To make the first step, not...

[Esther1]

Hello,

I have the following situation:

Some time ago I noticed that one boy from the church that I attend began to pay attention to me (by getting a hing at me). Honestly, when I noticed his attention to me I started paying attention to him too, and keep thinking about him. Of course, I begin to prey about this situation. But nevertheless, it would be interesting to me to communicate with him (to strike up a friendship with him, in order to know if he is the person I really want to be with, to know if we have some common interests and etc.). But I am not a person who make the first step in such kind of relationships (at least I did not think up how to do this and I am not sure if I should do this). We are involved in the different ministries in the church and do not have an opportunity to have a talk….
I would prefer a boy to make some first steps…..But, at least currently, there are no steps from his side, nor from mine… :gah

Maybe some one had the same situation or something like this, please, share your experience

Thank you.

 

[Caroline H]

I would always let the guy approach you, rather than you approach him. Guys are made to pursue, girls are not, and if he's having a hard time with it he needs to learn to be more bold.

 

[Feldew]

I would always let the guy approach you, rather than you approach him. Guys are made to pursue, girls are not, and if he's having a hard time with it he needs to learn to be more bold.

Just because he isn't bold doesn't mean there's something wrong with him.


If you like him you go ahead and talk to him. See how it goes. :3 Good luck.

 

[Blazin Bones]

Esther, do you mind if I ask how old you are? I'm guessing you are still young, so my thoughts would be wait to see what happens.

 

[Sound Silence]

I would always let the guy approach you, rather than you approach him. Guys are made to pursue, girls are not, and if he's having a hard time with it he needs to learn to be more bold.

I'd say otherwise. The guy might not be *that* interested, and you'd be missing an opportunity if you let it slide.

It's pretty arrogant of a girl to think a guy will always come to her, and she might end up alone waiting for that to happen.

 

[jasoncran]

[quote="Caroline H":1udeojxc]I would always let the guy approach you, rather than you approach him. Guys are made to pursue, girls are not, and if he's having a hard time with it he needs to learn to be more bold.

I'd say otherwise. The guy might not be *that* interested, and you'd be missing an opportunity if you let it slide.

It's pretty arrogant of a girl to think a guy will always come to her, and she might end up alone waiting for that to happen.[/quote:1udeojxc]
that was done alot in the ot. Men iniated the relationship. Depends on the guy when i was single and still hurting a little i would tend to be shy. I waited for a few months after a relationship ended so that i could get over the other person the i would look. Some days i would ask others i wouldnt. I asked my wife when she worked at Dilliards, thats how we met. :heart I would talk to christian friend and then i noticed her and one day i just asked, that was almost 10 yrs ago.

 

[Esther1]

Esther, do you mind if I ask how old you are? I'm guessing you are still young, so my thoughts would be wait to see what happens.

Blazin Bones, thank you for your reply. ;)


Dear all,

thank you all for your replies. There are a lot of interesting and reasonable points of view. I will think over them.