I never had friends that were girls. Except for this one time. But that was no good. She was a bad influence.
I was in a leadership program, there was one girl that came up and said "let's be friends". We're not friends though. I see her at church but still after a year+ I haven't gained the guts to talk to her (or anyone).
It pisses me off though. She showed she wanted to be friends, and I never acted on it. I didn't know how. I wish I could today, but its just too awkward now.
I want female friends to fellowship with.
I don't even feel deserving to hang out with them. I'm a creep. I quit porn a while ago, and I still struggle with lustful thoughts. I feel filthy to even make eye contact. Why did God have to make girls so good-looking?
It depresses me though with the aspergers on top of it.
This is the prayer I ask for:
That God would make me into the Holy and strong man that he wants me to be.
And for girls to be friends with, to fellowship, and to serve. (And with hopes that perhaps I'd find a wife some day).
Your issue is no greater than any other normal Male believer. I have a few awesome looking friends that are girls, but it's what you do with thoughts that count, not the thought itself. Birds fly over your head, but the don't have to build a nest and what you allow yourself to meditate on most will be what grips you.
Meditating on things you should not have creates a desire that is unfulfilled and you just make yourself miserable.
Praying for God to make you that way is not going to help. You have to follow scripture and through that God moves.
Wherefore
lay apart all filthiness and superfluity of naughtiness, and
receive with meekness the engrafted word, which is able to save your souls.
(Jas 1:21)
2Co 10:5
Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;
And be not conformed to this world: but
be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
(Rom 12:2)
Someone that does not meditate constantly on Scripture gets a weak spirit, a weak spirit can't contain the acts of the flesh.