relationship in trouble- doctrine issues

[mizarc]

relationship in trouble- doctrine issues
>Both my girlfiend and I are Believers. She is "charismatic" with a
>whole bunch of ideas that differ from mine. She says that everyone she
>has spoken to thinks my ideas on some christian doctrines , are totally wacked and that if I don't
>go and see someone about them and "come right" then our future is looking
>dimm together.
>
>I say that even though we have different ideas re doctrines this should
>not separate us . I say that I am willing to do bible studies on
>various subjects, but she says -NO - I am wacked out and am "like a drug
>addict who needs help" to come inline with (her) charismatic doctrines.
>
>She gets in a rage when she discusses my beliefs . I personally think
>she is spiritally immature and possibly needs calming medication.
>I dont think that things of GOD should be shouted about so I dont like
>to answer for myself during her fits.
>
>
>What do I do cause we are suited on many levels and get along well; have
>common interests etc.
>
>
>Can't 2 people of differing incidental doctrinal beliefs get along and
>have a possible future together?
>
>I say that we need a third party involved who is neutral and who can
>perhaps point out our character flaws (and doctrine stubborness)
>
>
>What do you think?

 

[Scott]

I assume you were joking about the medication part, but I wouldn't say that to her unless your intent is to widen this chasm. That is regardless of what she says to you. Do you study God's Word at all with her or pray with her at all?

You might consider time apart or a neutral third party to discuss this with. If you're not even married and already fighting and apparently unwilling to compromise, then I'd say thats not a good sign.

 

[Soma-Sight]

relationship in trouble- doctrine issues
>Both my girlfiend and I are Believers. She is "charismatic" with a
>whole bunch of ideas that differ from mine. She says that everyone she
>has spoken to thinks my ideas on some christian doctrines , are totally wacked and that if I don't
>go and see someone about them and "come right" then our future is looking
>dimm together.

Dude leave quick and never look back....

You dont need a controling woman like that in your life that is a religious fanatic, especially if her family is like that as well....

You are destined for a life of misery if you have a free thinking mind and are value independance....

 

[tim-from-pa]

relationship in trouble- doctrine issues
>Both my girlfiend and I are Believers. She is "charismatic" with a
>whole bunch of ideas that differ from mine. She says that everyone she
>has spoken to thinks my ideas on some christian doctrines , are totally wacked and that if I don't
>go and see someone about them and "come right" then our future is looking
>dimm together.

Dude leave quick and never look back....

You dont need a controling woman like that in your life that is a religious fanatic, especially if her family is like that as well....

You are destined for a life of misery if you have a free thinking mind and are value independance....

I second that! Leave quickly. I don't know why you stay in such a relationship--- since there is nothing going for her in personality assuming what you say is true, then I suppose the only thing going for her is her looks. Is that it? Why else would you hang on to this? Hold tight--- they turn ugly in a few years. :-D

 

[Soma-Sight]

I second that! Leave quickly. I don't know why you stay in such a relationship--- since there is nothing going for her in personality assuming what you say is true, then I suppose the only thing going for her is her looks. Is that it? Why else would you hang on to this? Hold tight--- they turn ugly in a few years.

lol....

 

[Khristeeanos]

The OP looks like it was a forward from an email.

 

[ArtGuy]

Religious issues aside, it sounds like this relationship has some pretty sizeable problems on top. When problems escalate into shouting and condescension, it's time to either seek professional assistance, or call it a wrap.

 

[belovedwolfofgod]

Its possible to date a person with different doctrine. It takes respect though, on both sides. I am a conservative Roman Catholic. I once dated a liberal. Thats a big deal for me and it lasted 10 months (cause she was doing bad things with my "friends.") And Ive dated some protestants... which is another big thing for me. There was something I read in the third edition of the Wisdom of Catholicism. It was about people having their beliefs, but us still being able to fellowship together. We find our common ground, and thats what we stand on. Worship one God through Jesus Christ. Thats good ground. Accepting that the two of you worship differently is necessary. If she cant respect your relationship with Jesus, and gets angry about it and tries to force change, she isnt worth the time. Christianity doesnt force. God is gives the choice. There are numerous documents out about free will and the right to freedom of religion written by a couple popes. And you know they are thoughtful, cause what else does an old celibate man have to do with his time? No grandkids to bug him. :-D

 

[philbo]

If differences in doctrine issues are causing that much of a strain on the relationship, it's probably not a good relationship to be in. Regardless of who's right or wrong, you can't easily force someone like her to see things your way. Time to move on.