[__ Prayer __] Helpless - Prayer/Advice Please

[kairyudo]

My bf's been struggling with depression for a long time. He has insomnia cuz of it and drinks to sleep cuz that's the only thing that helps. Now he's just given up. We're long distance so I feel extra helpless. He's 31 and feels like he's useless because he has no proper job/savings/ even proper friends since he's pretty anti-social. He says I should leave him cuz I won't get anywhere with him but I told him I'm not going to. We met 10 yrs ago, together 3 1/2 yrs, then I broke up cuz we were unhealthy/co-dependent and I knew if we didn't love the Lord first, we'd never work. The Lord worked in my life, but not in his cuz I guess he has to want it...and he doesn't really want it. we'd stayed in touch over the years and started again last year because things have improved re: how he treats me and he's more mature in ways he wasn't 10 yrs ago but - this depression thing is really getting him down. where he lives, there are no counselors cuz it's a small town in India. He doesn't want to leave his town either. I just don't know what to do. It hurts - because I know he has so much potential because he's so talented musically if he would just study but he's proud too - says he's not gonna go out and study at the age of 31... i guess it may be an asian mindset thing.

Please - pray for him - that he will have hope again and that I will know what to say/do. It hurts because he's the only one i've ever loved and been with my whole life and I wish so much that we'd work out. I don't know what I'd do if I lose him again cuz the breakup the first time took me 4 years to get over... neither one of us expected we'd be back again but we are and now... oh... I don't know what to think. I'm sorry. I'd really appreciate anything from anyone. Thank you.

 

[God's_gift]

My bf's been struggling with depression for a long time. He has insomnia cuz of it and drinks to sleep cuz that's the only thing that helps. Now he's just given up. We're long distance so I feel extra helpless. He's 31 and feels like he's useless because he has no proper job/savings/ even proper friends since he's pretty anti-social. He says I should leave him cuz I won't get anywhere with him but I told him I'm not going to. We met 10 yrs ago, together 3 1/2 yrs, then I broke up cuz we were unhealthy/co-dependent and I knew if we didn't love the Lord first, we'd never work. The Lord worked in my life, but not in his cuz I guess he has to want it...and he doesn't really want it. we'd stayed in touch over the years and started again last year because things have improved re: how he treats me and he's more mature in ways he wasn't 10 yrs ago but - this depression thing is really getting him down. where he lives, there are no counselors cuz it's a small town in India. He doesn't want to leave his town either. I just don't know what to do. It hurts - because I know he has so much potential because he's so talented musically if he would just study but he's proud too - says he's not gonna go out and study at the age of 31... i guess it may be an asian mindset thing.

Please - pray for him - that he will have hope again and that I will know what to say/do. It hurts because he's the only one i've ever loved and been with my whole life and I wish so much that we'd work out. I don't know what I'd do if I lose him again cuz the breakup the first time took me 4 years to get over... neither one of us expected we'd be back again but we are and now... oh... I don't know what to think. I'm sorry. I'd really appreciate anything from anyone. Thank you.

First of all kairyudo, welcome to CFNet.
About you and your boyfriend's case all i can really offer is my prayer because i am not really expert into giving relationship advices as me myself is still praying for God to give me a lifetime partner. I pray that God will release your boyfriend from the bondage of depression. I pray that he will come to God. And , I also pray for you to be strong and be patient . For sure , God has a better plan for both of you. Please continue praying for God's will everyday.
And by the way , i am asian and i don't have that mindset ....i think it's just really his personal pride plus the stronghold of the enemy in his life. Please stick around for there are lots of Christians here who can fellowship with you and can give you wise judgments and advices. God bless.