Hi there abide, the link you posted was interesting; reba closed the thread, and this is fine; part of the linked material the God questions? site says: 'If a husband and his wife are in full agreement, with neither being forced or coerced, God has given married couples freedom ... Could this freedom include black leather costumes, non-violent bondage, and role-playing? There is nothing in the Bible that explicitly restricts such activities.' Interesting perspective; obviously it can potentially go over the top and to excess, as the article says as well, but it doesn't necessarily, is the point being made, it seems. Ty for drawing attention to the useful comments, anyway. Blessings