I'm not a huggy type person, either--personal space and all that. (Plus I'm shy enough to avoid eye contact 90% of the time.) But if someone hugs me I usually hug back.
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I had this same problem with two men of the Church I use to attend. I am a hugging person, but they were more into my boobs touching them and would make remarks to me and I would just push them away and explain to them how wrong that was and when I did this they never said anything more to me. Sometimes you just have to be straight forward with people like this and set them in their place and let them know this is not pleasing to the Lord.
Some time ago I met a couple from my church who became my friends.
One day at church the husband said, how are you and proceeded to hug me. When he hugged me I felt this stiffness in his groin. I pulled away. Since then I do not hug men. I believe a handshake is enough. I do not like a man hugging a woman and her breast rubbing on his stomach. Some might think I am paranoid, but I will not give men, whether they are Christians or not cheap thrills. Men should hug their wives in this fashion. Why would he have this stiffness (would not call it an erection) but it was very embarrassing to say the least.
I personally have never seen a normal hug as a chance for cheap thrills and I've never heard a guy brag he hugged a girl or mention it in a sexual way. I'd think you'd have to be very immature or extremely sexual to see it like that. Maybe you shouldn't give up on hugs.
As a guy I would point out that in the morning and even during the day sometimes stiffness happens without it being sexual. I doubt he was on the way to church fantasizing or saw you dressed in church clothes and got excited about the idea of human contact when he has a wife. The only thing that seems odd to me was that your lower body was touching during the hug. I don't know, you could probably tell the difference as he touched you but if this was the only thing it could just have been because it was early.
I personally have never seen a normal hug as a chance for cheap thrills and I've never heard a guy brag he hugged a girl or mention it in a sexual way. I'd think you'd have to be very immature or extremely sexual to see it like that. Maybe you shouldn't give up on hugs.
Let's keep this discussion decent, eh?
Some people are huggers and some aren't. Most people can read nonverbal cues and know when a hug isn't appreciated.
I dislike the hug that feels like an obligation. Like after I've worked with the same people every day, giving nothing more than a nod. Then we get together for a company party and everyone feels like they have to give hugs.
It's like that with church, too. Everyone's into smiles and talk until we're out at a church-related dress up event. Everyone's giving hugs!
Jethro, I'm with you. There's nothing like giving a woman a polite hand only to get it crushed by the lady's death grip. That's a bit emasculating. :gah
Some time ago I met a couple from my church who became my friends.
One day at church the husband said, how are you and proceeded to hug me. When he hugged me I felt this stiffness in his groin. I pulled away. Since then I do not hug men. I believe a handshake is enough. I do not like a man hugging a woman and her breast rubbing on his stomach. Some might think I am paranoid, but I will not give men, whether they are Christians or not cheap thrills. Men should hug their wives in this fashion. Why would he have this stiffness (would not call it an erection) but it was very embarrassing to say the least.
I confess, I'm a little amused by this, too.Most people can read nonverbal cues and know when a huge isn't appreciated.
I have a rule...don't date any woman who can bench press more than you...or, whose hand shake brings you to your knees.Jethro, I'm with you. There's nothing like giving a woman a polite hand only to get it crushed by the lady's death grip. That's a bit emasculating. :gah
I confess, I'm a little amused by this, too.
I have a rule...don't date any woman who can bench press more than you...or, whose hand shake brings you to your knees.
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I laughed out loud when I read this because I wanted to say what you said but didn't have the nerve! Thank you!!!
I'm also the one who will tell a man his zipper is down.
I'm also the one who will tell a man his zipper is down.