you?

 

[Rollo Tamasi]

In America, where I was brought up (Boston), Jewish woman would stay home and raise the family and control the finances.
The man would work and provide the finances.
Though they made decisions together, she held control of the money, taking away the chance that the husband would do something foolish with it and the family would no longer be provided for.
Sounds like a good system to me, each with their own responsibilities, yet working together.

 

[Obadiah]

We have 2 joint accounts. A lessen learned when he was working out of town 2 check books one account is really dumb .
Because of different locations the accounts ended up in different banks...
I pay the bills it just works out for us ... He is the spender ... We call the accounts mine and yours...they are joint...

each marriage is unique what is the good balance for one may not be for the other...
I pick out paint colors he has chosen the furniture .
I do small electric and plumbing repairs , now that he is retired he does most his own laundry... marriage is a balance between the 2 people involved ...

He worked full time i was blessed to be able to take care of our kids full time... in those days he was pretty much waited on... later when i worked outside the home stuff got divided up by abilities not by gender....

Yet i absolutely believe in being the submissive wife...

My mom and dad had much the same way of doing things. When my dad retired one of the things he took over was the cooking and washing up dishes after. He found out he absolutely loved cooking and it became a source of pride and enjoyment for him for the rest of his life! (Not to mention a source of great food for the rest of us!)

 

[Willie T]

My mom and dad had much the same way of doing things. When my dad retired one of the things he took over was the cooking and washing up dishes after. He found out he absolutely loved cooking and it became a source of pride and enjoyment for him for the rest of his life! (Not to mention a source of great food for the rest of us!)

That is way beyond cool !