In your face!

[LaMexicana]

Do guys like aggressiveness or not? One guy tells me that it's unattractive because males like to be the aggressive ones. Then another guy tells me he likes it. But I would say the majority of the time, it scares guys off.

So I'm taking a poll because it's a little confusing. Or maybe it varies by individual? But in general, is aggressiveness good or bad?

 

[NestForASparrow]

Yes and no. It depends on the nature of the aggressiveness. I don't want some gal "all up in my face" or giving me really creepy stares (it is OK to check me out, but please don't make me feel uncomfortable...aka an occasional glance and smile is just fine), but I also would not mind if she were to ask me out either.

 

[LaMexicana]

Yes and no. It depends on the nature of the aggressiveness. I don't want some gal "all up in my face" or giving me really creepy stares (it is OK to check me out, but please don't make me feel uncomfortable...aka an occasional glance and smile is just fine), but I also would not mind if she were to ask me out either.

You and your "creepy stares" thing cracks me up!! I tried really hard this weekend not to stare creepily at men...

I guess there are different levels of aggressive. Not sure what mine is but apparently it's really unattractive. It's just a straight line for me.

 

[PouringRain]

I don't like when people are aggressive. I think assertiveness is necessary in some situations, but not aggression.

 

[LaMexicana]

but that's the thing...what is aggressive? What is assertive? What is intimidating? What's the difference between them all and how can you keep from crossing the very thin line between each one?

 

[PouringRain]

To me there is an obvious difference between someone who is aggressive and someone who is assertive. Assertiveness is boldness, the ability to communicate confidently.... whereas aggressiveness is strong, obtrussive, forceful, manipulative, even hostile. I have known people who feel they can not be assertive without being aggressive. For me, there is a clear difference, and one can be a very positive trait while the other can be very negative. There is often clear differences in word choices, body language, tone of voice, etc.

 

[LaMexicana]

Interesting...now when you say that, I would consider myself assertive...well...I think...hm...maybe not...now I don't know

 

[JohnEboy1983]

I say just be yourself... unless you give "creepy stares". I am still single but lately I have just stopped caring on what I should be doing or not doing to attract the opposite sex. If they like it... Great, if not well then too bad for them. I guess you can say I just got tired of the games...lol. Also, personally myself I have come to realization that God may or may not want me with somebody but I am not going to worry about it anymore.

 

[LaMexicana]

I say just be yourself... unless you give "creepy stares". I am still single but lately I have just stopped caring on what I should be doing or not doing to attract the opposite sex. If they like it... Great, if not well then too bad for them. I guess you can say I just got tired of the games...lol. Also, personally myself I have come to realization that God may or may not want me with somebody but I am not going to worry about it anymore.

I'm not creepy...not really at least...kind of...

Ok, just kidding.

Yeah, I hear ya on not caring. I have to work on that because the more I care, the more foolish I act. I didn't used to care...not sure what happened

 

[NestForASparrow]

I don't care. I would rather women not be attracted to me. Sometimes I just want to be left alone.

 

[Logos57]

As a Christian guy what I find the most attractive thing in the World is a woman who love the Lord so much, that the Holy Spirit radiance in her face. It doesn't matter if she aggressive or not.

 

[NestForASparrow]

At this point, I might just welcome the "in your face" method. For a woman just to tell me how she feels about me.

 

[LaMexicana]

At this point, I might just welcome the "in your face" method. For a woman just to tell me how she feels about me.

See, that's what I'm saying. For me, it's so much easier to just get to the point, no?

 

[r3skyline]

i guess it all depends on the guy too...

shoot i know with me if a girl is too assertive, it'll cause me to feel a bit uncomfortable. but at the same time,i would totally like it. haha.

hmm, i guess id be on the fence about this one...

but if i had to say...

i would like a girl to be herself and to be assertive too a bit. that way, it'll allow me to open up MUCH quicker than i would have before. it opens up doors to finding out what we would have in common and finding out more about said friend.

 

[Esther1]

i guess it all depends on the guy too...

shoot i know with me if a girl is too assertive, it'll cause me to feel a bit uncomfortable. but at the same time,i would totally like it. haha.

hmm, i guess id be on the fence about this one...

but if i had to say...

i would like a girl to be herself and to be assertive too a bit. that way, it'll allow me to open up MUCH quicker than i would have before. it opens up doors to finding out what we would have in common and finding out more about said friend.

Just interesting what is the "right or correct" assertivness in this case. How should it be expressed?

 

[Pard]

It's ok, you can give me "creepy stares", but that gives me an excuse to give creepy stares back, and boy can be creepy!

Aggressiveness is, uh, well it depends. If you mean aggressive like in that movie :My Super Ex-Girlfriend", than no way! That was down right scary, I'd crawl into a hole and never come out.

But being assertive and maybe a little aggressive when the assertiveness doesn't work is fine.

And I must second Nest's view on woman asking men out. It would be SO much easier if ya'll just were up front about it! You guys are hard to read... men, no so much...

 

[LaMexicana]

It's ok, you can give me "creepy stares", but that gives me an excuse to give creepy stares back, and boy can be creepy!

Aggressiveness is, uh, well it depends. If you mean aggressive like in that movie :My Super Ex-Girlfriend", than no way! That was down right scary, I'd crawl into a hole and never come out.

But being assertive and maybe a little aggressive when the assertiveness doesn't work is fine.

And I must second Nest's view on woman asking men out. It would be SO much easier if ya'll just were up front about it! You guys are hard to read... men, no so much...

Men not hard to read?? Oh please...I like you but I'm not sure and I have stuff to do but you're really pretty and cool but I'm not sure...

That's all I hear. What does it all mean?? So confusing.