So what would happen if I did end my friendship?

[Grazer]

Been thinking about this for the last day or so and a lot of people have been discouraging me from having friendships with non Christians. Nothing about doing that feels right but let's assume I do end these friendships.

What message will that send out?

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[evenifigoalone]

Not a very good one.


While it is good to be cautious who influences you, it's not good to drive people away, either. IMO neither extreme is the answer. I guess extremes never are.

 

[faeriecat]

If my buddy hadn't befriended me 2.5 years ago and been the light, I would likely not have returned to church and God at all. So I, personally, do not see anything wrong with having non-Christian friends ... you just have to be cautious about their influence on you.

 

[thisnumbersdisconnected]

Been thinking about this for the last day or so and a lot of people have been discouraging me from having friendships with non Christians.

I think that would be a huge mistake, and I'm amazed other Christians are urging you to do so. It is terribly legalistic to think we can't be friends with non-believers. We are the only link to faith they have. Why in the world would we want to cut them off from Christ? Or, more specifically, the message of Christ?

There are some reasons that might be valid for ending those friendships, however. An addict or alcoholic in recovery needs to end friendships that would influence him/her to relapse. A gang member who comes to Christ would want to minimize, at the least, his contacts with his old gang buddies. But end friendships simply because someone isn't a Christian and you now are? That's ridiculous.

 

[tim-from-pa]

If my buddy hadn't befriended me 2.5 years ago and been the light, I would likely not have returned to church and God at all. So I, personally, do not see anything wrong with having non-Christian friends ... you just have to be cautious about their influence on you.

There is nothing wrong with having non-Christian friends and to dump a friend just because he/she is not a Christian (when otherwise you get along well) is nothing short of cultish.

As a matter of fact, I'd dump the ones who are trying to tell you who your friends are, then ask them why they have to be on such a big head-trip trying to control others instead of minding their own business?

 

[Grazer]

Thanks everyone.

Can I change the question somewhat from "ending the friendship" to "changing the dynamic" in that I only meet them, especially the female ones, when my fiance or others are with us?

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[evenifigoalone]

If you ask me, not necessarily. I'd guess it might depend somewhat on the situation.