[__ Prayer __] A lot on my plate...

[mrsjkt]

I don't even know where to begin. First of all, I love my husband. We have a great marriage and I wouldn't want to be with anyone else. We have a fantastic 1 1/2 year old son. I have wonderful family, friends and church. I really am blessed.

With that said, there are things that weigh on me a lot. When my husband and I got married we moved 700 miles away from my family. We moved due to job opportunities. However, I miss my parents and sisters so much. I miss seeing them and mostly, it kills me that our son isn't around his grandparents, aunts, uncle and cousins.

I want so badly to move back and my husband and I have discussed it, but he doesn't feel the same way as I do. We do love our church and he has a job that he really likes. Right now, we are equal distance between my family and his family.

Sometimes I feel like I'm being selfish in wanting to move back and I can't tell him I'm unhappy because he takes it as I'm not happy with him.

I've been praying for God to show me his plan and give me peace about all this. I just don't know how to talk to my husband about this in a way that he will understand and not be threatened.

The other thing weighing on me is that I am not working right now. I lost my job in August due to my department closing. I wanted to be home with my son anyway, but I'm worrying about finances. I've been trying to get in home daycare started up, with no luck so far. I also am an independent distributor for a direct selling business, but I haven't been able to get that going either. I feel that I am supposed to be home with my son and be a wife and mother, but I am worrying a lot about getting some income.

I feel life is very confusing right now and I'm not sure how to handle it all and be the best wife and mother I can be while waiting for God's timing on all my questions.

 

[faeriecat]

Something to think about, in this new town. Maybe you're there to be a big sister to someone who is lost in your community. My sister lives in Connecticut with her two boys, I'm in Georgia. Totally understand the distance thing, and the stress no income can add to things. Just keep communicating with your husband and God ... and your family back home (got to love the internet for ease of communications these days) ...

Welcome to this community.

 

[Carolyn]

You first need to support your husband in his job where you are. I know how hard it is because when we were only married a month we had
to move away from my family and I couldn't find work. I was really depressed and lonely. We didn't have children to even occupy my time,
there was snow on the ground and we lived 5 miles from town. We had 1 car. My option was to hitch hike with a semi. Not the best thing.
So I do understand. But I still must advise you to support your husband and fully submit to his choice.
Enjoy your child. He is growing, learning and changing so fast right now. Be thankful that you can stay home and see it.
In fact. we are told to be thankful in all circumstances.
Be thankful that your husband has a job.
Be thankful that God is aware of your needs. Our pastor lays his bills all out on the bed and asks God to provide. God is faithful.
Be thankful that your names are written in the Lamb's book of Life.
Memorize Philippeans 4:4-8 and do what it says.
Right now it is God's will that you be content where you are. It is a part of dying to self. " If at all possible, take this cup from me.
Never the less Not my will be done but Thine." This is what Christ prayed in the Garden before going to the Cross. We are required
to take up our crosses and follow HIM. Luke 9:23
I AM PRAYING

 

[iLOVE]

I don't even know where to begin. First of all, I love my husband. We have a great marriage and I wouldn't want to be with anyone else. We have a fantastic 1 1/2 year old son. I have wonderful family, friends and church. I really am blessed.

With that said, there are things that weigh on me a lot. When my husband and I got married we moved 700 miles away from my family. We moved due to job opportunities. However, I miss my parents and sisters so much. I miss seeing them and mostly, it kills me that our son isn't around his grandparents, aunts, uncle and cousins.

I want so badly to move back and my husband and I have discussed it, but he doesn't feel the same way as I do. We do love our church and he has a job that he really likes. Right now, we are equal distance between my family and his family.

Sometimes I feel like I'm being selfish in wanting to move back and I can't tell him I'm unhappy because he takes it as I'm not happy with him.

I've been praying for God to show me his plan and give me peace about all this. I just don't know how to talk to my husband about this in a way that he will understand and not be threatened.

The other thing weighing on me is that I am not working right now. I lost my job in August due to my department closing. I wanted to be home with my son anyway, but I'm worrying about finances. I've been trying to get in home daycare started up, with no luck so far. I also am an independent distributor for a direct selling business, but I haven't been able to get that going either. I feel that I am supposed to be home with my son and be a wife and mother, but I am worrying a lot about getting some income.

I feel life is very confusing right now and I'm not sure how to handle it all and be the best wife and mother I can be while waiting for God's timing on all my questions.

They are who they are today, we are who we are today based on what we thought about ourselves yesterday, and what we thought about yesterday. Ask the Father to touch your thoughts and put you in a perfect place. Just like Joshua and the children of Israel; they were in the land of milk and honey while the people where still in Canaan. They were talking about the grapes, fruits, and pineapples, while the people was talking about the giants. Two people seeing the same thing and different thoughts. Let us focus on the promise and not the pain; the promotion and not the problem. This is the same tool Satan used against Eve in the Garden. We must renew our minds!

Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is--his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2

Your Husband sees the promise while you see the problem. God has plans for you where you are. Pray and ask God to open your eyes to see the promise. Remember there are good ideas and Godly ideas.
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