My wife and I celebrated our 4th anniversary in December. I love her very much and am happy with our relationship in many ways but a few things are destroying us and me emotionally. We met online in a Christian singles group. I was a single dad at that time and she had never been married before. She lived with her brother so she came to my house on the weekends. I had no way of knowing her housekeeping skills.
She won't do any house cleaning at all. My mother was an immaculant housekeeper. Almost to a fault. I like a clean healthy environment. She knew that but decided that wasn't important enough to mention. I'm very serious, if I didn't clean the house, do the dishes, it would never get done. She'd just buy new dishes.
She also drove my car for a few months without telling me she didn't have a valid drivers license. My insurance company told me when they canceled my policy.
We got a bit off topic here but it hurts me that I have to be the only housekeeper so my wife can read. I really feel like her love is for her own benefit.
I'm really not sure what to do and what as a Christian I'm allowed to do. I do know I can't live in filth which is what I live in when I don't clean the house myself. But if I don't clean the house myself I will live in filth because she will not even use a trashbag.
She won't do any house cleaning at all. My mother was an immaculant housekeeper. Almost to a fault. I like a clean healthy environment. She knew that but decided that wasn't important enough to mention. I'm very serious, if I didn't clean the house, do the dishes, it would never get done. She'd just buy new dishes.
She also drove my car for a few months without telling me she didn't have a valid drivers license. My insurance company told me when they canceled my policy.
We got a bit off topic here but it hurts me that I have to be the only housekeeper so my wife can read. I really feel like her love is for her own benefit.
I'm really not sure what to do and what as a Christian I'm allowed to do. I do know I can't live in filth which is what I live in when I don't clean the house myself. But if I don't clean the house myself I will live in filth because she will not even use a trashbag.