Be the Salt of the Earth. Be a lamp, a light.

[Not_Now.Soon]

I have a question for anyone willing. Some background information first.

Recently I found out via a social network that a friend of mine is getting a divorce. He and I have been friends for a long time and I've befriended his wife as well. But my issue is whether or not I have contributed to their getting seperated. A few months ago I spoke some critism to my friend's wife about her causes and issues that she supports. I said she favored her causes more then she favors holding on to her relationships and friendships. From recent discussions to both of them online, my friend assured me I did not harm their relationship, and she thanked me for my critism be cause it opened her eyes to her not valuing relationships and being ok with that. It left me with the impression that I might have intended to help her with retaining friendships and instead contributed to them having a divorce.

So my question is for those of you who have had any experience of God directing you, or on waiting for God to direct you. If any of you have some insight for having God direct you, and knowing it's from God, please let me know. I would like to become the salt of the earth, not poison with good intentions. I would like to be a light to help instead of an obstacle to stumble over. With a good heart and with study I can hopefully do alright. But if I don't have God directing me, my intents will only measure up like everything else does that we do. Any advise? How do you let God direct you?

 

[th1b.taylor]

I have a question for anyone willing. Some background information first.

Recently I found out via a social network that a friend of mine is getting a divorce. He and I have been friends for a long time and I've befriended his wife as well. But my issue is whether or not I have contributed to their getting seperated. A few months ago I spoke some critism to my friend's wife about her causes and issues that she supports. I said she favored her causes more then she favors holding on to her relationships and friendships. From recent discussions to both of them online, my friend assured me I did not harm their relationship, and she thanked me for my critism be cause it opened her eyes to her not valuing relationships and being ok with that. It left me with the impression that I might have intended to help her with retaining friendships and instead contributed to them having a divorce.

So my question is for those of you who have had any experience of God directing you, or on waiting for God to direct you. If any of you have some insight for having God direct you, and knowing it's from God, please let me know. I would like to become the salt of the earth, not poison with good intentions. I would like to be a light to help instead of an obstacle to stumble over. With a good heart and with study I can hopefully do alright. But if I don't have God directing me, my intents will only measure up like everything else does that we do. Any advise? How do you let God direct you?

You already are there! Right now you are trying to become a victim, don't do that, it make one ugly.

 

[Wrg1405]

I have a question for anyone willing. Some background information first.

Recently I found out via a social network that a friend of mine is getting a divorce. He and I have been friends for a long time and I've befriended his wife as well. But my issue is whether or not I have contributed to their getting seperated. A few months ago I spoke some critism to my friend's wife about her causes and issues that she supports. I said she favored her causes more then she favors holding on to her relationships and friendships. From recent discussions to both of them online, my friend assured me I did not harm their relationship, and she thanked me for my critism be cause it opened her eyes to her not valuing relationships and being ok with that. It left me with the impression that I might have intended to help her with retaining friendships and instead contributed to them having a divorce.

So my question is for those of you who have had any experience of God directing you, or on waiting for God to direct you. If any of you have some insight for having God direct you, and knowing it's from God, please let me know. I would like to become the salt of the earth, not poison with good intentions. I would like to be a light to help instead of an obstacle to stumble over. With a good heart and with study I can hopefully do alright. But if I don't have God directing me, my intents will only measure up like everything else does that we do. Any advise? How do you let God direct you?

The issue is not as a result of what you have said, the issues already existed. I do not believe for one minute your words have contributed to them deciding to seperate and divorce. That choice is what they both want or one of the other wants. They are responsible for their own actions, those over the years that they or either has done to lead to this sorry conclusion.

Your words to the wife opened her eyes, how she walks in that is her choice and that's not your fault.

I'm not sure I can tell you how God directs you/us personally. He directs each of us in the way he knows we will walk out in faith. My perception of the way God directs me in the way he does may be different from yours.

For me the main think I do before I say or do something I pray hard about it. Well I say pray hard, at times I know but I say no. Then God keeps coming to me with it. I've even had an argument with him in a public car park and saying no I won't do it. Then stomp off in a huff as I go to do what I feel he has asked me to do/say.

I think the main thing is that we test what we think he is asking, ensure that we are doing what we think he asking in love for all involved. To me if I fail those tests I don't go with it.