I thought this was an interesting clip to illustrate what I'd like to talk about:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HS5rbw0uGhg
I was reading a post on another forum once. A young woman in her early 20's lived with her parents and they had an 11 o'clock curfew for her. Some of the other people thought that was outlandish, controlling, etc.
I started thinking about it. In the Old Testament, at least, the father is responsible for his daughter until she marries. The unmarried daughter can eat the high priest's priestly food. The Israelite father can cancel his unmarried vows.
I can't find any scripture that condemns parents of adult children for being too 'controlling' by giving their kids a curfew.
We live in a wicked society, especially when it comes to sexuality. A comment on another thread pointed out that even young people raised in Christian homes are rarely virgins by the time they hit adulthood. This is truly sad.
I was a virgin when I got married in my late 20's. My wife is from a country where it is normal for people to be virgins when they marry, even in their late 20's or early 30's. Losing your virginity is stigmatized there. She was a virgin on our wedding night. I am thinking about what helped me get to that point. One thing was I didn't date much. I was serious about my faith, and if I dated a girl, I'd want her to have the same beliefs and to be serious about her faith. Also, she'd have to be extremely beautiful according to my own picky taste. And I was a little shy about the whole thing. The combination kept me from dating. I also took the teachings of scripture against fornication quite seriously as a teen.
I did not have a philosophy about dating worked out in my 20's, or I might have gone about what dating I actually did differently.
Since then, I have come to the conclusion that US dating culture is poison. Children who go out on dates aren't even spouse-hunting in most cases. Society tells them not to marry in their late teens. Why does society tell them to date? What is the point of dating if not to find a spouse? To find someone to fornicate with, or someone to make out with to just tempt yourself to fornicate? If you believe fornication is okay and that kids should experiment with sex, dating should make sense to you. But why do Christians let their kids indulge in such things.
My girls hear about teenage dating. I tell them that just isn't going to happen in our household. When they get old enough to get married, I'll help them make a decision. I plan to offer my son guidance and protection in this area.
It's not my job to see that they have girlfriends and boyfriends that they like. I'd my job to protect them while they are under my care. I think that may mean a curfew and screening potential suitors at age 25 if need be, especially for the girls.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HS5rbw0uGhg
I was reading a post on another forum once. A young woman in her early 20's lived with her parents and they had an 11 o'clock curfew for her. Some of the other people thought that was outlandish, controlling, etc.
I started thinking about it. In the Old Testament, at least, the father is responsible for his daughter until she marries. The unmarried daughter can eat the high priest's priestly food. The Israelite father can cancel his unmarried vows.
I can't find any scripture that condemns parents of adult children for being too 'controlling' by giving their kids a curfew.
We live in a wicked society, especially when it comes to sexuality. A comment on another thread pointed out that even young people raised in Christian homes are rarely virgins by the time they hit adulthood. This is truly sad.
I was a virgin when I got married in my late 20's. My wife is from a country where it is normal for people to be virgins when they marry, even in their late 20's or early 30's. Losing your virginity is stigmatized there. She was a virgin on our wedding night. I am thinking about what helped me get to that point. One thing was I didn't date much. I was serious about my faith, and if I dated a girl, I'd want her to have the same beliefs and to be serious about her faith. Also, she'd have to be extremely beautiful according to my own picky taste. And I was a little shy about the whole thing. The combination kept me from dating. I also took the teachings of scripture against fornication quite seriously as a teen.
I did not have a philosophy about dating worked out in my 20's, or I might have gone about what dating I actually did differently.
Since then, I have come to the conclusion that US dating culture is poison. Children who go out on dates aren't even spouse-hunting in most cases. Society tells them not to marry in their late teens. Why does society tell them to date? What is the point of dating if not to find a spouse? To find someone to fornicate with, or someone to make out with to just tempt yourself to fornicate? If you believe fornication is okay and that kids should experiment with sex, dating should make sense to you. But why do Christians let their kids indulge in such things.
My girls hear about teenage dating. I tell them that just isn't going to happen in our household. When they get old enough to get married, I'll help them make a decision. I plan to offer my son guidance and protection in this area.
It's not my job to see that they have girlfriends and boyfriends that they like. I'd my job to protect them while they are under my care. I think that may mean a curfew and screening potential suitors at age 25 if need be, especially for the girls.
