oops I just noticed this is the forum I am not allowed to post in because I am single.
So this will be my last post here. I hope the mods won't delete my posts, since it is more of a "theoretical" topic.
I actually think that's a good thing for Christian couples to consider. The man (or woman) can get mad about not having sex, or, because he/she knows the possibility of bringing a new life into the world, he/she can restrain their sexual desire and not take it out on his poor spouse and be at peace about the way this works in life. But how can the man who has the 'free ticket to ride' come to this place easily?
Well it's never a "free ticket" anyway. Even within a marriage you will always need your partner's consent to have sex, otherwise you will commit an act of sexual violence (not sure about the American law, but in Germany where I live rape within a marriage is a punishable offense like any other rape). And I'm convinced most men wouldn't take pleasure in violating their wives. So any reason someone has to not want to have sex on a particular day is valid. No matter if it's a headache, stress, lack of libido or risk of pregnancy.
Yes, it's a good way to 'plan for a family', lol. I have four kids...thanks to the ovulation method of birth control.
Yeah a friend of mine prevented both her sons with natural family planning.
She's very happy she's got them though. But she's on the pill now.
I love my kids dearly and don't regret having them (I deeply regret the world they came into). It's just that the ovulation method did the exact opposite for us of what it was supposed to do, lol.
Yeah, kids are awesome and you are a lucky guy to be blessed with so many kids!
You know the dangerous days to have sex are the 5-7 days BEFORE the ovulation, right? ;)
Well it's not a totally save method, but it's the method I will prefere to use if I ever get married. I guess the thought that we might create new life would make it a thousand times more exiting anyway.
Okay, good point to consider. I knew it would come along sooner or later.
Does a big family automatically equate to being mastered by sex? I wouldn't say so.
Are big families really a bad thing? I'm one of six kids. Six because the seventh died at an early age. I had a wonderful childhood.
Of course big families can be planned just as big as they are. But from what I heard my great-grand parents lived in rough times economically. They were working class people and I really can't imagine they planned to have 11 kids. Or maybe I lack imagination...
unno But I'd rather think they had sex and didn't worry much.
Unwanted pregnancies just happened in pre-pill days. People knew what could happen and ignored it or took the risk. It's not like men in those days were totally self disciplined and today's males are either sex addicted monsters, or frustrated because their wife won't let them have it.