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Why is he dragging it out? If you two are in agreement with the settlement there should be no legal reason for him to drag it out. If you don't have kids or property it's not that expensive.
Building a house and building God's household are two entirely different things that require two very different kinds of 'workers'. I would not attend a church where fornication by it's members, let alone it's spiritual staff, is allowed.
Jesus recognized marriage as more than just agreement and physical union. Jesus knew that the woman who had five previous husbands was not married to the one she was now with. He apparently did not recognize simply being together physically by agreement as being married.
Sadly, all that legal stuff is going to require lots of legal $tuff.
he used the term concubine by implication. the word she would have know in aramiac would be close to that. that is our version of liven bf/gf. a relationship of convienance . its a sin to do that.
Let his girlfriend know that.
Yes he did. I think the idea of becoming "one flesh" speaks to more than just being together physically by agreement. But still, is there any scripture to say how to do that?
Not that I know of off the top of my head. I guess we have to go by what it is not.
the fact that the jews had the chuppa and in the sandhedrin could put to death for adultery. the chuppa has a legal part to it. I wish I had my grandparents marriage contract in aramiac.
Look into free legal assistance to low income people if you haven't already tried that. When my wife divorced me (she freely admitted to adultery and refused to repent, by the way) she used a legal aid place of some sort and paid either nothing or almost nothing. Somewhat like your husband (but for different reasons) I didn't agree to the divorce because I felt I should forgive her and work on healing the problem instead, but she didn't want to. Much like your case, there was no property dispute and no kids. Even though I refused to agree to the divorce, it still automatically became final 6 months after I was served with the papers.
What's a "chuppa"?
the ceremony is called the chuppa but its the canopy. much of that is around that. I have a pic of that for my family. the ketubah is the marriage itself. if I get that right.
As I was reading this thread, this is what I was thinking, I have thought about this for awhile. Being married according to the laws of states is not a requirement in God's eyes, He never said this, it's just men making up their own laws. Why should we let the state determine if a couple is married in God's eyes? I'm sure there are people who marry and God does not see it as such.Good point. We have no Biblical instructions on what constitutes a Biblical marriage other than a man and woman "becoming one flesh". That would be a good topic for discussion if people could stay civil and not fight over it.
Are we really absolutely sure that if a man and woman simply agree with each other before God that they will now become "one flesh" with each other and "marry" each other, that they aren't really married in God's eyes? I agree we are probably wise to do it in the way of church tradition and government guidelines, but are we really living in sin if we do it any other way? (And what scripture supports that?)
A very good point. One well worth contemplating.
So why didn't Jesus consider the woman at the well not married to the man she was presently with?