Eddie42
Member
Long time church family; husband a church officer and wife/mother leads a ladies Bible study group. They have one son who came to them when he was 15 and told them he loved boys rather than girls.
This entailed visits to out of town Pastors, doctors and shrinks, even trying reparative therapy. Nothing helped. The boy having become a young man became bitter, gave up and headed off to the big city where he became involved with LGBTQ. After a couple years of that he felt convicted that it was sinful and returned home.
He repented of the promiscuous life he had lived, but he still only loved other men. He eventually met another Christian man with the same nature and they provided love, companionship and presumably physical intimacy with each other and they committed to each other as friends for life.
The family, son and his friend kept this private, taking a don't ask don't tell approach; thinking that it was a private matter of no one else's business. The young man and his friend share a home alone. The son and his friend started attending the home church together just as any two men friends. They had decided to just ignore the church's view of such a matter, it was the home church.
Then it seemed somehow gossip from somewhere got back to someone in the church. Pastor makes a visit to the home and starts asking personal family questions to which the father informed him it was none of the church or his business. It was implied that the son may be removed from the church membership roll, so the family is about to leave the church and probably have by now. Any comments or views how the son, church, Pastor or family should or could have handled this?
I'll not make replies to anyone nor critique any suggested solutions or ideas, I'm just curious about the input from the Christians here. I'm not wanting to debate this so I'll not reply. The scenario is a composite of a true event mixed with a the plot of a movie.
This entailed visits to out of town Pastors, doctors and shrinks, even trying reparative therapy. Nothing helped. The boy having become a young man became bitter, gave up and headed off to the big city where he became involved with LGBTQ. After a couple years of that he felt convicted that it was sinful and returned home.
He repented of the promiscuous life he had lived, but he still only loved other men. He eventually met another Christian man with the same nature and they provided love, companionship and presumably physical intimacy with each other and they committed to each other as friends for life.
The family, son and his friend kept this private, taking a don't ask don't tell approach; thinking that it was a private matter of no one else's business. The young man and his friend share a home alone. The son and his friend started attending the home church together just as any two men friends. They had decided to just ignore the church's view of such a matter, it was the home church.
Then it seemed somehow gossip from somewhere got back to someone in the church. Pastor makes a visit to the home and starts asking personal family questions to which the father informed him it was none of the church or his business. It was implied that the son may be removed from the church membership roll, so the family is about to leave the church and probably have by now. Any comments or views how the son, church, Pastor or family should or could have handled this?
I'll not make replies to anyone nor critique any suggested solutions or ideas, I'm just curious about the input from the Christians here. I'm not wanting to debate this so I'll not reply. The scenario is a composite of a true event mixed with a the plot of a movie.