[__ Prayer __] Please pray

[destiny]

Maymaggie, sometimes our willingness to live under those terrible circumstances does more harm than good to the marriage. It causes the abuser to lose all respect and take further advantage of the abused.
Staying in a situation like that can actually hinder any hope of restoration. I know once you are emotionally and physically free from this bad situation you will feel like the weight of the world has been lifted from you. I pray God will give you strength and make a way for you to have a home and take care of your child.

 

[mayaggie]

I believe you are so right!i have put up with embarrising me and just total disrespecting me when
it comes to girls (i won't even say women).It is so hard to walk away.I would like to think he will
change but in my heart i know he's not.Please pray for me that i will have the strength to leave this time.

 

[destiny]

Trust the Lord, mayaggie. You've been able to find a false sense of comfort in these terrible circumstances because they are so familiar to you; the thing is they have really only served to destroy your strength and dignity. Leave your husband with the Lord and allow Him to heal you and make you whole again.
I'm praying!

 

[mayaggie]

They are more familiar than you know.Growing up my mother had one affair right after the other
on my father.I finally confronted her about it the other day and pointed out that i did not fool
around on my husband like she did.She just said well he fooled around on me first.I don't find that hard to believe but the difference is my father did not bring his children in the middle of it.
People do not realize how that behavior hurts the whole family.I guess at least i can feel good
to know that i am winning the battle with the drinking.

 

[mayaggie]

Well,today i will filling be for a divorce.I would be lying if i said it didn't hurt.I have at least managed
to stay sober.I can not give him any reason to take my son from me.If he thinks it will keep him
from giving me anything in the divorce he will.We have been together for 10 yrs and he said he stopped loving me afer the first.When you are always flirting and hanging all over other women
how can you exspect to stay in love with your wife.I hate that he has wasted 10 yrs of my life.

 

[Ginger]

First of all I want to encourage you for doing well with the stop drinking -
God is good and He knew you would be going through this so He wanted you to turn to Him before it all started. He knows how you are hurting and how much over the years you have been sinned against. He now wants to take you and heal you and your son.

We don't know what will happen to your husband but I completely agree with destiny - you can't keep putting up with abuse like that. He has been unrepentant and there has been no consequence of his actions, so sad it is, you are completely right you need to leave him. God will deal with him, his arrogant sin and abuse to you. And I will keep praying for him, also that he will make everything easier for you.

Let God minister to your heart daily, listen to Him for His voice and His prompting in what you should do and how you should daily handle all situations. He knows your needs and He has already prepared the way for you, all He wants is for you to completely put your faith and trust in Him, knowing He is going to provide and then give Him the glory. I can personally attest to this - it is amazing seeing God working and knowing 100% it is and can only be Him.

I am praying that you will find some Christians so they can support you and give you fellowship that you need at this difficult time.

I wish I could send you the biggest, strongest, supportive hug. But I already know God has you in the palm of his hand, giving you the most powerful, best hug in all heaven and earth!

 

[mayaggie]

Well,didn't get to file my divorce today because the attorney had said was going to cost about
$5000 to go to court.I thought he said i could pay a $1000 down in which i was going to borrow
from my mom just to get started.Then pay basted on if we when to court or not.Today he said i would
at least need to pay $2400 today.I am going to try to find a cheaper attorney because my mom
can't really afford that.Thank you so much for your prayers!I think the thing that hurts the most
is i know my husband would not be wanting a divorce if he was not seeing someone else.
That is really what bothers most people that go thru a divorce when one is dating someone else.
I think it's mostly because you know they would not be wanting a divorce if they was not seeing
someone else.My husband is taking pre law classes at night.His income will go up where as mine
will not yet he does not want to give me anything.

 

[Kelli]

My husband is taking pre law classes at night.His income will go up where as mine
will not yet he does not want to give me anything.

Yeah, but your Daddy is richer than His!

Philippians 4:19 And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.

Matthew 6:7 And when you pray, do not use vain repetitions as the heathen do. For they think that they will be heard for their many words.
8 “Therefore do not be like them. For your Father knows the things you have need of before you ask Him.

Mayaggie, you need to praise God! Praising Him is positive affirmation of His power. You are not tied to your husband anymore because he committed adultery, but if you still love him, it may mean God want's you to get away from him for awhile, and let God do what God does. He changes lives. Mayaggie, my life was a mess, I read today in a little book about fasting, that God doesn't want your ability, He want's your availability! Step back away from your husband, let him get the divorce. Take the money you were going to spend on a lawyer and get yourself an apartment and make it a home for you and your son. If you are still in love with your husband despite what he has done, God may still want you together, but you need to step out of it and trust God to do what changes your husband needs in his heart.

I don't know, you may know some, but not all, of the baggage your husband is carrying. But we know who does know.

Trust Jesus! If you can't quit alcohol and drugs, Fast from them. Fast for a day, then for two. We have a battle going on in our hearts and minds at all times. Two forces one good one evil. We have the flesh part of us, who only wants to satisfy the lust of the flesh. Then we have the spirit part of us, who only wants to satisfy the Holy Spirit.

Mark 14:38 Watch and pray, lest you enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.â€Â

Right now Mayaggie, the flesh part of you, is stronger than the spirit part of you. The only way for your spirit to become stronger, is by taking steps to strengthen it. You are doing good by trying to quit drinking and drugs. Keep that up! Even if you have a set back, your not starting back at the beginning. Each time you do try and succeed your spirit becomes stronger than your flesh. Each time you pray, each time you fast, each time you praise Jesus, each time your spirit wins over your flesh, each time you have a victory, every time you get back up after a fall, you build those spirit muscles... Keep at it DON'T GIVE UP!!!!

Love you and I am still praying.

Love, Kelli

 

[destiny]

Amen, Kelli

Don't worry about anything right now, just be with the Lord and trust Him. Allow God to open that abusive, oppressive, dark cage and set you free. Run girl, run!!!

 

[Ginger]

Yes mayaggie I agree with the others. You have been praying and God seems to be saying no (well yesterday!) just now with regards to divorce. Don't get hung up about getting the divorce right now. Just leave and as Kelli says take that money and get an apartment and start getting on with your life. Then leave tomorrow and next week and month and your husband in God's hands.

You do need to leave him and get away from that abuse and start getting on with your life. Only God knows what the future holds which is why we have to trust Him and follow Him. I realise this seems daunting as your job is tied up as well as your house with your husband. But if you trust and believe God will provide a miracle.

I don't know if your son is your husbands as well as I realise that makes the situation a bit more complicated as he needs to give child support. But if you can agree just now without lawyers what visiting rights he should have, then at least you don't need to think about the rest for at least a couple of weeks. As long as you are away from your husband that is the important thing.

I know at church the pastor should be able to give you advice or that he would know a lawyer in his congregation.

 

[lovely]

Prayed for you last night. I am praying that God continues to draw you nearer to Him, and to free you. Concerning your family, I am praying that God would do a work of restoration. The Lord bless you, Mayaggie.

 

[mayaggie]

First of all i just want to say thank you to all who has been praying for me.I know it's helping because i am staying sober.Today was very hard.My husband can not understand why i am having
a hard time acting like nothing is wrong while we work on getting our divorce.We have two children that live with us.one is his and one is ours.Our son is 7yrs old and will go with me.
I have and appt. with and attorney in the morning.I had to go to the printing store to make copies
of some letters and emails forms girls that was wrote to my husband.And some legal papers also
to give to the attorney.I knew the girl that was working their.When i told her we was getting a divorce she told me that my husband had hit on her and tried to hook up with her best friend.
These kind of stories are endless.It is not only hurtful to hear this but also embarrassing.
I know isn't a christian attitude but i hope some day he ends up with someone just like himself
that flirts with every man in town.

 

[destiny]

mayaggie, just know your husband is to be pitied. If he doesn't find the Lord or get some sort of counsel for himself he will more than likely die a very lonley unfulfilled person. He has very serious issues of his own that need working out, whether he knows it or not.

I pray God will help you to be healthy and whole again, and that He will bless you with His presence and peace as He meets your needs.

 

[mayaggie]

Well,i went to see and attorney today and he seemed like a good one.Couldn't help me due to conflict of interest.He had been my husbands partners attorney.My husband went ahead and filed
for the divorce.Wants to look like he divorced me.I have and appt. with another one in the morning.I did get me a job today cleaning condos.Was surprised when i had to take a drug test just to be a maid.I passed it!! I'm still sober.I am praying that the Lord will help me not to be angry and bitter.

 

[Ginger]

Well,i went to see and attorney today and he seemed like a good one.Couldn't help me due to conflict of interest.He had been my husbands partners attorney.My husband went ahead and filed
for the divorce.Wants to look like he divorced me.I have and appt. with another one in the morning.I did get me a job today cleaning condos.Was surprised when i had to take a drug test just to be a maid.I passed it!! I'm still sober.I am praying that the Lord will help me not to be angry and bitter.

Will continue to pray for your husband, for his repentance of all his sins, and turning to God, that he will then realise, after God has started a restoration work in his life, how much he has sinned against you.

Also am and will keep praying for you and your continued walk with Him. You saying how you don't want to be bitter and angry, just shows how much God is working through you just now - just hold on to that.

I am sure that is hard but you are exactly right only God can take away that pain as that bitterness would only rob you of your own joy.

Forgiving doesn't mean saying it is OK, you have a right to be angry, it's just that we can't sin in our anger and not hold onto it for too long. And anger so quickly leads to other things! Forgiving just means leaving it in God's hands to judge. And your example of how a christian should be, dealing with anger and bitterness is helping others reading this - you are a good witness just now (I know that's not much comfort but maybe one day it will be - you are storing up treasures in heaven!)

I know you are going through some really really hard times at the moment and on top of that, giving up drink and drugs. You are really doing well, just keep in the faith and perseverance and God is and will bless you. So glad you found a new job, and are starting a new life.

I found this site with loads of bible verse on it, very encouraging-

http://www.geocities.com/lilly_light/BibleVerses.html

 

[mayaggie]

Well,I did hire a attorney today.The reality is finally hitting me that we are going to divorce.I am
scared to death!! Not knowing what our future holds.My husband could not care less.

 

[mayaggie]

I just found out that my husband has been taking a young blond all over town to meet his friends.
It's not the one i suspected.He has no shame.He did the same thing 3 yrs ago and i stayed.I will be
so glad when this is over and i am away from him.

 

[lovely]

Still here praying...

 

[Caroline H]

Maggie, I am so very sorry you are going through this. I pray that the Lord will comfort you and give you strength. I pray that you will be an example of Christ to your husband through your peace and love. I pray that you are able to forgive him, even though you are separating. Most of all, I pray that the Lord's will be done in your life through all of this and that you rely completely on Him to see you through this time. He is your Guide, your Comforter, and your Closest Friend.

 

[mayaggie]

Thanks so much for your prayers!I know they are helping.To found a script the husband had filled
a week ago.It was for something similer to viagra.I can't remember the name.I also found his copy
of our divorce papers.He is not offering me anything except the furniture i bought.He also is
not even offering child support.It is so hard living in the house with him because he is acting
cocky and making sure to let me no that he is not hurt by this.He has a free babysitter while he
comes and goes as he pleases.His attitude alone give the affair away.