The wierdest feeling ever

[Bev 06]

Hi folks,
Just wanted to share something with you that has happened to me over the past few weeks because I cannot make any sense of it.

I had an operation (small one) a couple of months ago and as a consequence ended up having 4 weeks off work. Our contract has come to an end and we are all being transferred over to County Council at the end of this month so when I returned to work four weeks ago things were all happening. New documents that didn't exist before I went off, catch up files, quarterly reports a month early etc etc. Ontop of catching up with all my Nurseries and pre schools. As a consequence I didn't know if I was on my head or my bottom but managed with a few mistakes to get by.

The manager has been nothing short of very abrupt with me when Ive made a mistake and even when I get things right she is very condemning. She does this to different people at different times and I guess its just my turn. However, I went for a job interview the other day and was asked really basic questions and my mind went blank and I botched things up. It was an internal interview and I think the girls carrying it out were a tad surprised at my conduct. I then went home and one of my girls asked me a simple question and again my mind went blank.

I am now being given the most basic of tasks to carry out at work and I go into panic mode and automatically assume I am going to get it wrong and be in the dog house. I really cannot think straight and my mind is all over the place.

I contacted my manager a couple of days ago to tell her how I was feeling and tell her that her management style wasn't helping me at the moment and only serving to make me feel worse about myself than I already do. She listened and then told me that since I had returned to work I had done nothing worth doing. This of course isn't true because I have a diary full of things that I have done successfully but I found myself believing her.

I am sharing this with you because for me this is a totally new experience and one that I dont wholly understand. Have any of you ever suffered a similar experience and if so what did you make of it. I am so confused.
Bev

 

[heather]

I can't help, but I can pray!

Awesome God,
I lift Bev up to you tonight. Lord, only you know what is going on insider her head and her heart. Place you hand on her and help her mind to feel at ease and to work correctly. Give her the confidence she needs to feel good about the work that she does. Bless the work of her hands. Help her to think clearly and to allow her manager's comments to roll off of her back.
In your heavenly name we pray,
Amen!

 

[VaultZero4Me]

Hi folks,
Just wanted to share something with you that has happened to me over the past few weeks because I cannot make any sense of it.

I had an operation (small one) a couple of months ago and as a consequence ended up having 4 weeks off work. Our contract has come to an end and we are all being transferred over to County Council at the end of this month so when I returned to work four weeks ago things were all happening. New documents that didn't exist before I went off, catch up files, quarterly reports a month early etc etc. Ontop of catching up with all my Nurseries and pre schools. As a consequence I didn't know if I was on my head or my bottom but managed with a few mistakes to get by.

The manager has been nothing short of very abrupt with me when Ive made a mistake and even when I get things right she is very condemning. She does this to different people at different times and I guess its just my turn. However, I went for a job interview the other day and was asked really basic questions and my mind went blank and I botched things up. It was an internal interview and I think the girls carrying it out were a tad surprised at my.......

This is an a classic example of very poor management skills, and unfortunately too common in the workplace.

How a manager ever rationalizes saying something to the effect you haven't done anything worth doing is beyond me. Yet, I have witnessed this time and time again. A managers job is to praise you in what you do well, and guide you on how to improve the areas you need to work on.

They are supposed to be specific and certainly not to make general insults to their employees. This is the kind of behavior that causes companies to lose millions in lawsuits and constant turnover. If you have an established outlet designed to help watchdog managers, I suggest using that. Any company worth working for wouldn't tolerate it.

If that is how you manager behaves, she has the management skills of a teenage cashier manager at your local McDonalds, and needs to go get training, or find another career.

Maybe you could talk to your doctor about your memory problems. If you are on any postop medication, it could be related to that. I would recommend trying to write down specific events in when this occurs and keep some sort of notes of how you feel and what happened.

When you talk to a doctor about things happening to you that he cannot measure with a blood pressure meter or thermometer, it is a very good practice to be able to be specific and overload them with information.

It is also all too common for doctors, especially family doctors, to not give you the full thought that they need to because they are overloaded with patients. A patient who has all of their ducks in a row is typically going to get the doctors full attention and consideration.

 

[Carol Lowery]

Wow Vault, that's what I was thinking postop/medication too. That happen to me for a while after surgery, memory games helped regain mine, then I suffer a severe heat stroke about 3 months back, blistered the crown of my head with about 50-60 blisters like a beanie cap. It has really effected my memory, seems to be short term memory. So back to the memory games, brain teasers, and natural herb vitamins from the health store......try the health store, they got some good products to help regain your memory....check em out!!!

But personally your manager needs to take some management courses/people skill courses, she's a henderance to the company, and personally every job I had in my life I've been in management. I would never tolerate one of my employees to use intimidation tactics to discourage or suppress anothers inspiration to contribute to the work place, especailly when it effects the others from functioning properly in their working skills that I'm aware of them being capable of doing. Tactic such as this being used, is an offset/reflection of that persons inadequacies within themselves which can farther effect the people around them to where they'll fall into the same realm of that person dishing it out....except the person recieving it will be obvious due to that manager making them obvious to everyone else.....which will effect the entire work place and the employees under that manager. It's like a cancer spreading. If there's a manager over her, I would go through the chain of command, and speak my concerns of how it's effecting you as you are recovering from postop/medication/anesthesia of having surgery. And all that it manages to do from her tactics is set you back in recovering completely. This is normal for some people after surgery, sometimes minor surgery with the anesthesia/medication can do this to ones memory, time and encouragement helps regain your self esteme. Minor surgery with anesthesia/medication can do this as well as major surgery. It kind of throws the body/mind into shock without us of being aware of it until we go back to our daily work routine, and then this is when it shows up. Heck having anesthesia/medication to have wisdom teeth pulled can do it to you. Not everyone has the same symptoms from anesthesia/medication, if that be the case it sure would be a whole lot easier for the doctors, and us. Carry a note pad until you completely recover. And I would have a letter from my doctor stating this, that's it's short term from the effects of anesthesia/surgery/medication and I would have it put on file at the work place, and if it continued after that, I would report them to human resources with proof of the doctors letter on file. I would simply say I would like to have some consideration from of the effects of anesthesia has cause you, and you don't need someone rattling your nerves over it....that it suppresses your work skills you know you're capable of. But know this, what goes around comes around and I wouldn't want to be in her shoes when God puts yours on them.

Kudos HIm,
Carol <><