Me and my sister are constantly fighting

[Warrior8080]

Every day for whatever reason we constantly fight about everything. I can do nothing right in her eyes and she can do nothing right in mine.

it is really a gripe, she destroys my work and I destroy hers. We will have nothing left of this continues. Please I need your advice. She sparks so much anger in me. I am younger and I guess a follower in a way. She gets angry and then I get angry.

 

[Warrior8080]

found the solution

 

[Who Me]

Every day for whatever reason we constantly fight about everything. I can do nothing right in her eyes and she can do nothing right in mine.

You have to learn not to respond.
In many jobs working with the public one gets the blame and rough side of customers tounges for things that have nothing to do with you. You cannot respond in kind, so have to ignore the abuse etc and try to calm things down.

So instead of replying to her words, ignore them, look to see what the issue is.
If there is a cause for her attack, apologise.
If there is no cause you are aware of try saying I don't know what I've done to make you angry, can we discuss it as reasonable adults.
If nothing works walk away and in the privacy of your room scream into a pillow.

See if you can be the mature adult and her the ranting and raving juvenile.

 

[WIP]

Sounds to me like possibly a lack of mutual respect. You don't respect her enough to listen to her and she does the same. Both are bull-headed and unyielding. Maybe you have to learn to accept the fact that you are each unique and individual. I suspect the best way to get past this is for one of you to take the lead and "bridle your tongue" as James put it. Just my .

 

[Hopeful]

Every day for whatever reason we constantly fight about everything. I can do nothing right in her eyes and she can do nothing right in mine.

it is really a gripe, she destroys my work and I destroy hers. We will have nothing left of this continues. Please I need your advice. She sparks so much anger in me. I am younger and I guess a follower in a way. She gets angry and then I get angry.

What are you two? Nine and twelve?
Grow up.
Ignore the bad and compliment the good...it is like training puppies.

When was the last time you complimented her on something?

 

[Anaphora]

I don't know the details on this. Titus chapter 3 tells us to study sound doctrine and not strive or argue about God's

Avoid those involved in false teachings. Dont argue with them.

I have 3 brothers who are playing church. Listening to misguided preachers. I seldom have contact with them. Thier minds are delusional.

what ever subject that you know will cause arguments. Stay away from those subjects.

Dont throw gasoline on the fire. Get the picture.

Stay out of each other's way. Try to avoid each other as much as possible.

 

[Josef]

Hey All,
Warrior 8080, Solomon offers some advice.

Proverbs 15:1-2 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness.

Instead of saying what you feel like saying, stop yourself (control your tongue), think about what you are going to say as a believer giving forgiveness (using your knowledge correctly) and say it in soft non-threatening voice (a soft answer).

Try this.
Listen to what she is saying.
Is what your sister is saying true?
If so, admit your wrongdoing, and ask for forgiveness.
If not, calmly explain your side.
If she interrupts with more yelling, calmly let her have her say.
Then calmly continue your explanation.
Do not return anger for anger.
There is a strength in doing what the Bible says.
There is also a calmness in obeying God's Word.
When you are calm and cannot be goaded into a fight, that can become very frustrating to your antagonist.
She may stop yelling because she will see it no longer effects you into responding with anger.

Something to try.

Keep walking everybody.
May God bless,
Taz