My wife and I have decided that I am going to stay home and be a full time caregiver for her.
I spoke with someone that works in the program that pays family/spouses to care for their loved ones and I can be paid to care for my wife. Only requirement is that she's on Medicaid and she is. I have also found out that there is a grant that will pay a family member to stay home and be a caregiver that is in the amount of $500 a month.
Melissa has been thinking that the reasons why I have only been able to find short term work, is because I was supposed to be home all along. That I am very devoted to caring for people and that I became an EMT because God had been grooming me for taking care of her full-time. That my applying for many varied jobs, some that should be easy to get into such as being a server at a restaurant or bus boy and no one having an interest is because all along God was saying that I should be home taking care of her.
I had to wait for my wife to come to the conclusion that she was ok with me staying at home and getting paid for it. She was taking the "husband will provide" Scripture as monetarily only. Several people have told her that by me doing the housework because she is unable, me driving her everywhere because she is unable, me doing what she would normally be able to do, but cannot because of her illness is me providing for her and the household. Just because it's not money, doesn't mean I'm not providing in another way.
She has been reading her Bible more these past few days and it's amazing what God has been showing her and how now she is seeing what others have been telling her about us and about me especially.
She now realizes that I am here for her no matter what. That no matter how bad she gets, I'm staying and that I meant it every time that I have said it. She is wanting to work on our marriage more, when before all she wanted was me gone.
My only concern is that the program that would allow me to be paid as her caregiver may say that she's not nursing home bound, therefore she's not disabled enough. She went to physical therapy today and it was the first appointment, so there was paperwork to fill out. When she got to the section that asks what she is able and not able to do during the course of the day she had only checked three things, but she went back over it and realized that there was more, much more she can no longer do.
So I am hoping that will suffice for this program that she needs a caregiver, at least for most of the day.
On Monday I had asked her since her mom is here helping out for a week if she wanted to read the Bible together. She had been reading earlier today. She let me know that she would just prefer to read the way that she does and that's opening the Bible at random and reading what she opens too. It's the way she prefers to read the Bible, just as I prefer to read it front to back using a reading plan. Her method works for her, while my method works best for me, our minds work differently and I can respect that.
She did say that she will come to me when she gets a revelation (like on Monday and I will get to that shortly), or has a question that maybe I have an understanding on and can answer.
We have been having issues in the sex department for a couple months now. Since she gave birth, and her illness has come back off it's hiatus while she was pregnant, she has had no desire for sex. While she was pregnant her desire had been heightened and I responded since I have a very high sex drive. So I have felt neglected in that area and just in the area of touch overall. It is my primary love language after all.
So last night I mentioned to her that I feel neglected because even our pets come before anything with me does. She didn't say anything in response and I dropped it and went to sleep.
This afternoon when her mom stepped out she let me know that what I had said was on her mind when she sat down to open up her Bible and read. She said that she felt that my need for sex wasn't valid and that I am an adult and should just man up and live without it. So when she opened up the Bible she opened up to Ephesians 5:21-33 and realized that I have been holding up my end of Ephesians 5:21-33 the best that I am able to. She said it hit her that the Lord was showing her that her withholding sex is wrong. That my need for sex is something that is a very real need and that she can see why I felt neglected.
So I showed her 1 Corinthians 7 as well and she got further revelation that she was withholding sex.
So she's like God was letting her know that she was wrong.
There was more to talk about, but her mom came back in and we decided to continue it later. Which we did, but also did more than talk .
Lots of positive things have been happening.
I spoke with someone that works in the program that pays family/spouses to care for their loved ones and I can be paid to care for my wife. Only requirement is that she's on Medicaid and she is. I have also found out that there is a grant that will pay a family member to stay home and be a caregiver that is in the amount of $500 a month.
Melissa has been thinking that the reasons why I have only been able to find short term work, is because I was supposed to be home all along. That I am very devoted to caring for people and that I became an EMT because God had been grooming me for taking care of her full-time. That my applying for many varied jobs, some that should be easy to get into such as being a server at a restaurant or bus boy and no one having an interest is because all along God was saying that I should be home taking care of her.
I had to wait for my wife to come to the conclusion that she was ok with me staying at home and getting paid for it. She was taking the "husband will provide" Scripture as monetarily only. Several people have told her that by me doing the housework because she is unable, me driving her everywhere because she is unable, me doing what she would normally be able to do, but cannot because of her illness is me providing for her and the household. Just because it's not money, doesn't mean I'm not providing in another way.
She has been reading her Bible more these past few days and it's amazing what God has been showing her and how now she is seeing what others have been telling her about us and about me especially.
She now realizes that I am here for her no matter what. That no matter how bad she gets, I'm staying and that I meant it every time that I have said it. She is wanting to work on our marriage more, when before all she wanted was me gone.
My only concern is that the program that would allow me to be paid as her caregiver may say that she's not nursing home bound, therefore she's not disabled enough. She went to physical therapy today and it was the first appointment, so there was paperwork to fill out. When she got to the section that asks what she is able and not able to do during the course of the day she had only checked three things, but she went back over it and realized that there was more, much more she can no longer do.
So I am hoping that will suffice for this program that she needs a caregiver, at least for most of the day.
On Monday I had asked her since her mom is here helping out for a week if she wanted to read the Bible together. She had been reading earlier today. She let me know that she would just prefer to read the way that she does and that's opening the Bible at random and reading what she opens too. It's the way she prefers to read the Bible, just as I prefer to read it front to back using a reading plan. Her method works for her, while my method works best for me, our minds work differently and I can respect that.
She did say that she will come to me when she gets a revelation (like on Monday and I will get to that shortly), or has a question that maybe I have an understanding on and can answer.
We have been having issues in the sex department for a couple months now. Since she gave birth, and her illness has come back off it's hiatus while she was pregnant, she has had no desire for sex. While she was pregnant her desire had been heightened and I responded since I have a very high sex drive. So I have felt neglected in that area and just in the area of touch overall. It is my primary love language after all.
So last night I mentioned to her that I feel neglected because even our pets come before anything with me does. She didn't say anything in response and I dropped it and went to sleep.
This afternoon when her mom stepped out she let me know that what I had said was on her mind when she sat down to open up her Bible and read. She said that she felt that my need for sex wasn't valid and that I am an adult and should just man up and live without it. So when she opened up the Bible she opened up to Ephesians 5:21-33 and realized that I have been holding up my end of Ephesians 5:21-33 the best that I am able to. She said it hit her that the Lord was showing her that her withholding sex is wrong. That my need for sex is something that is a very real need and that she can see why I felt neglected.
So I showed her 1 Corinthians 7 as well and she got further revelation that she was withholding sex.
So she's like God was letting her know that she was wrong.
There was more to talk about, but her mom came back in and we decided to continue it later. Which we did, but also did more than talk .
Lots of positive things have been happening.
