Oy. Well, first of all, I think the family were a bunch of maroons for having a video made that had 'inappropriate images' that would be shown in a CHURCH. THAT I find repugnant, whether it was heterosexual or homosexual. The only taste these people evidently have is in their mouth. I also would not have allowed any open mikes, where people can say anything they want.
Otherwise, minus any other tasteless events that were planned, I would have buried this guy from the church. But, it would have had to have been in decency and good order. The benefits of a liturgical church is that we don't allow any vaudeville acts. The funeral, or Burial Office is read, the officiating celebrant preaches the sermon---not a eulogy---and that's that.