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I'm quit sure my future wife will want a huge wedding, with diamonds (or at least one) on her finger, and a really expensive wedding dress.....I will be rolling my eyes BUT I will one day do this because I will want her to feel loved and know that she's worth it.
Right, it gets justified as license free 'marriage'. More of man's absured justification for not following God's will. His will is that you bind yourself legally to your spouse. Which, as jasonc is pointing out means being legally responsible for their well being. Without a marriage license you don't have to do that part of God's will for marriage.
personally its a conundrum for the libertarian in me. the government must protect the spouse and set limits and encourage good marriages, it has to for the sack of society and order. yet I also know that we can really go south with that.
Maybe I missed it if they did. Quote where someone said that. (Not just an assumption of what they "mean", that's not fair to the poster unless they verify that's what they meant.)
Do you care what GOD says about it? He doesn't spell out the ceremony. He says you have to legally obligate yourself to your wife. That's what the wedding license does.I'm quit sure my future wife will want a huge wedding, with diamonds (or at least one) on her finger, and a really expensive wedding dress.....I will be rolling my eyes BUT I will one day do this because I will want her to feel loved and know that she's worth it.
I just don't think it's necessary to be married and I really don't care of the state says it's legal or not.
yup can walk away. look I can divorce my wife right NOW.she and I agree to do it to get MORE tanf money from the state. she would receive more money for health care. more money as I know nor her would owe taxes. so I guess I should divorce per se and not actually leave? would god approve?
Ok, then. So if God told us it's evil, we shouldn't do it. I agree completely.
I actually JUST broke up with my girlfriend last weekend because she wanted intimacy in that way, she basically gave me an ultimatum and so I seeked out wise council - from this site - and broke up with her.
Read on....
I just don't think it's necessary to be married and I really don't care of the state says it's legal or not.
remember she was bought.
It's evil to not be legally bound to the one you're sleeping with. If you're not legally bound to the one you're sleeping with, you are a fornicator. A marriage license just happens to be how you get legally bound to your spouse.
And this is just the point I'm making. Lip service is worthless. Marriage is a tangible, legal obligation and responsibility to the other person.
Yeah, except that post was made after I asked the question of you. And I have a feeling from reading Jesse's other posts that this may be a typo, but I'll let him verify or deny that.
If you're talking about sex outside of a commitment to God, then that is not at all what I mean or said. I even posted exactly what I did when faced with it.
ov vey, you could have negotiated that one. a woman even in this age wants a big extravagant wedding. my wife still wants to say our vows rather then some ad hoc. im going to war honey and lets get married and have a judge overrule the legal three day wait. she wants to do that for the reasons as they are raised to be that way. its their nature. im not for wasting bucks, she wouldn't do that but diamonds don't have to be billions to get them in a gold ring. if you love a girl and its really great its not much to do.
What should I verify?
No one has said that it doesn't come with responsibility or accountability. Living according to God's laws would be the goal.
yes, it was . now its just words.
If you two did cave in, to the rest of us we wouldn't know if you two were married or living in fornication. Thus the 'appearance of evil' issue God says to avoid.