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Grace Alone
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Hi, I'm new to this forum and hoping to get some advice and support from anyone who's expereinced any of this in their marriage.....
I am newly married (just over two months) and everything is going really well so far, except that my husband is struggling with impotence. Though we are trying to not let it effect the rest of our relationship, it is sometimes a source of great stress and frustration. We are learning how to talk about it and God is drawing us closer together and closer to him through this struggle. He is going to the doctor next week.
At first it was devastating, and It took me quite a few weeks to get over the many negative thoughts and feelings that bombarded me. Even though he assured me that he couldn't be attracted to anyone more than me and told me how beautiful I am and how much he loves me, I still felt inadequate and rejected. It was, and still is, difficult for me to understand how we can love each other so much, yet he rarely has a physical response to that love, but I am learning how to not take it personally. I know all these negative feelings in me are Satan's attempt to get a grasp on our relationship and try to twist our marriage. I don't want to become angry and feel sorry for myself and make him feel guilty. I know it's not his fault and I don't want him to feel like it is.
We are learning how to talk openly about all this, and it has helped. We understand each other better now, and are able to tell each other what we need. We've been praying about it together for the last few weeks and that has made a huge difference in how we feel about things. I feel more at peace now - well, usually. I still feel frustrated, and a little scared. I become afraid over the uncertainty of things. It's hard not to wonder and question if this will always be an issue, and if so, how we will deal with it. I know we haven't been married very long and things will get better. I just don't want this to become a source of problems if it is an ongoing thing. We can deal with it right now, but what about a year from now, or ten years.....
I don't know if there is anyone here who has had to deal with this, but I'd appreciate feedback from anyone who would be willing to share. Thanks for listening!
I am newly married (just over two months) and everything is going really well so far, except that my husband is struggling with impotence. Though we are trying to not let it effect the rest of our relationship, it is sometimes a source of great stress and frustration. We are learning how to talk about it and God is drawing us closer together and closer to him through this struggle. He is going to the doctor next week.
At first it was devastating, and It took me quite a few weeks to get over the many negative thoughts and feelings that bombarded me. Even though he assured me that he couldn't be attracted to anyone more than me and told me how beautiful I am and how much he loves me, I still felt inadequate and rejected. It was, and still is, difficult for me to understand how we can love each other so much, yet he rarely has a physical response to that love, but I am learning how to not take it personally. I know all these negative feelings in me are Satan's attempt to get a grasp on our relationship and try to twist our marriage. I don't want to become angry and feel sorry for myself and make him feel guilty. I know it's not his fault and I don't want him to feel like it is.
We are learning how to talk openly about all this, and it has helped. We understand each other better now, and are able to tell each other what we need. We've been praying about it together for the last few weeks and that has made a huge difference in how we feel about things. I feel more at peace now - well, usually. I still feel frustrated, and a little scared. I become afraid over the uncertainty of things. It's hard not to wonder and question if this will always be an issue, and if so, how we will deal with it. I know we haven't been married very long and things will get better. I just don't want this to become a source of problems if it is an ongoing thing. We can deal with it right now, but what about a year from now, or ten years.....
I don't know if there is anyone here who has had to deal with this, but I'd appreciate feedback from anyone who would be willing to share. Thanks for listening!