animal said:
LaMexicana said:
Finding a guy who doesn't mind dating/courting a single mom...haha...
Mostly I have found that men aren't honest right away. Just be straight up with what you want! I want marriage and kids...why can't dudes express that? I know most men know those answers...just say it! Why is it like pulling teeth?
I want that eventually. It's scary when you know a girl is LOOKING to get married. I dated one girl and had to cut it off after a week because I found out how obsessed she was with being in a relationship and getting married. It's not that she wanted to marry
me it's just it made me feel like I wasn't that special. I want a girl to be with me because she WANTS to.. not because she's in need of a relationship.
I'm not saying you're like this girl.. I obviously have no idea. What answers are you talking about?
I can see what you mean. Some chicks are crazy about marriage and babies.
As far as myself, I felt I have expressed it in the past without sounding like a weirdo. I was asked what I wanted in life and I said marriage and more children...which is the truth. Do I want it at that instant with that person? No necessarily. Obviously there are other things I want in life and I express those things as well but I like for guys to know that I'm not out to "have fun" and date a bunch of dudes, you know?
I know what I want and I don't want to waste my time or theirs playing this game of uncertainty.
For example: My ex (after being together for 2 years and being completely aware of my desire to have more children) was asked by one of his lady friends if he wanted "more" children...meaning he already was a "father" to my child. He said one was enough. What?? Seriously? What?
First of, my daughter is not his nor was he a true father figure to her. Second, after two years of knowing that I wanted children, he's still wasn't sure?? Give me a break. Needless to say, we got into a fight that evening because I found the answer utterly ridiculous. Things went down hill frome there...
Sorry, I'm rambling. All I'm saying is it's a yes or no answer and, to me, that tells a lot about the future of the relationship. Even saying something like "Yes, I want children but I'm not ready right now." would be satisfactory. Yes or no, people!
Ok. High fives.