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divorce and remarriage

shad

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18Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery. Luke16

Above is Jesus' word that most pastors and priests don't like to talk about in their sermon. Just because we can divorce our spouse due to their adultery does not make it alright to remarry according to Jesus.
 
shad said:
Just because we can divorce our spouse due to their adultery does not make it alright to remarry according to Jesus.

Actually, this is speaking about any form of divorce BESIDES divorce for reasons of adultery. This is in direct reference to the Jews, who used to divorce for any reason they could conjure up.

I'd refer back to Matthew 19:9

“And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.â€
 
Pard said:
shad said:
Just because we can divorce our spouse due to their adultery does not make it alright to remarry according to Jesus.

Actually, this is speaking about any form of divorce BESIDES divorce for reasons of adultery. This is in direct reference to the Jews, who used to divorce for any reason they could conjure up.

I'd refer back to Matthew 19:9

“And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.â€


You are so right Pard. I did not want to be accused of making up my own commandment. It is so sad that most of us don't know this simple truth and the pastors don't try to point out to their congregation. In fact, some leaders are committing sin themselves of this teaching.
 
Well, I do not think it is so clear cut. Someone once posted a very interesting look at the Greek and some of the historical context and it would seem that the English has really lost what is actually being said.
 
Bit OCD here, but I couldn't help but add the third of the Gospel Harmonies on this topic!

Mark 10:3-12

3 He answered them, "What did Moses command you?"
4 They said, "Moses allowed a man to write a certificate of divorce and to send her away."
5 And Jesus said to them, "Because of your hardness of heart he wrote you this commandment.
6 But from the beginning of creation, 'God made them male and female.'
7 'Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife,
8 and the two shall become one flesh.' So they are no longer two but one flesh.
9 What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate."
10 And in the house the disciples asked him again about this matter.
11 And he said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her,
12 and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery."

Also, Free, could you expand on that? Looking at Young's Literal and Strong's Concordance I do not see any other meaning in these lines, perhaps the Greek inflections are the reason for this, which would make sense because inflections don't translate into English.
 
Free said:
Well, I do not think it is so clear cut. Someone once posted a very interesting look at the Greek and some of the historical context and it would seem that the English has really lost what is actually being said.

How not so clear cut?
 
shad said:
18Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery. Luke16

Above is Jesus' word that most pastors and priests don't like to talk about in their sermon. Just because we can divorce our spouse due to their adultery does not make it alright to remarry according to Jesus.
heh.....here we go....
 
shad said:
18Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery. Luke16

Above is Jesus' word that most pastors and priests don't like to talk about in their sermon. Just because we can divorce our spouse due to their adultery does not make it alright to remarry according to Jesus.
Wrong gent. Remarriage after a divorce is ASSUMED as proven by Deut 24:1-4....or is it YOUR claim that Some rogue named Moses ADDED godless precepts to GODS OWN LAW ?!?

And your understanding is entirely off, Im afraid.
In Malachi God SAYS that He hates putting away....NOT ONCE is it said that He hates REmarriage !

Additionally, you are completely MISSING Jesus' point in the exceptions.
There is NO intent there to lay out a list of reasons for divorce...the exceptions are a SIDE issue, not the main point.
Jesus, as Moses, was dealing with Jews who were casting out their wives without any just cause at all, as we see with Herod and Herodias who fell in lust then conspired to toss out their own spouses to marry each other.
THAT is the context from which Christ speaks and THAT is what He is condemning !




A little background on divorce.
By WmTipton

Putting away a wife had been going on with the Hebrews for quite some time in the desert there during the times of Exodus, Leviticus and Deuteronomy. This putting away was being done by very hardhearted Hebrews, remember, this is the same group of people who had made the golden calf to worship it. Many Hebrews had little concern for God or His statutes.
One symptom of this hardheartedness, among others, was a complete lack of regard for Gods union of marriage. These were casting aside their wives for no reason , which Moses had to permit or else risk having this monstrous men literally torment or kill their wives.

If you break open your bibles to Leviticus 21, you will see that neither the priests, nor the high priest, could marry a woman who was put away ('divorced') from her husband. The high priest couldn’t even take widow . They were to marry ONLY a virgin of Israel.
(as a side note, if we use this for our basis, then some would have to claim that we can’t even marry a widow, something completely lawful in Gods word)

These women who were not permitted to be taken by the priests there are these that had been put away from their husbands for just about any reason that the man could think up.

Also going back to Exodus 21:7-11, we clearly see conditions where this “wife†was permitted to walk out of her marriage a free woman. This is unrelated to the divorce by the man for ‘some uncleanness' (for every cause) found in her by him, but it does help to prove that the ending of a marriage was not new to Deuteronomy as some assert.

When we get to Deut 24:1-4, Moses laying out regulation for a frivolous putting away that had already been going on by a husband who had no lawful claim against the wife (such as Exodus is against the husband). He isn't laying out an ordinance for some new thing called 'divorce', he was placing limitations on what was already occurring in Israel.

Thus he isn't 'defining' what is permissible for divorce in Deut 24:1, they had already defined this putting away 'for EVERY cause' with the manner in which they had been tossing their wives out, Moses is simply stating that if this man has put her away for the causes he had been, which is pretty much anything he deemed as 'unclean' about her, then he MUST give her a bill of divorce and once RE married she could never be his wife again.

Moses didn't define exactly what the cause of divorce was for in Deut 24:1-4, the Hebrew people did with their frivolous reasoning's for this putting away, thus the reason for the ambiguous phrase "ervah dabar"...he is, in this regulation, saying that when this man has taken a wife and has found disfavor with her (as the Jews were doing), some ambiguous uncleanness' (ceremonial uncleanness is not completely out of line here), then he is to write her a bill of divorce and put it in her hand and send her out (if he wishes to do so, this wasn’t an instruction obviously since God would never "instruct" a man to divorce frivolously).

To make it clearer, Moses isn't defining what they CAN put their wives over in Deut 24:1-4, he is defining what they HAD been putting away their wives for...which any study will show that it was for just about any reason they could think up.

This is the reason why, and you will find this absolutely to be the case, that no one, not even the Jews today, can put an EXACT meaning and intent to the phrase 'some uncleaness' in Deut 24:1-4 there. It simply wasnt MEANT to define anything because there were MANY reasons these men were finding to put their wives away for, not anything specific.

The problem in Jesus day was that instead of helping the situation, Deut 24:1-4 made it worse because now the men turned this regulation given in law there into an instruction by the Law TO divorce (see Matt 19, they asked Him "is it LAWFUL..", they believed that the LAW permitted them to divorce for 'any cause') so that not only were these hardhearted ones putting away their wives for no just cause, but now they had a scapegoat to put the blame on....Moses...since supposedly he had given them instruction TO divorce when they found this cause to in the Law itself.

The school of Hillel held that the husband could show any reason whatsoever; that any act by the wife which displeased him gave him right to give her a bill of divorce. The opinion of the school of Hillel was the prevalent view at the time of Jesus ministry.


(Bear in mind that this is all happening under the the old covenant. Jesus was a Jew born under law. The new covenant would not take effect until His death on the cross. When Jesus shows them that what they are doing is a sin...it is under the law that this is declared....it isnt something that just took effect with the new covenant being ratified.
Jesus declared what Moses hadnt...that this 'for EVERY cause' divorce to remarry IS sin.

When He said that adultery is committed when they do this the OLD covenant was still in effect (the new was not ratified until His death on the cross, which also took the old out of the way) so He was not saying that they WOULD be committing adultery under His NEW covenant, but they WERE even then...and if they WERE under the old covenant at any point, then they WERE the entire time.
Jesus did what Jesus did best with the Jews....exposed sin where they believed themselves guiltless.
Just as when He told them that they DID commit adultery when they lust after a woman. Did He mean ONLY after His new covenant took effect that this would be the case?
Absolutely not. They WERE, and HAD BEEN, committing adultery in their hearts any time they lusted in the manner He speaks of.
They WERE and HAD BEEN committing adultery when they were putting out their wives for some ambiguous 'uncleanness' to take another.
Jesus exposed their sin, it was nothing new or being defined as such only in this new covenant.)

Jesus shows that this is where they got it wrong. Moses hadnt 'instructed' them to do anything in this regard. He had tolerated their vile casting away of their wives and laid out regulation to try to control or end it.

The regulation in Deut 24:1-4 was given to this younger generation of Hebrews, most of those who had left Egypt were either very old or dead...remember they had been out there for decades...a whole new generation was alive now.
At the end of this wilderness journey is when Moses gives these speeches to repeat the law and give some additions such as the regulation in Deut 24:1-4.

When you read all the relevant passages regarding this issue, keep these things in mind and see if they don’t start all making sense to you.


I’m fully convinced, personally, that in His exceptions that Jesus’ main intent is not to offer any instruction on ‘why’ we can divorce, but I believe that His point is that He is assigning guilt where no guilt was previously designated. Obviously any exception shows condition, and that condition would clearly exist or it would be falsehood. But I believe that Jesus’ real point is mainly to show that even tho Moses hadnt said they were guilty of any crime in divorcing frivolously, that if they do so as they had been, the were guilty of sinning against their spouse who was put away for no just cause.

Moses had tolerated frivolous divorce from at least the time of Leviticus 21, but didn’t actually assign any real ‘sin’ as being committed when this man cast out his wife for no just cause.
The tone seems to be one where we might try to convince a man of the idea ‘NO...you CANNOT just go around killing people. ONLY if they are trying to kill you would you ever be justified in doing soâ€
You can see that there is no real ‘permission’ to kill people in what was said there, but only showing that while there may be some extreme circumstances that relieves one of guilt, killing is not generally tolerated.

The speaker there wouldn't be saying “Hey, wait till they try to kill you and THEN you can kill them (wink wink)â€. That wouldn't be the point at all.
Nor is it Jesus’ point to say “well, you just wait for her to commit adultery and THEN you can toss her out (wink wink) “

I think this is the tone Jesus took in the gospels with divorce. No, Moses hadn’t assigned guilt in the matter, but from the beginning it was not so. From the beginning man and woman were created to be companions for life and unless some extreme circumstance warrants putting her away. If you cast her out otherwise, and then think you are going to remarry, sorry, you commit adultery, as does she, and anyone who marries either of you.
I believe the reason Jesus made sure to include the persons marrying either of these two is to show the extent of the sin going on here. That this mans actions were so terrible that it didn’t just affect him or his wife, that it was like leaven working its way out from one simple act that Moses had tolerated and swallowing up everyone in its path.

I believe in the gospels that Jesus is simply presenting that men were guilty where the law did not define guilt in their actions.
We see this very same concept just before Jesus exception in Matt 5 where Jesus tells them that if they even think about a woman sexually they have already committed adultery with her.

Mat 5:27-28 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: (28) But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

Jesus is there also assigning guilt where the Jews believed themselves guiltless. Internalizing it, making it personal. Defining ‘sin’ where none was thought to exist before. God wasnt just watching the outside of the man, but the heart and mind as well.
Oddly enough, in Matt 5 there while Jesus is right on that very train of thought He lays out the MDR statement.
 
shad said:
Free said:
Well, I do not think it is so clear cut. Someone once posted a very interesting look at the Greek and some of the historical context and it would seem that the English has really lost what is actually being said.

How not so clear cut?
You'll be finding out how if you actually stick around for the discussion.
Im sort of glad you made this thread so your error can be exposed here.
 
shad said:
18Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery. Luke16

Above is Jesus' word that most pastors and priests don't like to talk about in their sermon. Just because we can divorce our spouse due to their adultery does not make it alright to remarry according to Jesus.
Also, the exceptions BY THEIR VERY NATURE (for anyone knowing what an EXCEPTION is) DEFY the general rule...thats what EXCEPTIONS DO.....with me so far ?
The general rule is that divorce and remarriage is sinful....EXCEPT in THESE conditions.
See how that works ? :)

ex·cep·tion (ek sep?s?h?n, ik-)
noun
1. an excepting or being excepted; omission; exclusion
2. anything that is excepted; specif.,
1. a case to which a rule, general principle, etc. does not apply
2. a person or thing different from or treated differently from others of the same class

http://www.yourdictionary.com/exception
 
shad said:
You are so right Pard. I did not want to be accused of making up my own commandment.
And yet you are doing just that by your complete lack of understanding and allowing what your daughter 'taught' you to stand rather than putting in the hard labor YOURSELF to learn the truth.

Frankly Ive put more hours into the study of MDR than most people will put into bible study in their entire lives. Thats no boast, its simply a matter of fact. The last count was approximately 6500 hours. What sort of degree would a man have who had that much time into study ?

And what? Im supposed to just blow all that off cause some guy on the web who admits that his daughter taught him about MDR tells me that Im wrong ?
Sorry, it doesnt work that way, shad..and its insulting that you seem to think it does....ie, youre telling me/us that we're complete morons who cant read and understand the scriptures after THOUSANDS of hours of study, but YOU with a few quick lessons from your daughter have figured it all out.

Forgive me if I chuckle a bit...

It is so sad that most of us don't know this simple truth and the pastors don't try to point out to their congregation. In fact, some leaders are committing sin themselves of this teaching.
No, what is sad is when a man tries to TEACH who has admitted that he hasnt actually done much study himself on the matter.
THAT is sad...
 
Are you FoC, WmTipton? It seems like it.

Anyway, as usual, you are making a simple scripture clear as mud.

Jesus says simply if you marry a divorcee, you are committing adultery.

You can twist it around anyway you want to suit your own desire. You believe what you want to believe.

Divorce and remarriage are another washed down practices. It is really shame.
 
shad said:
Are you FoC, WmTipton? It seems like it.
not relevant to the topic.
Anyway, as usual, you are making a simple scripture clear as mud.
As usual Im taking the WHOLE into account rather than using a couple pet passages to push error.
As I said, Im ready when you are....

Jesus says simply if you marry a divorcee, you are committing adultery.
Wrong.
In the context Jesus is speaking in to the Jews, He is exposing their ongoing sin of frivolous divorce (which was often TO remarry someone else as seen with Herod-Herodias).
And again. Jesus said EXCEPT...you DO know what that word means, right ? or do we need to go over it again ?

Also, Jesus says simply to give to EVERY man who asks of you in the gospels.
Im ASKING you for $5000.
Will you obey...or will shad do what shad does and make EXCEPTION for himself while refusing it for everyone else ?

We both know the answer to that one ;)


You can twist it around anyway you want to suit your own desire. You believe what you want to believe.
6500 hours later, youre right...I CAN and WILL believe what I know to be fact.
Do you actually have anything to offer here ?

Divorce and remarriage are another washed down practices. It is really shame.
Frivolous divorce is ALWAYS sinful....too bad for your error not everyone divorces frivolously.

I ask again....do you have anything to actually present ?
Make your assertions and we'll see about a refutation.
 
Wm Tipton said:
In the context Jesus is speaking in to the Jews, He is exposing their ongoing sin of frivolous divorce (which was often TO remarry someone else as seen with Herod-Herodias).
And again. Jesus said EXCEPT...you DO know what that word means, right ? or do we need to go over it again ?

I really dont like to discuss with you because you continually twist things around like a rebellious teenager. This will be my last one to you because this Scripture is so simple that there is really nothing to discuss.
You are making up excuses to justify your own agenda. Jesus says you cannot divorce except fornication. Regardless, He says you cannot remarry after divorce no matter what the reasons are, unless your spouse dies.

Also, Jesus says simply to give to EVERY man who asks of you in the gospels.
Im ASKING you for $5000.
Will you obey...or will shad do what shad does and make EXCEPTION for himself while refusing it for everyone else ?[/b][/color]
We both know the answer to that one ;)

Jesus also says be wise as serpents. I have $5000 for my ministry. Should I give to you because you asked me to give you $5000 and stop my ministry? Jesus also says to "make disciples all nations, teach them to obey everything I have commanded you". I have to make a choice between giving a stranger $5000 or refusing to do so so I can continue my ministry. Your question is just sleazy, trying to justify your own prideful assertion. You aren't really asking me to provide you with money.
 
shad said:
I really dont like to discuss with you because you continually twist things around like a rebellious teenager.
yawn.
You refuse for two reasons.
1. I can twist the intent of the "plain" scripture like you do and expose your hypocrisy
2. You know full well your arguments will be shredded in a real debate. There is no question of that in your mind or my own.

This will be my last one to you because this Scripture is so simple that there is really nothing to discuss.
Youre right....it is simple. Jesus gave exception that shows condition. Moses defined divorce VERY plainly so we know precisely what it does. The wording used in the NT DOESNT indicate any 'state' of adultery in remarriage, etc....shall we continue ?
Or would you prefer talking about the SIMPLE command of Jesus to GIVE to EVERY man who asks of you without exception ?
;)
 
WmTipton,

Suit yourself with your twisted interpretation. We will know very soon who is decieving themselves and others.

take care.
 
You are making up excuses to justify your own agenda.
oh yawn...Ive proven my case in the MDR arena THOUSANDS of times gent, and with those FAR more knowledgable in the matter than you clearly are ...being taught by your daugher in the matter and not His word.
If my agenda is in error, then prove me wrong... if its as simple as you claim you should be able to do it by the end of the day....not much work at all
:)

Jesus says you cannot divorce except fornication.
Now if that were the ONLY evidence.
Jesus ALSO SAYS to GIVE to EVERY man who asks of you....why is it that you FORCE YOUR pet passages on everyone as absolute but then excuse YOURSELF when the SAME type of ''plain'' scripture is aimed in YOUR direction ?
You realize what hypocrisy this is, correct ?

Regardless, He says you cannot remarry after divorce no matter what the reasons are, unless your spouse dies.
WRong, gent....the exception is given for the entire matter....read it again....well read it the first time if thats the case.

Jesus also says be wise as serpents. I have $5000 for my ministry. Should I give to you because you asked me to give you $5000 and stop my ministry? Jesus also says to "make disciples all nations, teach them to obey everything I have commanded you". I have to make a choice between giving a stranger $5000 or refusing to do so so I can continue my ministry. Your question is just sleazy, trying to justify your own prideful assertion. You aren't really asking me to provide you with money.
And so you PROVE that Jesus CLEAR commandment to give to EVERY man who asks of us ISNT to be taken as an ABSOLUTE as if there were NO CONTEXT in His INTENT. ;)
Thanks....youve proven my point for me. :)
 
shad said:
WmTipton,

Suit yourself with your twisted interpretation. We will know very soon who is decieving themselves and others.

take care.
As I said Im fully willing to debate the issue with you.
My supposed twists are irrelevant....you wont change my mind regardless.
But havent you claimed somewhere that its important for OTHERS to know the truth ?
Why is it that you dont feel this is important enough to everyone else here for you to expose my false teachings in the matter ?
I mean, Id spend a few weeks showing everyone where you were wrong for their benefit....dont you care about everyone here enough to take the time to show them that Im a heretic ?

:)
 
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