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Should An Adult Date A Minor?

Norman

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I would...as long as she showered after work...oh, a mi-nor! That puts things in a totally different light.
With me, it was a maturity issue. When I was 14, I was a child. When I was 18, I was a man. When I was a teen, I never went out with anyone more than a year younger than me.
I'm single and in my 60s, I'd never consider seeing anyone younger than 50. But that's just me. I have a kid in his 40s. For me, as I get older, I find older women look better.
I don't know how many people are like that today.
The most astonishing thing in life for me today is that I'm in my 60s!
How did that happen? It's like I pulled a Rip Van Winkle...more like Rip Van Wrinkle!
My mid-life crisis didn't start until the day I turned 60. I feel younger than I've ever felt!
My daughter-in-law recently said to me, "If you dyed your hair, you'd look 60." Sigh!
I recently joined an online seniors group. I get along good with them as we relate well!
"What happened, man?"
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I'd date a Miner. If she was at least 50, Lol.

You know what's better about older girls? Lots of things!
 

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The thing is, they need to be at similar levels of maturity. I wouldn't approve of an 18 y/o with a 14 y/o
But a 19 y/o with a 17 y/o would be much closer in development. Anyone older than like 20 with a 17 y/o though is probably not a good idea.
 

Norman

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That sounds reasonable. Back in the 70s, I met a 14 year old that was more mature than most 20 year olds, but that was an exception to the rule.
Her future husband and I became close friends and they had a little boy named Harley, who was the cutest little guy and when he talked, he sounded like Donald Duck.
Harley died of a drug overdose last year. Sometimes I don't like this life very much.
One day...nor more pain, or mourning, or pain, or death.
 

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Mostly why I asked this is I've thought that some minors looked attractive before. (The lifeguards at our pool) I've commented on some YouTube videos that some celeb teens looked cute and I have said online that are some teens that I love as a younger brother or sister and sended them virtual hugs or kisses on the cheek.


Now obviously we aren't dating since I'm engaged and I'm not sexually attracted to any of them, but I was just afraid that somebody might get supicious anyways and my butt might be thrown in jail. Then again as usual I'm probably blowing it way out of proportion and worrying for nothing again. Just like I did when I commented on a minor's YouTube video when I thought that they were really pretty.
Probably should be asking Jesus to help you not to judge by outward appearances but the heart. I think Emerson said character was above intellect, but I also think character should be above beauty.

Scripture seem to teach women not to be concern about the outward appearance as the society we live in does hype them to do.

Proverbs 31:30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

1 Timothy 2:9 In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; 10 But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.

1 Peter 3:Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; 2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. 3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; 4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

Then there is this; we may not be lusting but pride of life does seem to appeal to us than those who do not raise to the standard of public appeal.

1 John 2:15 Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. 17 And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.

2 Timothy 2:22 Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

One can apply that to flee pride of life too.

Do we show Christ's love equally to the unattractive or the disfigured? Naturally, we would abstain for why we need His love to help us love others without partiality.

Do we need to discern ourselves for why we compliment others? Is it to encourage them or to flatter them in giving them a swell head? Should we not encourage others when they do something good or do we compliment them on their appearance and thus raise the level of expectations on themselves to maintain that appearance?

I knew a married man that defended himself for looking at a pretty woman by saying, "I'm not dead", but then I said to him in humor that he was gonna be, thus inferring his wife's displeasure if she had known.

That is the thing I have noticed about men looking at women and that is when the women do it, the men are offended.

So I believe we need the Lord's help to not look at people as society has trained us to do, even for ourselves to avoid the pride of life.

Psalm 36:10 O continue thy lovingkindness unto them that know thee; and thy righteousness to the upright in heart. 11 Let not the foot of pride come against me, and let not the hand of the wicked remove me.

Should an adult date a minor?

I think an adult should date a major, if you can pardon the pun. Living that reconciled relationship with God thru Jesus Christ Whom happens to be the Bridegroom should be foremost in our thoughts & hearts with His help so we can keep the foot of pride from ourselves as well as other people too.
 
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