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Dave Slayer
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Should couples live together before marriage? Is it Biblical?
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Twisted Hawk
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Here's one approach to the question.
http://www.gotquestions.org/live-together.html
However, I think this site is a tad bit off the wall with this approach. Using their logic, we shouldn't be using the internet, as there is most likely a porn site for every site ever made. Also, their bible support of Avoid every kind of evil. 1 Theessalonians 5:22 starts on verse 12, and talks more about encouraging other christians for their work and giving thanks for anything that comes our way.
Your call on this one. Got Questions is a good site with honest answers, but they do have a lot of one lined scripture in their answers, so your call on this one.
http://www.gotquestions.org/live-together.html
However, I think this site is a tad bit off the wall with this approach. Using their logic, we shouldn't be using the internet, as there is most likely a porn site for every site ever made. Also, their bible support of Avoid every kind of evil. 1 Theessalonians 5:22 starts on verse 12, and talks more about encouraging other christians for their work and giving thanks for anything that comes our way.
Your call on this one. Got Questions is a good site with honest answers, but they do have a lot of one lined scripture in their answers, so your call on this one.
jasoncran said:
There are many things that allegedly stack up the odds of a marriage failing besides living with one another before the actual tying of the knot. So far...my husband and I are proving those you mentioned above wrong...but time alone reveals, and God alone knows all.
My husband and I lived together for a short time before we were married. But finding we felt the decision not to be a just one, we moved back in with our parents. Each of us remaining so until we took our vows.
jasoncran
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do the christian that likes inhaling anthrax then wondering why you would die, a little strong, but if you know that you are not strong in that area why place yourself there. even if you are no one is above the wiles of the devil. he can overpower us if we arent carfeul, avoiding tempation isnt weak just wise.Reido said:
i do bjj should i pick a fight on the street to see how good i am, with somebody that weighs twice a much as i do?
jasoncran said:
While I agree that it may not necessarily be the wisest of decisions to move in together if you want to resist temptation, I do not think that it is not biblical, as long as the temptation is still resisted while living together.
I do think, however, that it's probably best for a Christian not to put oneself in that situation.
Nick
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Reido said:
I agree, Reido. While I don't believe it is wrong in itself....what it can lead to and the temptation it cant lead to can be dangerious, and doing this can casue you to fall into sin..not necessarily but quite likely. So I agree that it's probably not wrong, but it's not wise either.Reido said:
I believe the fact that fornication (intercourse between two unmarried people) and adultery (intercourse with someone outside of your marriage) are strictly condemned in many places in the scriptures makes cohabitation wrong. I understand the argument that just because two people live together does not mean they have intercourse, but as already stated, the probability sky rockets by being in the living space.
So, why increase the risk of committing such a major sin? There's no reason to do so. Why would any God-fearing individual knowingly place themselves in a situation where they are more likely to be tempted and commit sins? We don't need to be commanded in all things, and I believe this is one specific area where the scriptures do not explicitly command, "Thou shalt not live in cohabitation", but there's no need to! It's a no brainer, avoid the appearance of evil and sin, stay safe and close to your Savior.
So, why increase the risk of committing such a major sin? There's no reason to do so. Why would any God-fearing individual knowingly place themselves in a situation where they are more likely to be tempted and commit sins? We don't need to be commanded in all things, and I believe this is one specific area where the scriptures do not explicitly command, "Thou shalt not live in cohabitation", but there's no need to! It's a no brainer, avoid the appearance of evil and sin, stay safe and close to your Savior.
The Bible tells us to avoid the appearance of evil too, and living together while being unmarried can give many on the outside the wrong idea. Even if it is platonic, others do not know that. It does not speak well for the Christian faith if the world sees us doing the same thing they do.
2 Thess. 5:22 "Abstain from every form of evil." (NKJV)
2 Thess. 5:22 "Abstain from every form of evil." (NKJV)
Twisted Hawk
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ruby917 said:
Better stay off the highway then! Speeding is a sin, and the temptation is high!
Well, yeah. Speeding is breaking the law. We live in a fallen world, and we are going to see sin all around us. We will even be guilty of it sometimes. We need to be in the world, not of it, correct? Yes, if you are flying down the highway, and cut someone off, and on the back of your car is a NOTW sticker, that is not a good witness. The driver behind you may think "and they are a Christian? :o What a...(fill in the blank here)" I think that proves my point of living with someone you are not married to.
We should be differenciated (sp?) from the world in our conduct, words and actions.
We should be differenciated (sp?) from the world in our conduct, words and actions.
Twisted Hawk
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ruby917 said:
I'm a bit confused on your subject. If you say what I can think your saying, then we should live as couples before marriage, and not have any sex. That would be the greatest witness, that we can do some of the things the world does without sinning. It can show that we can resist even the greatest of temptations.
Twisted Hawk
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Nick_29 said:
Well said. Christian couples, if you are able to do this, live together without having sex, then you will have a GREAT influence on the world. There is absolutely nothing wrong with living together. If you don't think you can avoid the temptation though, stay away from it.
My point is that the idea of not doing something just because temptation exists is not that great of a point. Some people deal with temptation better than others. If you don't want to live together as a couple, I completely understand and respect that. Just don't be legalistic about it.
Blazin Bones
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Twisted Hawk said:
Well said. Christian couples, if you are able to do this, live together without having sex, then you will have a GREAT influence on the world. There is absolutely nothing wrong with living together. If you don't think you can avoid the temptation though, stay away from it.
My point is that the idea of not doing something just because temptation exists is not that great of a point. Some people deal with temptation better than others. If you don't want to live together as a couple, I completely understand and respect that. Just don't be legalistic about it.[/quote:3sdkabr0]
The Bible does NOT say that we can be tolerant of temptation. Christ himself prayed that we would not be lead into temptation. In 1 Corinthians, Paul reminds us that we ourselves are the one who bring us into temptation and that God will provide the way out. If this is the case, that Christ, our Lord himself, would pray that we would not face temptation, then why do we his people think it is okay to live in it? This is not legalism, it is practical application of our Lord's teachings.
Caroline H
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Sex or no sex, what right do you have to sleep in the same bed with someone if you are not married? Or even just to live together? Marriage is the only condition that gives anyone the freedom to do that, otherwise you are assuming something that doesn't belong to you. Not only that, but how are you going to prove to anyone that you aren't having sex? Who is going to believe you? Having the appearance of evil is just as bad as committing it, and there is NO good witness that can come about from you living with someone who is not your spouse. That is what will lead others to believe it is ok... 