needs help lol....S.O.S.

[KayGraham1611]

Ok so my daughter kaelyn is 2...terrible 2's hav more than sat in n im not sure what to do....she just constantly yells and screams about everything. My oldest never did this so im not sure what to do. My husband and i have tried spanking (not often though) and time out. But as i said nothing seems to work....so please im sending ou:ot an S.O.S. lol

 

[Messenger]

Ok so my daughter kaelyn is 2...terrible 2's hav more than sat in n im not sure what to do....she just constantly yells and screams about everything. My oldest never did this so im not sure what to do. My husband and i have tried spanking (not often though) and time out. But as i said nothing seems to work....so please im sending ou:ot an S.O.S. lol

Have you guys gone to God in prayer for your daughter, asking for His mercy, help and direction in this matter? (1 Thessalonians 5:17)

 

[KayGraham1611]

Yes we have n i def feel like she just is going through a faze like most children but it def doesn't make it any easier

 

[Deborah13]

Yes we have n i def feel like she just is going through a faze like most children but it def doesn't make it any easier

Perfectly normal 2 yr old behavior, it will get better. No it doesn't make it easier. One thing that might help though is to seriously think about the whining and bad behavior we sometimes put our heavenly Father through and He is long-suffering with us, even as adults who should have a better understanding of ourselves than a 2 yr. old does of their behaviors and their world.

Consistently enforcing rules, time outs are great it gives them time to think and get bored. Worked with my 4 kids and has worked and is working with my grandkids, 6 of them.

Blessings to you and your family.

 

[KayGraham1611]

Yes we have n i def feel like she just is going through a faze like most children but it def doesn't make it any easier

Perfectly normal 2 yr old behavior, it will get better. No it doesn't make it easier. One thing that might help though is to seriously think about the whining and bad behavior we sometimes put our heavenly Father through and He is long-suffering with us, even as adults who should have a better understanding of ourselves than a 2 yr. old does of their behaviors and their world.

Consistently enforcing rules, time outs are great it gives them time to think and get bored. Worked with my 4 kids and has worked and is working with my grandkids, 6 of them.

Blessings to you and your family.

Thank you and yes i understand we put God through more than enough strife lol i hav def got to be more diligent with her though...and thank you for the uplifting it was much needed

 

[reba]

Your oldest never had to contend with another child... Your time is more divided ...I would give less command/ directions . AND make sure the ones given were followed.....Kaelyn, come here it is time to get dressed..... By calling her you give her a place to rebel just go get her and dress her... same sort with eating....

our first grandchild lived with us...by the time he came along grandma had grown up some Putting him to bed was so easy... Most evenings a bath, for their soothing effects, a bit of snuggle time.. I put him in his bed and told him I will be back to check on you I would walk out the door hastate and go back pat his back 1 or 2 taps "Grand ma is checking on you".... after short time and stretching out time of hesitating he was always asleep..

Kaelyn is very normal

 

[Atonement]

Your oldest never had to contend with another child... Your time is more divided ...I would give less command/ directions . AND make sure the ones given were followed.....Kaelyn, come here it is time to get dressed..... By calling her you give her a place to rebel just go get her and dress her... same sort with eating....

our first grandchild lived with us...by the time he came along grandma had grown up some Putting him to bed was so easy... Most evenings a bath, for their soothing effects, a bit of snuggle time.. I put him in his bed and told him I will be back to check on you I would walk out the door hastate and go back pat his back 1 or 2 taps "Grand ma is checking on you".... after short time and stretching out time of hesitating he was always asleep..

Kaelyn is very normal

Good advice I would say the same thing

But let me add - children become angry because they are not getting their way and as parents sometimes we just want to throw in the towel and give in to them. I would suggest that one parent try to correct the troubled child at that moment, and the other parent be there as a back up. Think of it as tag-teaming with the child. If one parent does not get the job done then the other parent can come in, relieve the other parent; while coming in with a fresh start to the situation and take the child's mind off the problem by interacting and having her focused on something else. There are no 100% results with none of these wise opinions you received because they are just at that age, what this is meant to be for is ...YOU... The parents, to help YOU cope with it besides throwing in the towel and giving in to her. That's the worst thing parents can do, because then that child grows up knowing that the more they act out, the better off she is to get their way!

 

[KayGraham1611]

Well bed time has become a fight now too lol i just repeatedly put her in bed and tell her night night so its def a battle but im sure you right with the her not being the only child also she is the 2nd of 3....she gets along for the most part w my oldest daughter my oldest is 7 ab to b 8 so theres an age difference the baby my 10mos old son and her get along great so that's a blessing they r always playing lol but thank u again for encouraging me fingers crossed and lots of prayers

 

[Sparkey]

... children become angry ...

Imagine.

• Pretend that you were tall enough to see those tasty things spread out on the table but were also too short to reach them.
• Pretend that you were capable of understanding what was being said but were also unable to speak well enough to get your idea across.
• Pretend that just about everybody is taller and bigger and therefore better than you.

Tha's just part of 2

Cordially,
A very tiny Sparrow

 

[Atonement]

... children become angry ...

Imagine.

• Pretend that you were tall enough to see those tasty things spread out on the table but were also too short to reach them.
• Pretend that you were capable of understanding what was being said but were also unable to speak well enough to get your idea across.
• Pretend that just about everybody is taller and bigger and therefore better than you.

Tha's just part of 2

Cordially,
A very tiny Sparrow

:dunno don't know what point you're trying to make? Could you elaborate for me please? Thanks


Edit: I guess I should also ask, was this meant for me or the thread in general? If at me, may I ask why? If it was meant for the thread then may I ask how would you parent a child with that type of complex?

 

[Sparkey]

I guess I should also ask, was this meant for me or the thread in general?

Sorry for the misunderstanding? I quoted you in agreement. You noticed that children may become angry. I agree. Your statement served as a springboard to my admonishment to parents about raising children (even difficult children). Regarding my credentials for making such a statement? Speak to my son. Either of my sons. It would be too much for me to deliver to you a coherent reply even if I were to deliver it all wrapped up and neatly tied in a bow.

I did post earlier in General Talk a thread entitled "Fathers" perhaps you missed it? It details my thoughts about raising children. I was a 'single dad' from one week prior to my youngest's 3rd birthday. He's 26 years of age now and I was with him flying kites with his sons this morning.

 

[Atonement]

Sorry, I quoted you in agreement. You noticed that children may become angry. This served as a springboard to my admonishment to parents about raising difficult children. Regarding my credentials for making such a statement? Speak to my son. It would be too much for me to deliver to you even if I were to deliver it all wrapped up and neatly tied in a bow.

Oh, I'm glad I asked for clarification lol I actually was sitting here thinking that you wanted me to imagine things hahahaha!

 

[Sparkey]

I actually was sitting here thinking that you wanted me to imagine things hahahaha!

I'm glad too. That is part of the nature of being far away, isn't it? Would love to have a face-to-face with you someday. I'd even spring for the check, if I were able. It did allow me to search for a direct answer to your question:

may I ask how would you parent a child

Pardon my blatant plug but the thread name is "Fathers" and was posted awhile back. It was written from the perspective of a Father, but and like the first post of several says:

Much of this applies both the the father and the mother, both being in a position of authority over the children in the family. Plus, there is so much to learn. You might be surprised how much there is to learn even if you're not a father as we go through it.

Love,
Sparrow

 

[Atonement]

Ahh thanks for the link, yeah I missed that one

Soon enough you and I will break bread in Heaven together, in the presence of our Lord and His angels